Why Men & Boys Are Struggling and No One Cares – Dr Warren Farrell
Warren Farrell is a political scientist, activist, and author of seven books on men’s and women’s issues including his latest title “The Boy Crisis”
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All the way through the society that many of us have endured Farrell has been an analyst. For anyone who wants some social self-deconstruction, I don’t dispute that value or the value of many of his observations.
The one thing I still strongly disagree with is his “disposable male theory” and he has shifted his thinking slightly over the decades from the disposable male to the willingly disposable male.
NOW, this in my mind is still the biggest part of his learned feminist diatribe that he has never recovered from.
Over the centuries men have been disposed of and used both in progress and defence in peace and war by both men and women in power.
Historically the risks of childbirth were equally a willingness of self-disposibility if you want to look at it that way – the risks of survival, yes.
I don’t think I’m any different to other men when I say, that we don’t go around living a constructive life based of some foundation of willing disposablility.
Men look at how to be constructive contributors, not that all are capable of that without some encouragement but these have been the processes in our country that are constantly undermined in education, in sports, and socially in institutions like boy scouts – but solo mothers do follow the advice and go looking for that.
“Men exist for the sole purpose of protecting women” is another myth that Farrell peddles for the purposes of his own income and possibly dinner party invitations – they are no more entitled to their human rights than men – and believing this is the feminist fuel that supports the likes of Clinton saying ” A society should be judged on how well it treats its women and children, but wait we should look at what is happening to boys, too.
There are some clearly ludicrous contradictions like fathers roughhouse to teach risk but only boys learn willing disposability?
It’s contradictory messages like this that allow any reasonable advocate of a decent society to be shot in the back or between the eyes by feminist politicians depending on whether they are crusaders or cowards.
How about the myth of female inferiority?
Then we have would-be Conservative wallies like Simon Bridges standing up in Parliament saying, “We agree with everything you say, except for this one thing.” and then wonder why the National Party is falling apart and you wonder why someone wrote ‘The man song’.
Does any of this interrupt the process of feminisation – no of course it doesn’t because it’s analysis, not understanding, or alternatives or actions.
The political insecurity of power will fire upon anything that doesn’t exist in its powerplay, and in the social climate that has existed for the past 20 years in particular, any men behaving like a man and representing a threat to the feminist political bias have been attacked with ruthless consistency, not only in politics but in their homes and relationships, as Triasic put it, “For no more than reasonable protests.”
That encourages not only the options but the use of them. So men do end up shouldering the emergency, taking the blame or being driven into failure – that is disposibility through power not willing disposibility.
That is the war on men, why we are the casualties of peace and where the veterans are invisible because the war, or this war has not been understood.
Comment by Downunder — Wed 29th September 2021 @ 11:16 am
Maybe Einstein was right.
No problem is solved
by the same level of consciousness
that created it
Comment by Evan Myers — Wed 29th September 2021 @ 12:00 pm
The Man Song
https://youtu.be/t7Y0I91rubg
Comment by Downunder — Wed 29th September 2021 @ 12:24 pm
In a recent affidavit defending spousal maintenance, I expressed the same sentiments around the sacrifices I made providing for my family. I forfeited so much time and missed many special events in order to fulfil the role of the primary provider. I was proud my family did not go without. But to have that thrown back in my face by the mother saying she gave up her career to raise the children is simply wicked. There is no price that could be put on the moments I missed. If you have half a brain you can always reboot your career or replace money. I will never be able to replace the time I missed with my children.
The feminist diatribe is supported by so many men now days that its difficult to determine if these men are woke or simply scared.
Comment by ErasingDad — Wed 29th September 2021 @ 9:31 pm
I met Farrell when he came to New Zealand. After listening to him speak I went up to him and made what I thought was a rather consistent comment about his speech.
I don’t remember what I said but I do remember that his eyes fired up like he was about to strangle me.
I don’t think anyone should assume he’s the perfect answer.
Comment by Downunder — Wed 29th September 2021 @ 10:28 pm