The Family Court – Fraud and Suicide – Where to find your Dad.
The Wikipedia page says the definition of the term “Fraud” in law is intentional deception to secure unfair or unlawful gain, or to deprive a victim of a legal right.
Fraud can violate civil law (e.g., a fraud victim may sue the fraud perpetrator to avoid the fraud or recover monetary compensation) or criminal law (e.g., a fraud perpetrator may be prosecuted and imprisoned by governmental authorities), or it may cause no loss of money, property, or legal right but still be an element of another civil or criminal wrong.
The purpose of fraud may be monetary gain or other benefits.
In family court, the intentional deception to secure unfair or unlawful gain is carried out by pretending to love and care for someone when you don’t, the fraudster just wants the victims belongings and home.
If a female who intends to commit fraud lives in the victim’s home for 3 years or even just 1 and a bit years if there is a baby, can provoke the male victim to become angry, record it, then the male victim can lose the entire house, near all his belongings, his beloved children for near on 2 decades while she uses them.
The male victim is sent on a violence course, can be imprisoned if he makes contact with the fraudster or his children. At this point the female can move in her lover or new boyfriend.
The victim has to hand over his keys and not see his children. Sometimes for many years. He has to effectively start again while still paying for the outgoings on his property and children.
The female perpetrator is considered the victim and the male victim is considered the perpetrator.
He is unable to borrow to buy another home because he has to pay IRD outgoings to keep the female in his home. He will not be able to afford a lawyer and will probably go on legal aid.
Would that make the male victim to consider ending his own life? Yes – and the numbers are high. NZ Judges have identified many specific cases. IRD record how many dads die too. If the male commits suicide, the female is awarded everything.
That, in a nutshell, is the purpose of the Family Court. It does it with impunity, there are no pair reviews and there are no checks and balances. It was recently reported 7000 family court cases were before the NZ family court. That number is just the current and not the hundreds of thousands that have passed through. So you can see the situation is quite harmful to dads and children.
There are some violent males out there for sure. But nowhere near the number of wicked and deceitful women whos only intention is taking what they didn’t save and pay for.
It is important to understand if you are male, if you have assets or a good income you are the perfect target of a fraudster. She may be genuine from the beginning, however if she falls out of love with you, in love with another man, she can still provoke the male into raising his voice. That is called violence and therefore allow the fraudster to claim the family home, his children.
Suicide is considered a mental health problem. The male victim is unwell and should be held in hospital for observation and treatment. There are locks on the doors and bars on the windows. It is a prison with a medical person called a phycologist. A person who specialises in the study of mind and behaviour and the treatment of mental, emotional, and behavioural disorders.
Heres the thing. Anyone who works in family law knows full well the process, the path to suicide is manufactured by Governments to take a dads children and belongings. It’s a really big step to commit suicide. You see only an abused person who is placed in a position of hopelessness with little or no chance in the family court, a future of poverty, below the breadline, unable to create what he once had commits suicide.
The children are victims too. Some end up committing suicide.
You ask, how can you avoid this? Is there a way to avoid a female fraudsters? Yes, but is still carries some risk and the chance of getting a partner of worth is low. i.e. if you rent you are quite unattractive to fraudsters. There is also a chance the fraudster could claim normal intercourse as rape and have you tied up in expensive criminal court for a couple of years or worse, in prison for a decade.
The method is to never allow a potential fraudster in a property you own. Trusts are ineffective today. Rent out your home and rent a home yourself. Have that home in a managed trust company and have them employ property managers. It is important you never mix money with the managed trust. That is called diverting family income. The rent will have to cover periods where the property is empty or expensive maintenance like a repaint. This is not a failsafe.
If you are a grown child, your dad committed suicide it was probably because of what your mother did to secure the property for herself. How she restricted or stopped your dad from seeing you or being part of your life. What the Government allowed her to do. What can you do about it? Nothing really. Your mother will be in a position to say whatever she wants about your deceased dad.
You could try and find out more from your dads parents or his brothers and sisters, his place of work. You may have cousins your own age out there too. Just know, you are not alone. There are relatives who know you exist. You can call your dads family. I am quite sure they will welcome you.
All you have to know is your dad loved you but couldn’t cope with the shit melted out to him from your mother, the state, IRD and family court he was entrapped in.
If your dad is still alive, you should try and reach out to him. He will know you were alienated from him and will likely rejoice in your homecoming. But do not expect too much from him. He maybe a shadow of himself, less confident and not well off, still paying down debt and unable to keep his health up. If your dad says no, it possibly could be he may not be able to cope. Maybe he is worried about the nasty things your mother is likely to have said to you about him. Your dad, knowing how he was misled and deceived, may think you were sent to find him by your mother. Your dad may not want to engage with you because he doesn’t know your intentions, was set up in the past, knows he can still go to prison if you mentioned seeing you to his mother.
You may need a lawyer to help discharge the protection order. Unsure, but I think you can do this yourself by going to the court and filling in forms. You will need ID. I would do this first without telling your mother.
Try writing him a letter, or wait and try in a year. Buy him a gift, something small like a sunflower plant. Also, please remember you will have relations on his side. Maybe grandparents, aunts and uncles and or a step-brother or sister. Approaching them first could be a good first step.
Look up his lawyer he used, your lawyer who is called “lawyer for child.” You can search electoral roles. They are stored in the National Library or in other locations around NZ. You could try a real estate agent. They have access to databases to find people and property. Your dad may have changed his name to protect himself. Unsure Internal affairs may help. Reaching out to his parents, family may find him.
If your dad has died, i’m sorry about that. But his family will still be there for you.
It’s a crap situation for children but that is what your mother wanted, easily got it over the line with the full endorsement from the Government not only in NZ but around the western world.
Any questions, put them here. Other dads may be able to help.