2 Sorry Letters
Before he took his life a man wrote 2 letters to his beloved children the family court said he could no longer be part of their lives.
I hope that one day you’ll be able to understand.
Take care of your sister.
I’ll always love you.
I’m so sorry.
You’ll learn to live without me
like I had to live without you.
Please forgive me.
In 2014 posted on YouTube this above video and script…. Each year over one million Australian children have little to no contact with their fathers due to short comings of the current system and the abuses it allows to occur. Key stakeholders and bureaucrats continue to fail those they claim publicly to protect, while families suffer with alienation, financial hardships and death.
All of which is forced on them by a system that favours one parent’s custody over shared parenting outcomes. Our society as a whole suffers generational abuse in the name of business opportunities and profits that favour a select few. It’s time to stand together and take back our lives and families by replacing this system of shame and death along with those that allow it to operate.
Dear Prime Minister Chris Hipkins,
Do you want to know why they call themselves 21 fathers?
Every week 21 Australian fathers commit suicide as a result of child access issues, child support financial pressure and unfair family court rulings following separation.
We don’t have the NZ suicide statistics. They are hidden from the public. Why does the NZ government hide those statistics?
Or course it’s suppressed, they banned publications.
Men’s suicide rates, were rapidly rising.
The new court, and new child support laws.
The Domestic Violence act, was taking effect.
Suicide rates vs the natural suicide rate, was a disaster politically.
Labour banned talking about suicide, to hide the problem.
All that gets published, says nothing relevant.
Any graphs I find, don’t start until 2000.
With the per person rate, look at 1970 to 2000.
Nothing changed for women, but men got slaughtered.
National just as complicit, not fighting censorship.
The thing about that, even today there deaths are suppressed.
Where is the site to go to, to read a persons suicide note.
When they lay blame or cause, can we then examine the facts.
The public remains in fantasy land, ignoring reality.
Safety this, safety that.
Meetings and inspections, classes and questions.
The demand the motive, is taking responsibility.
The company overcompensating, spending more than loses.
It invests heavily, in health and safety.
Every little thing, now needs approval.
A bureaucratic monster, can’t be stoped.
Now divide society and it’s effort on safety, by deaths in accidents.
Divide societies effort on suicide, by deaths in suicides.
One is examined to the extreme, one completely ignored.
In some ways going to court, is a bad outcome.
First was forcing myself, to actually protest.
Waiting for my arrest, was six months of anxiety.
Keeping myself together, with compulsory psychiatric exams.
The police interview, and the psychology of being at court.
Fate intervened with COVID, and my court date was canceled.
Now more than a year later, I have to do it all again.
It resolves a problem, of me doing real world things.
Avoiding the psychology, of making myself do something else.
Post like this remind me, that I cannot worry about the outcome.
Countless times, I to could have written a letter.
I didn’t give in, to give in now.
Well the warrant is still active, but I do have a court date.
So on Tuesday in Huntly, I say hello to the legal system.
It’s unavoidable I’m in trouble, inherently my arguments are in contempt.
I must prepare a list, so I’m not reliant on memory alone.
I stood at the edge of the road, crying as it rained.
My relationship ending, my escaping from the house.
My memory already scared, with a look from my child.
In days my son was gone, my fate sealed.
In some ways I was lucky, not being in depression at the time.
The two things combined, could have had different outcomes.
All my fears from childhood, were coming true.
Just prey, for females to get what they want.
How could I be so foolish, to not see pregnancy without consent.
How did I give in, when she demanded we marry.
How did I not leave, when she was violent.
The young me warned me, yet it happened anyway.
I read of teenage fathers, there appalling outcomes.
Secretly the courts, have hundreds of letters.
Just prey, for the sexual predator.
And a legal system, protecting the offender.
COVID has come to my home, one after the other sick.
My niece sleeping over, testing positive today.
Terrible timing, they won’t accept me not going to court.
My warrant is over a year old, it has to end.
If I’m sick and can’t turn up, do I get wanted posters.
I can do nothing about fate, if it intervenes I am helpless.
I am actually grateful I’m in NZ, political prisoners don’t get killed.
The struggle is real. I think a lot of us, including myself have contemplated ending it during the fight. And the fight doesn’t end even if you achieve 50/50 shared parenting. You still pay child support. You still pay spousal maintenance. You still don’t have access to the family home or relationship property. The other parent makes it difficult for you in every way possible (missing clothes, delayed responses, refusal to pay insurances on family home etc) – literally anything to cause you stress, to cause you to give up.
And the court looks on smiling.
@6 It’s not about the evidence. It’s about the only outcome the government needs to achieve. It does not matter what evidence any man brings to the table, they will ignore it by not responding. In much the same way the Government totally ignores vaccine injuries, sudden death syndrome of our fit and healthy. Recent history shows us when that problem got too big, send in the police to give them the bash.
When I say needs to achieve, just imagine how much the tax take would fall for this make-believe you own half a house just because you lived there for a very short period. Just imagine the housing cost if you didn’t provide your home and everything in it for free?
Do everything in your power to mitigate the potential for false accusation. Audio record consent. Video record her behaviour afterwards.
Sounds unnatural and harsh. Its the complete opposite of who men and the millions of loving fathers really are. But nowhere near as harsh as what the courts, loosing your entire belongings, your future income, going through destructive supervised contact, IRD, the police, lawyers costs, the process can do to your own welfare and health.
It’s about the money, that’s what thieves are about.
Take paternity fraud as an example, and some assumptions.
The paternity fraud rate is 10%, and a child costs $250,000.
So there is 6,000 newborn babies, there documents made fraud.
Multiplication by the cost, gives $1,500,000,000.
Our largest financial crime, also a common crime involving sex.
That’s per year, the theft is tens of billions.
Is it not, the worlds largest financial crime.
I think I’m wrong, non consensual conception is larger.
Technically, that’s up to $7.5 billion.
Many of those are genuinely unplanned, so don’t count.
Many are in marriage, and that’s consent to me.
But many, are due to dishonesty even crimes.
The teenage girl, desperate to be a mother.
As downunder put it, wanting a real life doll.
With nobody consenting, how do they get pregnant.
It’s a party, and the boys are having fun.
The girl waits, her chance is soon to come.
The target male, is making a serious mistake.
Slowly the drinking works, time arrives.
She makes her move, and steals the male away.
To drunk to consent, he has no chance.
The baby on the way, his life already ruined.
There was no relationship, his rights none.
He gets angry at events, and makes a mistake.
The baby, and the court cases arrive.
With no chance at all, all hope is lost.
Child support for the schoolboy, and despair.
First, the crown rapes them.
Second, they remove parental rights.
Third, they financially ruin them.
Fourth, they kill them.
They are just little boys, ffs.
A few, will write letters.
They didn’t deserve, to be sorry for anything.
The Clark government, banned talk on suicide.
Child support and the DV act, was taking its toll.
They new then, what causes male suicide.
Why is there no information, on suicide.
We get a very sanitary, publication of data.
Where they live and race, and little else.
“Every week 21 Australian fathers commit suicide as a result of child access issues, child support financial pressure and unfair family court rulings following separation.”
That works out, at four a week for NZ or 200 per year.
So in my mind, there is unattributed suicide.
We can expect suicide to happen, at a natural rate.
If there is extra suicides, then what is the cause.
Coincidentally I get the same figure, my figure is also 200.
Try then find the figures, for cause of male suicide.
No suicide figures, for child support.
No suicide figures, for the family court.
No suicide figures, for police policy and actions.
None for protection orders, none for police safety orders.
None for false accusations, none for male DV victims.
Not a word written of female sex crimes, even existing.
Not a word on teenage fathers, the crowns dirty secret.
Nothing for everything, to do with cause.
So that’s a 4/7 chance per day, the crown murders a man in NZ.
Murder legally, is within one year after you harm them.
The crown can plead innocent, to the murders that take longer.
I say nothing to anyone, I am silent in life.
By experience, my thinking is secret.
The subjects to hard, or to confronting.
I don’t say a word, to my partner.
I say nothing to friends, nothing to workmates.
When I do say anything my partner, she’s defensive.
So I do worry, about speaking freely.
That in court, I must make myself speak.
My life of training to be silent, I must do the opposite.
Those that suicide, are silent apart from letters.
They write it, knowing the end is coming.
In life nobody listened, but in death they speak freely.
If only they could find a place, safe from judgement.
I am trapped, there is no escape for me.
I must speak, just as I must write.