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Fathers are treated as so unimportant that whoever wrote and authorized this article didn’t see any need to explain why the father(s) of these children were not caring for them when the mother was a meth addict and had already been found to neglect them. In fact, the article didn’t mention father at all. Perhaps the children were from virgin births.
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It never fails to amaze me how these so called professions knew what was going on and did nothing. To me personally, your just as guilty.
Those poor kids deserved a life which was taken away and yes was very avoidable.
Comment by 2c worth — Sat 18th March 2023 @ 8:23 am
Women who fail parenting, don’t name the father.
They know the father, and use access for money.
It’s the only method, of guaranteed custody.
The father, automatically loses all rights.
No legal process is needed, to ban fathers in NZ.
The court then not examining, the females competency.
Putin has just found out, taking children is a crime.
It is government policy in NZ, to ban fathers automatically.
Nothing happens, with lies on birth certificates.
Both men who are fathers, even those who are not.
It is the crown then, who abuses the newborn.
It is the enabler, no different than the doing act itself.
It’s no surprise, why statistics are so bad.
The fatherless children, with appalling statistics.
The legal profession, loving it.
They make money, by abusing men’s rights.
The more fatherless a child, the more crimes boys then commit.
Intentional making offenders, for there own financial gain.
They hardly prosecute women, so they can make money from boys.
Comment by DJ Ward — Sat 18th March 2023 @ 1:06 pm
This was an issue 25-20 years ago.
The expectation is that fathers will simply provide regardless.
Jim Bagnall encountered cases like this, however assisting fathers was virtually an impossible task.
If a father did take action on behalf of a child a mother could generally have a protection order and a order/warrant within 24 hours.
Comment by Downunder — Sat 18th March 2023 @ 3:24 pm
I heard today, of a male child not doing well.
Behind in schooling, and needing a psychologist.
From a broken home early, and with only a part time dad.
The mother is good, but also a little bit dysfunctional.
What do we blame, for the child’s results.
I can’t blame the mother, as she is trying to be good.
Maybe we can blame the male, choosing work over parenting.
Maybe it’s culture, that created the outcome.
Society, stereotypes outcomes.
It’s output, is versions of fatherless children.
The fathers made to provide, not parent.
Yet the child doesn’t need money, it needs relationships.
What happens then, when the mothers not good.
From the start, there is no father.
Having a part time dad, would still help protect the child.
Not to its to late does society notice, the child now damaged.
Deciding not to have a father, is both legal and culture.
Comment by DJ Ward — Sat 18th March 2023 @ 10:36 pm
Humans are interesting creatures, in the animal kingdom.
Because our closest relatives, are not paternal.
The fathers, have no role in child rearing.
Child raised by creatures, is mostly only maternal.
Some birds do, and the extreme the seahorse.
So it’s no surprise, that mothers are seen as fit and able.
It’s programmed, into how our minds think.
Fathers are new, and is what made humans.
The child learning more, from two parents.
But fathers remain, behind in evolution.
Our behaviour changed, but genetics didn’t.
Our brains not seeing, fathers as the same as mothers.
Just as fit and able, and just as important.
Maybe the truth, is in the middle.
We are maternal, and partly paternal.
Comment by DJ Ward — Sun 26th March 2023 @ 7:49 pm
It is policy of government, to ban fathers.
It is rare, for a mother to get banned.
So secret is banning fathers, there is no statistics.
We don’t know, how many paternity frauds happen.
We don’t know, how many not naming a father happens.
We don’t know, how many protection orders ban fathers.
We don’t know, how many the courts or police somehow ban.
We are left guessing, the true scale of the problem.
While mothers are automatically parents, men are not.
What is the figure guessing, the crown bans one in six fathers.
It does not a single thing, to change the policy.
To the crown, banning many fathers is a normal day.
Lost generation after generation, of alienated children and fathers.
One identifiable group called women, is treated well.
One identifiable group called men, are treated badly.
Can the crown justify, it’s policy of discrimination.
It must be bad, the offender tries to hide the evidence.
If you look closer, it’s a Crime Against Humanity argument.
Comment by DJ Ward — Fri 14th July 2023 @ 1:21 pm
Court today became a delay, so I must be patient.
I have witnessed first hand, women judging a mother.
In there minds, they wouldn’t let her be a mother.
But there are bad mothers, just as there’s bad fathers.
Many children are in homes, that are dysfunctional.
Drug addiction or mental illness, are real things.
It becomes an argument, about the crowns power over us.
Because mothers do get judged, and lose children.
What are these standards, that women must obey legally.
If magically you could judge every mother, to the crowns rules.
You can’t do it, due to the outcome.
Law judging petty things, becomes judging everyone.
So for women, losing the kids is for good reasons.
How many mothers, get custody taken away using law.
Why are they failing, can we attribute a cause.
How can a mother, lose custody in a case.
Have a new baby, then get custody automatically.
Yes there is baby uplifts, but many more are not.
I think men get judged slightly different, the rules different.
Is a man losing custody, as bad as the mother losing custody.
One you know the parent is bad, one could be for any reason.
Imagine the outrage, for men who have lost custody.
Yet they as well, go on to have more children.
Panic the bad men, are living with children.
Comment by DJ Ward — Wed 19th July 2023 @ 1:04 pm
As an observation, I found an interesting argument.
It’s a comment in the post, and has a few meanings.
“Perhaps the children were from virgin births”
That is said, because it’s impossible.
You can’t have a baby, if you don’t have sex.
Except there are explanations, from basic ones to the extreme.
Mary and a boy, were fooling around.
There was no penetration, sperm contaminated the scene.
Somehow a miracle happens, the sperm made a virgin birth.
More extreme, is the egg was made with all its DNA.
Or accidentally joined somehow, with another egg.
That results only in females, clones of the mothers.
At the extreme, would be an absorbed twin.
The female is the person, but hidden away is a boy.
The female is making eggs, and the sperm is technically incest.
They are physical things, maybe all impossible miracles.
Far more bizarre, is the behaviour of humans.
You can pretend virginity, just don’t name the father.
Comment by DJ Ward — Fri 21st July 2023 @ 8:48 pm