With the economic situation quietening down, many people may be finding that old arrangements need to be renegotiated.

This pressure will probably rise as time goes by. Less free cash, often swings against more free time. Stiff if the other party wants cash more than help based on time!

With incomes dropping a bit and the risk of losing a job completely, rearing its ugly head, many workers may notice that the beneficiaries find these risks hard to comprehend (especially the “judges”).

Difficult negotiations usually take longer, therefore if you don’t start early, perhaps you risk screwing yourself?

Pride can get in the way, yes your own pride. If you are in a tight corner, maybe you cannot afford to be too proud? I suggest, ditch the pride and concentrate on security.

I’m not too proud and I admit my problems – well the more socially acceptable ones anyway. This way, I do get more help with them. With help, I can do more and more….

The first attempt at negotiation usually fails, thus start early and don’t expect first up success. It often takes a while for the other party to appreciate the best way to take your offer. (Just the same as it takes you a while to appreciate their offers too.)

Remember the IRD Review? If the other parent is saying they will not renegotiate, then ask them to justify their position by showing a budget!! It should work both ways!!??

Common sense may force some economies, such as getting children to use busses, instead of one parent driving them both ways. Dropping kids off is very expensive, compared to public transport. As the traffic slows down, these costs only rise further. Besides, the kids are older now. Why not cut them in on part of the saving? Pushbikes are actually good for health, if you can avoid the crushing effects of car wheels.

With a bit more spare time, what will you do with it? Take up running, study bomb making or painting or protesting?

Cheers, MurrayBacon the slow talking axe-murderer.

All non-custodial parents who are paying IRD [Spousal and] Child Support should think through whether they should submit a new Estimate of Income, before the 31st March.

If you haven’t submitted an Estimate and your income has reduced, you might end up paying quite a bit more CS than is set by the formula. This is a bigger risk, if you are self employed.

As it is late in the year, you should visit an IRD office in person, taking two copies with you. Ask the receptionist to date stamp and initial the copy that you take away with you. (This is important to give you an item of evidence, just in case IRD feel that they might have forgotten receiving your Estimate of Income.)

(I am not fully up to date in this area, so if my advice is out of date please correct me quickly!

If you have any concerns, discuss these issues through with someone knowledgeable, but don’t delay.

Cheers, MurrayBacon.

Teenage pregnancies soar after sex ed (UK)
Mail Online (UK) 26th February 2009

Pregnancies among girls under the legal age for sex have shot up to the highest level in a decade, new figures showed today. The surge among girls under 16 dealt a fresh and devastating blow to Labour’s hopes of slashing teenage pregnancy by handing out contraceptives and spreading sex education . Despite nearly 300 million pounds spent on the campaign, the number of teenage girls who became pregnant in 2007 went up , not down, according to the latest count…. The figures brought alarming new evidence that the failed attempt to cut teenage pregnancy by distributing contraception rather than discouraging teens from having sex is doing most harm to the very youngest girls. READ MORE
Family First Comment : So who’s surprised at this finding? (Memo to UK gov’t – “Try teaching abstinence and positive decision making”!!!!)

Law review looks at drinking culture
NZ Herald Mar 02, 2009
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Schools call cops 40 times a week
NZ Herald Mar 02, 2009

Police are being called to schools about 40 times every week of the academic year to deal with behaviour teachers say they cannot handle. Figures issued under the Official Information Act and obtained by Family First NZ show officers were called out an average of 1531 times each year from 1998 to deal with violence, drugs or sex offences. Last year, they were called 1658 times. The number of calls over violent offences jumped 27 per cent in the past decade – from 869 to 1064. The union representing more than 48,000 primary and early childhood teachers and staff, said schoolchildren had become more violent in recent years .

…Bob McCoskrie, national director of the Family First lobby group, said it was time for action to protect students and teachers. “We have forgotten about the rights of law-abiding kids to feel safe, to not have disruption in the classroom, not be intimidated and be free of violence and bullying in the workplace .” Mr McCoskrie said he was concerned schools were discouraged from suspending or standing down their students but encouraged to bring in police officers fulltime . MORE
READ full statistics obtained from the police by Family First NZ under the Official Information Act
READ Family First Media Release from last November, “Schools Failing to Tackle Violence”

See also:
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A shocking display of discrimination has occurred over male victims of Domestic Violence receiving assistance at court in Brisbane, Australia.

State funding was given to a group to care for victims of domestic violence but instead the group has given the money back saying “We won’t work with male victims.”

“We are not prepared to compromise the integrity of our service by operating under the onerous and inappropriate conditions being imposed by the department,” Ms Spicer said.

I’d say they have already compromised integrity.

“In fact, our constitution doesn’t allow us to work with male victims,” Ms Gaunt said.

Then change the constitution.
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I have had no contact with my children for one and a half years on account of a super toxic ex. Last month I lodged a parenting order application asking for telephone contact. I have just received a notification from her lawyer opposing the application.

I don’t think they have a snowball’s chance in hell of winning, particularly after I successfully overturned my protection order last year. However I have not been able to find any reported cases involving a request for just telephone contact, they all involve face-to-face contact.

Does anybody know of such a case and what the outcome was?

At a hui for anti-violence providers in Auckland on Feb 16th, Principal Family Court Judge Peter Boshier told the participants that too many offenders were dropping out of anti-violence programmes, possibly partly because of the current “one-size-fits-all” approach.

Boshier asked: “If there is a one-off act of violence, which is limited to and caused by a certain context, should we really be requiring offenders to attend a programme that assumes the violence is a continuous or systematic feature of the respondent’s relationships?”

Before anyone gets excited at the prospect of meaningful reform, they should read this month’s NZ Centre for Political Research Guest Forum, where Stuart Birks questions whether Judge Boshier will be able to stand up to “pressures from vested interests and those who frame issues and manipulate the policy agendas.” (more…)

A 36-year-old mother who had sex with an under-age boy has been allowed to keep her interim name suppression for the sake of her two daughters.

The girls, aged 10 and 15, were described as vulnerable during the suppression appeal before Justice Christine French in the High Court at Christchurch today, the Christchurch Court News website reported.

When the woman pleaded guilty on January 16, District Court Judge Stephen Erber refused suppression but allowed the interim order to continue until the appeal could be heard.

Justice French said the judge was likely to have reached a different conclusion about suppression if he had been given the additional material that was now available to the High Court.

The woman admitted having sexual connection with a boy aged 15 about September 6 last year. (more…)

Critique of the Axioms Maxims and principles of Feminism

If our old adversary feminism, had principles, axioms, tenets or maxims to which it adheres, what would they be?

A suggestion list please. I would like to have a go with a critique of these…

IE, ‘equal pay for equal work’, ‘our bodies, our selves’, ‘biology is not destiny’… feminism is such a slippery mess I would like to pin it down and examine it intellectually. Any more succinct quotable startements please…. with a source if you have one…Longer paragraphs OK. too
My posts, so far, are my credentials.

Julies post gives greatly distorted view: She says ‘At the moment women are outliving men by 5 years ‘ quoting a news item from AMERICA that actually says ‘babies born in 2009’ so postulated effect is 77 years in future!  And may not happen because of Americas likely collapse NOW along the lines of a Soviet Union meltdown model. So Julie, a gross distortion of reality. I do not now think ‘julie’ so masculinist friendly.

Our current situation remains as irrevocably distorted economically and socially by evil feminist practice

In the battle of the sexes, life expectancy is one area where women are still ahead of the game.

At the moment women are outliving men by 5 years but according to a new study, the life expectancy gender gap is closing and could have vanished for good within just two generations.

Researchers say that if improvements in health and lifestyle continue at their current pace, husbands will start to live as long as their wives by 2035.

That year will also mark the start of the first generation who can expect to live into their late 80s – far longer than the traditional three score years and 10.

The prediction comes from American government statisticians investigating the shrinking life expectancy gap between males and females.

Historically men have died earlier than woman. Men have tended to do more dangerous jobs – as miners, soldiers or deep sea fisherman – and have been reluctant to adapt to healthier lifestyles.

However, the latest statistics from the Atlanta-based Centres for Disease Control and Prevention found that the gap is shrinking quickly.

Although the figures are based on Americans, researchers say they apply to other western countries such as Britain.

The downturn is that this will come at a cost.

While people will live longer, their quality of life may not improve.

The Office of National Statistics says the number of people expected to live more than 85 years will rise to more than three million by 2032.

The number of people with dementia could double to 1.4 million within 30 years.

The booming older population will lead to higher health, pensions and social security costs for taxpayers. It will also put more pressure on governments to delay retirement age to pay for the extra health costs of an older population.

Mail Online

Applications of Animal Husbandry to Feminist Shortfalls

“Maximum Human Female litter is 27”

NOTE: Beware this sketch will be added to later along these lines so be tender in its regard (You may end up looking ridiculous)
Jonathan Swift had an amusing solution to supposed problems in Ireland: he suggested boiling babies in sauce and eating them. We shall apply only half un-seriously his solution to correcting feminist economics (we’ll boil them in poison and feed them to our enemies.) By the following proposal

Masculist Economic Tenet number one: The maximum human female litter has been hitherto approx 27 not counting multiple births or fertility drugs. Since population economy shortfall is some 4,000,000 (Yes, Four Million!) from feminist depredations in New Zealand alone over the last 30 odd years we urgently need to make up these numbers to avert economic meltdown. From the youngest possible to the oldest providing body weight and health combine: we could perhaps increase that over a fertile life of 45 years, one sprog a year or one multiple birth pregnancy a year/every ten months or so to over 100 individual survivable babies. Per woman. This can be done with modern science in a full Masculist economy. This would act as a marvellous stimulus to our fledgling New Aotearoa economy. This of course would be a republic. If we all made a determined national effort we could do it. See Taxocracy. (more…)

FEMALE RUDDERS:Gender disparities within Democracy are larger than commonly understood.
(Beware reading this essay, it could destroy your faith in politics.)

Boyish prows on the ship of state
“Biology is not destiny” Simone de Beauvoir

Despite appearances to the contrary our liberal democracies of today have considerable female leadership in the foreground and in the background, a majority influence. Sailing ships often had female names on the bow and stern and frequently sported a mermaid sprite or womanly clasping bust as effigies under the bowsprit, yet almost  all profits on the voyage, control of the cargo and manning operations went to men. Today, do our ships of state exhibit a similar tendency in reverse; men are now carving out political careers beneath the overarching wand of women. Women voters have the overwhelming numerical influence within advanced democracies and this has distinct downside effects for the estate of men. Excess female influence can distort notions of democracy from being a fair system of government. Some alternatives by way of correction are sketched as future possibilities. This essay is shows how men must not and cannot support a current biased feminist liberal democracy for it is not a fair system of Government. Democracy today is unfair to men. (more…)

ROME – Prominent Italian gynecologist Severino Antinori will artificially inseminate a woman with the sperm of her comatose husband, in a first in Italy that has drawn Vatican criticism, press reports said on Wednesday.

“I decided to act because … there’s a woman who wants to become a mother to overcome the immense sadness” brought about by the brain cancer that put her husband in a coma, Antinori told the leading Italian daily Corriere della Sera.

Antinori is well known in Italy for controversially helping post-menopausal women to bear children, earning himself the nickname of “the grandmother’s obstetrician”.

The in vitro fertilisation of the woman will be the first in Italy using the sperm of a man in a coma, Corriere said.

Antinori, who extracted the sperm on Tuesday, told reporters he would carry out the procedure in about a month.

The daily La Repubblica reported that the couple live in Vigevano, northern Italy, and that the husband is 35 and the wife is 32.

The couple had decided to have a child when the husband developed brain cancer a month ago, the report said.

Antinori said he is protected by a court decree authorising the extraction of the sperm as well as a law on assisted procreation.

But a Vatican prelate blasted the plan as “illegal”.

“The consent of both parents is needed for an act of procreation. In this case the husband is treated merely as a receptacle of cells,” Monsignor Elio Sgreccia, the president emeritus of the Pontifical Academy for Life, told Corriere.

Eddie Murphy : Eddie Murphy’s multi-million pound child support deal with Mel B

The latest Child Tax Tui Billboard Suggestion.

“Mel is delighted that the case is over as she just wanted what was right for her girl. It was never about money – it was Mel’s way of asking Eddie to show consideration for Angel,” News of the World quoted one of Scary Spice’s pals as saying.

YEAH RIGHT.

Regards

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Check this out for some humour. The US Women’s Media Center calls for a public apology from Fox News because some male presenters humourously criticized the work of an ageing female journalist. I provided the following response on their comments blog, though as they are moderated my contribution may not be considered politically suitable. Others may disagree with my view and I would welcome any new insights:

What you don’t acknowledge is that the male presenters were not simply ridiculing Thomas for the sake of it or in any way because she is female, but they were expressing genuine criticisms of her questions and performance in a press conference. A degree of humor was appropriate in the chat-show format. Where was the sexism?
I’m sure you wouldn’t show the same indignant response if a female presenter spoke humorously about a male journalist whom she saw as asking inane questions and becoming an embarrassment to his profession. Even if she compared him to “the scary ogre of the East”, joked about him moving forward in his zimmer frame, and parodied him by talking in a deep voice.
The WMC seems to be trying to enforce new, self-created feminist commandments: “thou shalt never criticize any woman” and “all humor used by males must conform to WMC preferences” and “feminist preferences override all other rights such as freedom of expression”. Therein lies the real sexism.

The Big Buddy program is based on the philosophy that boys need good male role models in their lives to become good men. Implicit is that good male role models provide a substitute for a father.
There is no provision to provide good male role models in the lives of girls to become good women.
There is no provision for female big buddies for the children, who need a female role model in their lives,
The big buddies are interviewed, police checked, and screened by a psychologist
The selection of “Big Buddies” does not seek men who are, or have been fathers, and most big buddies are probably childless single men.
The candidate Big Buddies are not asked about their sexual orientation.
The ‘little buddies’ and their mothers are NOT Police checked, interviewed by a psychologist, or have any checking done into any possible history of abuse committed by them. (more…)

This is an article I wrote awaiting news paper publication.

THE SILENT KILLER

There is a killer moving among us that can strike at anytime. It’s been with us for the better part of thirty years becoming more lethal as time goes by. In 1991 it gained strength and became virtually unstoppable. Although it has been known to kill teenagers it’s main target is men, killing almost one a day.

As seemingly unknown as this killer is to the general populous there are many groups around New Zealand offering help and support as well as lobbying to get something done. Unfortunately all requests, letters and demonstrations have fallen on deaf ears. But this is no joke and the killer is a very real killer taking the lives of over 300 men each year. The name of the killer is The Child Support Act and it’s close cousin The Family Court. (more…)

What’s the difference between sperm samples and discarded toenails?
Answer: A landmark case in the UK has ruled the former is still a man’s property.

Sperm samples – given by the men after they were warned by doctors that chemotherapy might damage their fertility – were the property of the six NHS patients who can claim damages for the loss according to the ruling.

The six men have won their claim for damages in a landmark judgement which establishes the legal principle that a man’s semen is his own property.

The precedent is worthy of celebration yet a lot more is needed for men to truly have ownership of their sperm.

Some women steal sperm from men and use it to impregnate themselves. Whether it by having sex with an under-age boy or using syringes to squirt the sperm into their vagina, they bear a child and claim 19 years of child support because of the biological link.
Strange how biology only matters when child support is wanted.
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1. Vaccine Drug Company Targeting Boys For Profit
Family First Media Release 3 February 09

Family First NZ says that calls for the cervical cancer vaccine to be given to boys as well as girls is based on shonky research, marketing pressure, and wrong spending priorities. “The claim that Gardasil prevents penile cancer is based on a study of 16 to 26-year olds, funded by the drug company Merck which sells the drug, and the study lasted only five years,” says Bob McCoskrie, National Director of Family First NZ. “But penile cancer does not normally present until a person reaches the age of 50, and is extremely rare at approximately 1 in 100,000 men. There has also been no research on whether the vaccine actually reduces the carriage of HPV in the community and this is acknowledged by NZ’s Immunisation Advisory Centre.”
“Any research by Merck should be treated with extreme caution as they have just funded a $4.85 billion payout to settle 26,500 lawsuits regarding Vioxx — a painkiller which caused heart attacks, strokes or deaths. They were accused of waging ‘a campaign of deception to promote its drug, moving slowly to warn of possible hazards while at the same time dressing up in-house studies as the work of independent academic researchers’.” READ MORE

Cervical cancer vaccine for boys
The Dominion Post 03 February 2009

The cervical cancer vaccine should be given to boys as well as girls, to protect them and their future partners from genital warts and cancer, public health experts say. The main introduction of the $177 million vaccination programme, which aims to immunise 300,000 Kiwi schoolgirls over five years, begins this week. READ MORE
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I have often found it hard to believe women’s refuges would stand and say, “Women are only victims” because women’s refuges often take in women who are part of the problem. They work closely with CYFS and I have known of board members being on both boards.

Sometimes women’s refuges take children away from the mothers and place them in CYFS care. In more recent years women’s refuges have made programmes that mothers must attend to help them be better parents. The refuges are consistent in putting the needs of the child as important and sometimes they even ask the father to take custody of the children.

Mothers are also referred to addiction centres for treatment (when needed) and some programmes allow the mothers to keep their children while in treatment. These programmes have been funded through women’s government spending plus other donations from business and even judges. These programmes are also available to fathers and their children. Both sexes can share the facilities in programmes well developed.
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In a stunning and unusual family law decision, a Toronto judge has stripped a mother of custody of her three children after the woman spent more than a decade trying to alienate them from their father.

The mother’s “consistent and overwhelming” campaign to brainwash the children into thinking their father was a bad person was nothing short of emotional abuse, Justice Faye McWatt of the Superior Court of Justice wrote in her decision.

This is a major turn around for fathers since feminists have continually denied that PAS exists. PAS stands for Parental Alienation Syndrome and it is very hard on the children and fathers. Many of NZ adult addicts have a story to tell how hard it was living through their parents break up and how their parents fought over them. And many have lived destructive lives because they suffer from one parent alienating them from the other.
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Director of the N.Z. Violence Prevention Association Warwick Pudney has organised a Symposium at AUT University on:

Preventing violence and making our communities and homes safer.
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This week’s Sunday Theater at 8.30 pm on TV1 is a feature-length drama about the wrongful conviction and imprisonment of David Dougherty – falsely accused of rape.

After serving three-and-a-half years of his wrongful sentence, he received a public apology from Justice Minister Phil Goff and compensation of almost $900,000.

This case has been documented and discussed on MENZ since 1996

Sarah Barnett reports in the Listener promo Fight for Justice, David’s lawyer Murray “Gibson told reporters at the time of Dougherty’s release that his client, who screamed when he heard the guilty verdict, was all but broken by the experience.

A woman has been arrested for raping a man in Colorado, United States.
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