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Sat 28th June 2008

Police Safety Orders

Filed under: Domestic Violence,Law & Courts — blamemenforall @ 1:46 am

Judge Paul von Dadelszen was interviewed on National Radio Nine to Noon on Wednesday 11 June 2008 in his role as Acting Principal Family Court Judge. His confident, resonant voice made him an ideal replacement for his slick ad-man boss in progressing dangerous abuse by the state as if it were beneficial.

I thought it worthwhile to report on the learned judge’s statements and to offer some comment. It’s a long post but worth the effort to see how the system is thinking. The judge’s actual statements are in italics while my descriptions and comments are not. (more…)

Thu 26th June 2008

Miriam Long – Admistrative Review Officer

Filed under: General — Scrap_The_CSA @ 7:18 pm

Miriam Long is an IRD Administrative Review Officer based in Wellington.  It has become increasingly apparent that Miriam Long appears to hold a grudge against male liable parents. I have dealt with a number of Dads who have been at the reciving end of Miriam Long’s administrative review decisions.

I am in the process of coordinating a complaint to have Mariam Long stopped from hearing administrative reviews.

If you have experienced the Long hand at an administrative review please leave a comment and I will contact you back.

If you are a dad taking part in an administrative  review of Child Support Tax and you are told that Miriam Long is your Review Officer demand another Review Officer.



Fri 20th June 2008

Soul Destroying for want of an Answer.

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 3:15 pm

And when the broken hearted people
Living in the world agree,
There will be an answer, let it be.
For though they may be parted there is
Still a chance that they will see
There will be an answer, let it be.
Let it be, let it be. Yeah
There will be an answer, let it be.


After reading Garth George’s NZ Herald column on Gutless politicians (the majority of our politicians being men), I felt the need to say something.

To the Editor

Dear Sir,

If this is your Headline I am sure Mr George will forgive you for not understanding his faith. If however it is Mr Georges Headline he may choose to pray for forgiveness for his trespass against others.

His role as a self confessed Christian is not to issue abuse, but express understanding in a manner that others may choose to follow.

The law around abortion is a fiction. It does not exist in law, but by the conscience of parliament. It is a moral death warrant for a birth certificate that does not exist.

In a representative democracy our vote also contains our conscience and every abortion, none of which are within the law are the responsibility of each and every one of us.

Ignorance of the law may have new meaning for many people.

Wed 18th June 2008

That old chestnut

Filed under: Child Support — uktuatara @ 12:40 am

First post, I’ll try to be brief …


As I see from reading through the wealth of information available here.  I have a realistic view of what can and can’t happen when a loving Dad who seeks 50/50 care of his beautiful children, tries to review how much child support is due from him.


However; it’s late, and I can’t sleep, and I know there’s many people here who know the same truth, that some things in this life aren’t fair.  So excuse me for venting.


I am currently negotiating a full 50% share of nights and days caring for my two gems, Louis (5.8) and Elliot (2.5).  At every turn I find roadblocks to enabling me to care for my two sons.


IRD: We’re very sorry sir, but there’s nothing we can do, someone has to pay the Crown for the DPB she’s claiming.  Even if she chose not to claim, we’ll make her claim.  Pity though.

WINZ: Yeah good one, you really think we can help you, even if you didn’t earn what you earn, she already claims DPB for your two young fellas.  Pity though.


My only hope, is to negotiate with my ex-wife that it’s in the boys best interests that she seeks work, rather than rely on DPB and the Child Support I have faithfully paid every month for the last three years.


Next stop Administrative Review … because unfortunately the cost of setting up house again is getting the best of me.

Second stop Full Custody … if I’m going to see them for half the time and still have to pay Child Support, why not have them all the time and put that money into an account for them?


Nite all, thanks for listening.

Tue 17th June 2008

Broken Hearted Family

Filed under: General — kasey @ 4:14 pm

First time writer. I just wanted tell my brothers story on this site as he cannot do it for himself as he is in jail due to FALSE allegations of sexual abuse & rape. My family & I are absolutely devastated by the guilty verdict the jury delivered, but after reading some of the listings on this menz sight I was horrified to find it seems to be the normal way things go for Men. My brother comes up for sentence soon & I’ve been doing a bit of research on ways to help him, as we know he’s innocent!. His so called TRIAL was a F—N shambles, I would love to tell you all the details but im afraid as he will be appealing the conviction & sentence & i don’t want to do anything that might f–k up his appeal. It seems to me that the justice system is so F–ked up that any female with a bee in her bonnet can accuse anyone with no evidence & even when the accused has evidence to prove his innocents it doesn’t matter cos if you’ve been accused you MUST BE GUILTY.  I am ashamed to admit being female after finding out how EVIL some bitches can be, as it was my brothers x wife’s & her daughter that accused him. We know they only did this because of the custody battle that has been goin on for years (he lost all those too!) as hes been trying to get visitation to his biological daughter. I rang a mens ph councilling line hoping that i could get my brother someone he could ring & talk to but he gets lock up for the night at 4.30pm & this councilling service doesn’t start til 6.30pm, which was rather disappointing so if anyone out there knows of another such service I would be grateful if you let me know, also any advice or info would also be gratefully recieved.

Mon 9th June 2008

Dr. Bill Sutch and left wing politics

Filed under: General — Julie @ 11:30 pm

The late Dr. Bill Sutch is again in the news with the release after several decades of his Security Intelligence Service (S.I.S.) file.

The N.Z.Herald of June 6th quotes current SIS director Warren Tucker as saying that “while the (SIS) had long regarded Sutch as a security risk it had never considered him to be a Soviet agent” etc.

Soviet agent or not, the indications are that he was a subversive influence in N.Z. for all that. So it would seem that the N.Z. Left owes much to Dr. Sutch, even if, for example, one was to judge only by the testimony of one notable N.Z. leftist activist, Christine Dann.

Dann was interviewed on Radio N.Z. on 18th September 1985 re her new book ‘Up From Under‘ where it was disclosed that she was one of the founders of N.Z’s “Women’s Liberation” movement. She recalled there that the seeds for such radicalism were sown through a visit to her school by Dr. Sutch, where he discussed such matters, and how she subsequently became deeply politicised. Nor, presumably, would she have been far from the only young person so radicalised by him.

Just how deeply involved Dann was to become was well spelt out in 1979 with the publication of her highly revealing article ‘Radical Feminism and the N.Z. Political Scene‘ which was published in the July 1979 issue of The Republican. (more…)

Child Support Believe it or not!

Filed under: Child Support,General — Scrap_The_CSA @ 8:54 pm

Question – How much child support does a female non-custodial parent who earns $197,000 pay?

Answer – The minimum- about $630 a year

Question – How much would a male non-custodial parent who earns $197,000 pay for one child?

Answer – The Maximum – about $17,000 a year for one child

Thanks to IRD a female non-custodial parent who earns $197,000 gets away with paying the minimum.

United Future Leader Peter, i’ll sleep with any political party, Dunne is allowing this to happen on his watch. United Future made a conscious choice to get under the political covers with Aunty Helen and become the Child Support Tax Fuhrer and this is what his Tax Police deliver!

Keep your eyes on MENZ for more Child Support believe it or not.



Sat 7th June 2008

Father and Child Trust, Auckland Meeting 7-9pm

Filed under: Events — Brendon Smith @ 4:58 pm

Our Auckland Father and Child Trust Meeting is on Monday night, 7-9pm,
at the Onehunga Community Center, 83 Church Street, near the library.*

 We had a visit from Harald Breiding-Buss last month, plus we are hoping
to attend the ASG Parent and Child Show – do we know anyone keen to share?

We hope to see any new members, please pass this on to anyone keen!   

Best regards,
Brendon Smith
Auckland Coordinator
Father and Child Trust

Tue 3rd June 2008

Canadian sex exploitation study finds “surprising” number of female abusers

Filed under: Boys / Youth / Education,General,Sex Abuse / CYF — Darryl Ward @ 10:59 pm

From: http://www.canada.com/vancouversun/news/story.html?id=79708ae2-1dbf-4bdf-a9fe-83b65df121c1

Landmark sex exploitation study finds surprising number of female abusers

Gerry Bellett, Vancouver Sun
Published: Wednesday, May 28, 2008
Canada’s largest study into the sexual exploitation of street kids and runaways has shattered the myths and stereotypes about who the abusers are, the most surprising finding being that many are women seeking sex with young males.

“I must admit it wasn’t something we were expecting,” said Elizabeth Saewyc, associate professor of nursing at the University of B.C. and principal investigator for the study, conducted by Vancouver’s McCreary Centre Society.

“Some youth in each gender were exploited by women, with more than three out of four sexually exploited males reporting exchanging sex for money or goods with a female,” she said.

The results were drawn from interviews with 1,845 youth — some as young as 12 — in surveys taken across the province between 2000 and 2006.

The stereotypical model of the child being abused — a teenage girl being sexually abused by a man — is wrong, Saewyc said.

Sexual exploitation is defined as youth under the age of 19 trading sexual activities for resources such as money, drugs, gifts, food, services, shelter, transportation or anything similar.

This can include commercial sex work in brothels, escort services, pornography and Internet sex.

It also includes what’s called “survival sex,” where a child provides sex in exchange for a place to sleep, a meal or a ride.

The report found one in three children living on the street have been sexually abused, although many didn’t seem aware that they had been exploited, Saewyc said.

“It’s a shocking number. The law is clear any adult who has sex with children for any form of consideration is exploiting them and it’s illegal,” she said.

The study found 94 per cent of females reported they had been sexually exploited by men.

But the study found that young males were being preyed upon by sexual predators of both sexes, yet the social systems in place to deter and prevent sexual predation were only designed to help females and the criminal justice system wasn’t concerned with what was happening to young men.

“Women seeking young men and boys offer transportation or other things and some go to nightclubs and bars where they can pick up underage youth. And a certain percentage have been picked up by couples,” she said.

Saewyc said it was indicative of the prevailing myths about sexual abuse that the rehabilitation program for persons arrested by police for attempting to buy sexual favours on the street was called “John School.”

“I think it’s time we had a Jane School. There should be an equal opportunity school for women predators,” she said.

“Part of the challenge is that young males are not seen as being exploited because they are not coming to the attention of the police and the police aren’t out there picking up the perpetrators. The system is set up to handle the sexual exploitation of young women, not young men,” she said.

Community research associate Jayson Anderson said most of the programs to deal with sexual exploitation were designed by women for female victims.

“There’s really nothing out there for males, so we need programs for young boys,” he said.

The study showed that the following youth were most likely to suffer from sexual predation:

– Those who were lesbian, gay or bisexual.

– Aboriginals.

– Those with physical or mental health issues.

– Those who had been abused by family members.

– Youth that had been in government care.

Saewyc said the research shows important changes need to be made to the way society deals with street children.

“If you ask them what they need, they will tell you: safe shelter, access to education and job training, and medical and dental health services,” she said.

“But many youth who have drug problems can’t find safe shelter because the shelters won’t allow them in unless they are drug free, which seems to make some sense.

“But I think it’s time for the shelters to lower the threshold and let them in, because a 14-year-old shouldn’t be forced to submit to sexual abuse just to find shelter and survive,” said Saewyc.

Saewyc’s UBC group was involved in a research program in Minnesota, observing programs that reconnect young runaways and street kids with their families or keep them in school, thereby preventing them from becoming ingrained in life on the street.


Mon 2nd June 2008

Electoral Finance Bill and Labour – just how corrupt are they?

Filed under: General,Law & Courts — Julie @ 6:45 pm

Many of us here have other sites. We have already seen a couple of sites shut down for speaking anti Labour that were threatened with punishment.

But let’s look how Labour is getting around all this deviously.

I picked up a free Union magazine from a shop 3 days ago. Front cover has Helen Clarke on it and page 9 states, “Our Union will be working hard to make sure National is defeated and a worker-friendly, Labour-led government is re-elected for an historic fourth term. Such an outcome could see National out in the cold for many years to come”, says SFWU National President Barbara Wyeth.

So who are these unions.

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