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Sun 25th July 2010

Simon Power, Enemy of Men

Filed under: General — Ministry of Men's Affairs @ 11:02 am

Minister of Justice Simon Power has been talking for some time about introducing an inquisitorial system for cases involving child complainants and for complainants in sex crimes. Of course, he uses the ploy of referring to “child victims” and “sex abuse victims” to manipulate the public towards believing that all such complainants are necessarily victims of real crime, a good example of “begging the question”. But that’s a minor issue.

The term “inquisitorial” is apt given that the Inquisitions were always based on propaganda-fuelled superstition that from the late middle ages included witch-hunting. Power plans to remove lawyers and the process of cross-examination from sexual trials, and plans to remove the need for complainants to tell their story in Court at all (relying instead on statements they made at the time they first complained). (more…)

Fri 23rd July 2010

CYFS destroys fathers and children

Filed under: General,Sex Abuse / CYF — Julie @ 6:34 pm

How far will a father go to protect his little girl?

Two months ago I wrote about a father who has been protesting outside Prime Minister John Key’s home, Social Minister Paula Bennett’s office and CYFS offices around the country.

He has been trying tirelessly to save his 3 year old daughter from her mother’s abuse and gang affiliation.

New Zealand like other western countries follows feminist ideology when it comes to heterosexual relationships and uses the presumption men=bad and women=good. If a man does something wrong it’s ‘men’s power’, ‘ the myth of men’s superiority’ and ‘Patriarchy’. When women do something wrong it’s ‘men made her do it’ because of ‘men’s power’, ‘the myth of men’s superiority’ and ‘Patriarchy’.

Men have received the blame from the very beginning of ‘girl power’ where girls were encouraged to compete with boys and cheered when they could do something better than a boy while boys were encouraged to build the girl’s self-esteem, go easy on them and protect them from hurting themselves. If the boys failed to do this, society came down on them like a ton of bricks. “Good girl, bad boy” was something this generation of children were raised with and in turn as adults, they have placed it into law and policy. The writing of our laws don’t look to be discriminative but the policies on how the laws are practised are.

Thu 22nd July 2010

IRD child tax spin at its best

Filed under: General — Scrap_The_CSA @ 5:14 pm

Have a read of this article Upaid child support $17 Million note :

Inland Revenue documents released to the Taranaki Daily News show more than half the parents liable for child support in the region had an outstanding debt.

A total of $6.7m of the money is assessment debt, money either passed directly on to the childrens’ guardian or paid to the Government to cover the cost of providing a benefit to support the children.

The rest of the owed money — more than $10m — is made up in penalties.

The figures show 64.5 per cent, or 2559 of the 3965 parents liable for child support in the region, had an outstanding debt.

Now read the IRD spin ;

An Inland Revenue spokesman said the majority of liable parents pay their child support in full and on time.

The department had collected 89 per cent of all child support assessed since the scheme started in 1992, and 70 per cent of new debt cases were resolved within 12 months.

Lets have a look at what is being spun :

  • The majority of liable parents , an unknown number that could be between 50.1 and 100% –
  • Pay their child support in full and on time - Yet  64% of those in Taranaki have a debt which  incidentally is about the same as the % for all child tax payers.

Now ask the question why if the majority of liable parents pay in full on time why do 64% of them have a debt? Something does not add up.

  • The department had collected 89 per cent of all child support assessed since the scheme started in 1992. Basically this tells us nothing useful but does raise a question: If child support collection is so successful why are so many dads owing so much money?
  •  70 per cent of new debt cases were resolved within 12 months.Once again what does this mean? How many “debt cases” are opened each financial year – how often do dads get into” debt” is it the same dads repeating every 12 months?

It is disappointing that no journalist is conducting an indepth analysis of this spin.



Wed 14th July 2010

A departing French ambassador to New Zealand…

Filed under: General — Vman @ 3:46 pm

Dating New Zealand Women

A departing French ambassador to New Zealand once commented at the end of his stay in the country that New Zealand women lacked elegance, complaining that they dressed only in black and ‘walk like soldiers’. That was a bit cruel, though it’s true you won’t see many Kiwi women prancing around with poodles.

In terms of exotic good looks, it’s still not Venezuela, although especially with the changing ethnic mix, there are plenty of attractive women around. Even better, many are paranoid that they’re facing a ‘man drought’, a 10% gender imbalance in the 25-39 age group identified by statisticians — maybe due to all the male Kiwi backpackers who fell in love with overseas women who smiled at them.

New Zealand women despair of the diffidence displayed by local men, but they aren’t very impressed with flowery, Latin-style romancing either. They tend to prefer guys who are politely assertive (such as North Americans) or have a roguish charm (such as the Irish).

They are often comfortable with making the first move, although, as with their male compatriots, a tequila or three certainly helps to smooth the way.

In a relationship, a New Zealand woman will expect to be treated as an equal and will be impatient with excessive machismo or overt signs of possessiveness

Children on planes

Filed under: General — Vman @ 3:23 pm

CHICAGO – A Chicago-area man is suing Southwest Airlines, saying its flight attendants failed to protect his 14-year-old son from an older female passenger who made sexual advances toward him and offered him illegal drugs during a flight to Florida.

According to the lawsuit filed Monday in Cook County Circuit Court, the incident occurred on a July 13, 2008 flight to Orlando.

Attorney Jeffrey Deutschman said the teenager repeatedly asked attendants to be assigned another seat, but they refused to allow him to move.

Deutschman said the boy was so frightened by the experience that he refused to return home by himself, so his father flew down to accompany him home.

Mothers in the news today.

Filed under: Domestic Violence,General,Law & Courts — Vman @ 12:49 pm

Please note this is just what a quick search brought up reported in the news today. There is nothing special about today.

Mother jailed for ‘cruel, horrible’ abuse
A Brisbane mother has been jailed for the “cruel, disgraceful and horrible” abuse of her baby son.

The 34-year-old woman, who cannot be named, was this morning sentenced to 16 months’ jail after she pleaded guilty to grievous bodily harm and six counts of assaulting her son.

Brisbane District Court was told the mother digitally penetrated the boy a number of times during a 14-month period between 2005 and 2006, causing bleeding, for which she would later take him to a hospital.

She continued the acts while her son was in a hospital bed.

Tue 13th July 2010

Some ideas

Filed under: General — glenn @ 5:23 pm

I have been giving this Child Support and Family Law question a bit of thought lately. Rather than prattle on about the inequities of our Family and Child Support Laws, which in this forum we all know so much about, I thought I would offer up some ideas about where I think it should go. I believe that we, in little ol’ NZ are probably in an ideal situation to pioneer the reforms that need to occur, to begin to rectify many of the fundamental ills of every western society, (yeah ok, we were the first to give wimmin the vote — look where that has got us.) because we are  small enough to gather the ears, and large enough to have some credibility, as a nation.

So this is what I think:- 

Thu 8th July 2010

Men’s rights issues and videos

Filed under: Domestic Violence,General — Julie @ 12:43 pm

I came across a couple of interesting short videos on the net that echo the message men give through writing on this site and thought “Hey, cool”.

This one (below) is about men choosing surrogacy to become fathers rather than risk losing their children when a mother is involved.

Wed 7th July 2010

Financial abortion-a male right to choose?

Filed under: General — Scrap_The_CSA @ 4:12 pm

Interesting  article that is well worth a read.

What if a father could choose not to accept financial responsibility for a child before the child was born?

Should create some interesting discussion!



If it were law,a financial abortion would allow a man — one who has specifically said to his partner before intercourse that he doesn’t want to be a father — to void all monetary responsibility for any pregnancy. Without question, the woman could carry the child to term, but she and the law could then never come looking for the dad for child support. It sounds harsh — so much so that Goldscheider admits it will probably never be more than a dream theory — but proponents believe that such a policy could very well make a huge dent in the nation’s scourge of absentee fathers, especially in the African-American community.

Sun 4th July 2010

Child Tax Debt

Filed under: General — Scrap_The_CSA @ 11:32 am

Stuff this morning .

  • Note Family First true colors are showing!
  • Note the spin of this article
  • Note no one representing liable parents (UOF – Fair and Reasonable etc) has been asked for comment in this article

Child-support dodgers owe their children — and the taxman — billions.

Inland Revenue is owed more than $1.8 billion by parents who have shirked their financial responsibilities.

Figures released to the Sunday Star-Times by Inland Revenue show that of the 176,500 people liable for child support, 121,500 are behind in their payments.

Together they owe more than $560 million in unpaid child support and $1.2b in late payment penalties and interest.

The top five defaulters alone have an outstanding bill of $5.7m.

“It’s a national disgrace,” said Bob McCoskrie, national director of lobby group Family First.

“What it communicates is that people can go around and make children and then show next to no responsibility in terms of their well-being,” he said. “You have to pay up for the consequences of your choices. If we enforced the consequences, then maybe people would think more seriously about conceiving a child they have no intention of showing any responsibility for.

“At the end of the day, it’s not only the child being penalised, it is also placing extra pressure on the responsible parent and it’s already probably tough enough for them as it is.”

One Auckland mother who separated from her children’s father six months ago says he has already fallen behind in his child support payments. She is working fulltime to make ends meet, and estimates she is already owed $1834 in unpaid child support. Now she fears she will end up bearing sole financial responsibility for raising their three children — aged three to seven.

She has spoken repeatedly to IRD about her situation but has been told it is unlikely to take any punitive action against her former partner until the amount he owes in unpaid child support reaches the $30,000-$40,000 mark, because it will involve costly court action.

“I have been told by Inland Revenue not to budget on child support being paid, which is pretty appalling. There needs to be a push for these men to be held accountable and they need to be hit hard and fast, right at the beginning, so they get that they’re not going to get away with it,” she said.

She knew of one woman who had not received any child support payments in 10 years and others who were owed between $20,000 and $30,000.

Revenue Minister Peter Dunne is not ruling out changes to the system.

“The problem is not child support itself. We actually collect 90% of the principal of child support [the money that goes directly to the child] that is owing. Where the debt problem arises is with unpaid penalties on that principal,” Dunne said….. Read more at Stuff

I’ll respond in full later – I have a child I need to parent – hey I share care but still pay and I owe a “debt”- pretty typical separated dad!



Sat 3rd July 2010

Separation, depression and equal care

Filed under: General — triassic @ 9:19 am

If you have been separated from your children/child then the chances are that you will have experienced some degree of depression. If you already had an existing disposition toward depression then father alienation by the State will most certainly hurl you into a massive black hole that you may never recover from without undergoing wise counseling. The State, of course, doesn’t acknowledge that it participates in father alienation.


Fri 2nd July 2010

Increasing child compliance: Fathers flying solo

Filed under: General — Vman @ 10:36 am

Title: Increasing child compliance: Fathers flying solo
Authors: Havell, Elaena Margaret
Keywords: children
triple p
solo fathers
behavioural intervention
Issue Date: 2008
Abstract: This study investigated the effectiveness of the Triple P Programme to reduce non-compliant behaviour in three solo father families. Using behavioural monitoring, observational coding, and self-report questionnaires, outcome measures included non-compliant behaviour, the quality of the parent-child relationship, parenting efficacy, parental mental health, and parenting practices. A measure of change was also included to identify change points in the therapeutic process. Results suggest that parent training is effective in the reduction of non-compliant behaviour, as positive changes were found across all the measures employed. This early intervention has the potential to increase child compliance with solo fathers, and contributes to the knowledge base about this under-reported population. Limitations of the study and directions for future research are discussed.
Publisher: University of Canterbury. Psychology
Degree: Master of Arts
URI: http://hdl.handle.net/10092/1668
Rights: Copyright Elaena Margaret Havell
Rights URI: http://library.canterbury.ac.nz/thesis/etheses_copyright.shtml
Appears in Collections: Theses and Dissertations

Full text: http://ir.canterbury.ac.nz/bitstream/10092/1668/1/thesis_fulltext.pdf

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