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Sat 28th April 2012

WC Lives Saved by DV Act

Filed under: Domestic Violence,Gender Politics,Law & Courts — MurrayBacon @ 7:37 pm

Women’s and Children’s lives Saved by Domestic Violence Act:
Graham Barnes visits NZ speaks about Coordination
Effective Coordinated Community Responses (CCR) to Domestic Violence
New Zealand Family Violence Clearinghouse
SpeakOutLoud about psychological abuse

If the Act isn’t saving any lives, then why are we carrying on with it?
This analysis does not include any men’s lives that might have been saved by this Act.
Being practical, as men are rarely given protection by Protection Orders, as apparently they are not able to be injured by knifing, poisoning, shooting or killing by proxy? (more…)

Sun 22nd April 2012


Filed under: General — Ministry of Men's Affairs @ 2:56 pm

FYI, emails I wrote in response to an article in this weekend’s Herald. I might add that the most common form of mumtrepeneurship continues to involve using children to have one’s lifestyle funded.

Dear Associate Professor Mueller
In a NZ Herald article (There’s no place like Mum’s biz, by Susan Edmunds, dated 22/04/12) you are quoted as stating “while most men seek self-employment as a result of trauma, such as losing their jobs, women tend to look at it as a better way to get a work/life balance”. Did this claim arise from research or was it based on your impressions? Can you direct me to any research underlying your claim? (more…)

Tue 17th April 2012

Parenting Plan Forms and Resources

Filed under: General — MurrayBacon @ 11:17 pm

Standard Forms help get things moving and also help to cover all important issues.

NZ Family Court offers a very brief and simple document, perhaps too simple to be of much use, but it has nice pictures?

Sun 15th April 2012

Paid Parental Leave – Psychiatric or Economic Issues?

Filed under: General — MurrayBacon @ 9:54 am

This thread spun out of a question put onto the Court Value and Quality thread, by Down Under.
It was off topic, but nonetheless seemed a very hot topic!

Sat 14th April 2012

Vested Interests – Conflict of Interest?

Filed under: General — MurrayBacon @ 8:26 pm

Child Homicides – an uncomfortable truth
(Pressing the button above will show the original articles, with the figures and graphs intact.)
USA National Incidence Study Child Abuse and Neglect NIS-4
Are unmanaged conflicts of interest hazardous to our children and our wealth?

Posted on November 13, 2010 by rwhiston

News this week that Birmingham’s children’s social services have been adjudged as “inadequate” should come as no surprise. For ten years, Birmingham and a host of other authorities such as Haringey, have hung on by their figures tips and have survived despite incompetency and an absence of proficiency.

Mr. Loughton’s style is said to be to spend a lot of time speaking face-to-face with key figures and frontline practitioners – which can only be a good attribute.

In terms of policy he has made it clear that there is a “need to go through everything in the department’s budget to make sure it is justified”, which, bearing in mind the Victoria Climbie and Baby P affairs – and all the in-between fiascos – mount up to a formidable task for any new government and any new minister.

This brings us to a juncture that should concern many, and one that it is not spoken of, namely, what if the organisations the minister is speaking to are not representative ?

What if they are working to their own agenda ? How will he know their information can be trusted and their proficiency unassailable ?

The recent arrest of female paedophiles, Vanessa George and Angela Allen (2009) [1] and the opening of the trial and the opening of the trial of Rekha Kumari-Baker, who killed her two daughters [2] (filicide) are the sort of cases both society and children organisations have yet to come to terms with. (See Appendix A for a list of homicide terms).
To see the graphs, see the original article – press the button at the top of this article.
Note how “mothers’ are the dominant slayer of children followed by “other men” from which we have to deduce a transient non-permanent male associate. It is fathers who almost fail to register at all as slayer of children and only become visible in the “Total’ column for all ages.

Whichever way and method child murders are recorded – be it percentages, per 100,000 or concrete numbers – the indisputable fact is that most are slain by mothers.

It is not as if British statistics have been singularly remiss in failing to point this out, the statistical services of other countries (e.g. Canada, Australia), have been equally slow or even reluctant to highlight this problem (not least because it should inform judges when they consider awarding custody of children after a divorce).

StatsCan, in particular, has long been criticised by many individual researchers over a number of years for in-built bias and “glossing over” but the real surprise was Australian child homicide data.
New Zealand is also realising the inconvenient truth that mothers are just as equally likely – some would say more likely – as fathers to kill their children.[6]

New child homicide findings by Victoria University researcher Ms. Liz Moore suggest the child homicide offending is split between males and females.
[Look carefully – NZ Herald fails to distinguish between stepfathers and biological fathers!!!! NZ has the same ratio of mother to father homicides, as USA and UK and Australia.]
She examined the post mortem results of 69 children, who were among the more than 200 murdered between 1980 and 2003. Of the 69 murdered children, 42 were boys, and the majority lived within nuclear families with both their biological parents. Ms Moore said 30 of the children were killed alongside one or all of their brothers/sisters and most of the offenders acted alone.
In an observation that is at the same time exasperating but which may at last focus the attention of all the political parties Lord Laming notes that father have a vital role to play in keeping children save from abuse. [8]

That cannot be in dispute but it will not help policy shaper to have spousal and biological fathers lumped together with “fathers’ who are mere cohabitees or this month’s boyfriend.

Time and again – and the Baby P and Khyra Ishaq cases are classic instances
– if a father had been allowed proper parental participation or access, by Social Services, or CAFCASS, a death or severe abuse could have been averted.
The NZ CYFsAct requires social workers to consider placing children with their father, among a list of possible family carers. Some social workers honour this clause, some just apply for dispensation on the basis that they were too busy to even try to contact the father, or that they did not have contacts, because they hadn’t read the file…
Axe murderers left in the dust……………….

Thu 12th April 2012

Hope springs eternal?

Filed under: Domestic Violence,Gender Politics,Men's Health — MurrayBacon @ 9:28 pm

Sometimes when I read postings on this website, I get a bit depressed, quite a bit depressed. My old fiends, clonazepam and temazepam usually help, but if relied upon, can drop me very hard. Alternating with benzedrine usually helps, but he too can have a sting in his tail. Nortriptoline can help, if I know a few weeks earlier that I am going to be having problems.

Wellness is aided by exercise or frenzied exertion or acting out instead of acting inwards, like planning suicide. Ecstatic Chemical Therapy (ECT) helps too, when drugs are around, or the price of power is low, like at night.

Emerson’s Argument for Self-reliance as a Significant Factor in a Flourishing Life by Kathleen O’Dwyer

Court Value and Quality

Now 23, Young Woman Says She Made Up Testimony That Put Her Dad in Prison in 2002
Posted Apr 2, 2012 5:40 PM CDT
By Martha Neil

Cassandra Ann Kennedy was 11 years old in 2001, when, she now says, she made up a story that put her father in a Washington state prison from 2002 until last week.

Disappointed in her father, who, she felt, didn’t love her enough, she falsely told authorities he had raped her, wanting him out of her life to ease the pain that she felt, Kennedy told detectives in January. Her parents had divorced a decade or so earlier, and, she says, she got the idea of making up the story from the case of a friend whose stepfather was convicted of a similar crime, reports the Daily News.

Now 43, Thomas Edward Kennedy was released from prison last week after serving nine years and the case against him was dismissed. He declined to comment when contacted by the newspaper.

“This is something my whole office is talking about,” said Cowlitz County Prosecutor Sue Baur. “This is the kind of thing that shouldn’t happen.”

Baur wrote a letter to the judge in the case in February, alerting him to new evidence that created “a reasonable likelihood that Mr. Kennedy is innocent of those crimes.” She told the newspaper she continues to rethink every detail of the Longview case and recently listened to a tape of the child’s testimony, yet doesn’t see that the legal system did anything wrong.

She does not intend to pursue charges against the 23-year-old woman for lying, in part because doing so would discourage others from telling the truth after the fact.

Kennedy says she didn’t understand, as a child, the full effect that her false testimony would have on her dad.

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