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Abusive texts plague victims

Filed under: Domestic Violence — JohnPotter @ 7:23 pm Tue 27th July 2004

Abusive text messages are forcing dozens of Bay of Plenty women to seek help from Women’s Refuge.

Staff say there has been a rapid increase in the number of complaints of abusive text messages in the past six months. The problem has become so bad that 80 per cent of women seeking help have been abused by text.

Vodafone has taken a hard line with abusive text messages, threatening to disconnect offenders’ phones.

Telecom can also monitor calls made from specific phone numbers and can keep copies of text messages for seven days.


  1. Given many women’s propensity to lie I’d take this report with a pinch of salt.

    Comment by Stephen — Fri 30th July 2004 @ 8:05 pm

  2. Stephen,

    A very BIG "pinch of salt" – I must concur wholeheartedly since witnessing my ex lie to her lawyer’s face during a meeting with myself and my lawyer. There seems to be an inability there to distinguish between truth and falsehood. The "it" that is the ex-Mother-in-Law is worse….

    Comment by Mark Shipman — Wed 6th October 2004 @ 12:14 pm

  3. Hi- what can be done about abusive text messages which follow a drop off of a child to his mother after a wonderful weekend with his dad and extended family?
    A series of ” you’re a loser” type right through to the texts which suggest the child has been humiliated over various fun things we enjoyed as a family during our short time with him. I am a nana who cares.

    Comment by Glenys Lord — Mon 19th October 2009 @ 7:42 am

  4. Nobody can honestly help stop her abusiveness. CYFS would empathise with her justifications for behaving badly. Any complaint about her would be viewed as a disrespect/abuse of the mother. You’ll learn CYFS ideology “If you disrespect/abuse the mother then you also disrespect/abuse her child/children”. You’ll see him less often.

    Your family, including your grandson, will be targeted as a potential income for the snouts that compete for your tax dollars. You’ll see him less often.

    If you complain she will most likely escalate her abuse. You’ll see him less often.

    Your grandson has the defective Y chromosome. So does his father. According to Women’s Refuge, who CYFS help fund, they both have a 33.33% likelihood of physically or sexually abusing their partner. Fortunately feminism hasn’t merged with Eugenics yet. Women aren’t abusive or violent. You’re pushing the proverbial uphill unfortunately.

    How old is your grandson? I’m wondering how long it might be before his legs decide who he lives with.

    Comment by SicKofNZ — Mon 19th October 2009 @ 2:39 pm

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