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Filed under: General — Vman @ 7:14 pm Thu 1st April 2010

I know for far too many fathers it will not be a happy Easter. It will be will lonely and hurtful time due to no fault of their own. For many other fathers it will be a frustrating time of mixed emotions. I am not a Christian but my thoughts are with you and your children. I am in the same boat. A childless time yet again for me. I just have reached a high degree of acceptance so I am able to have a happy Easter anyway. I hope you all enjoy the break as much as you can. Good wishes to you all but especially to all those fatherless children out there.




  1. Dave;

    You have my thoughts this Easter too.

    I am fortunate to have his kids with him over Easter but I know that just getting to where I am right know has been a struggle.

    My ex-wife has recently shown some rather large failings as a parent. No doubt the FC will have some excuse for her behaviour again and the abuse she is causing to our children. But I will as ever continue to fight for my kids.

    I am also working in the background on a few areas prodding the people in power. My goal is to apply a little pressure in the right places to get those in power to understand the father’s plight in NZ. I can say that it is a job for the patient !

    To all the fathers (and mothers) out there that have wanted to be with their children, may you find the strength to persevere. Keep loving them in what ever way you can for they will one day work out for themselves what happened in their past.

    Comment by noconfidence — Thu 1st April 2010 @ 7:43 pm

  2. Thank you for your kind thoughts, Dave..

    Yes, I shall once again fail to hear from my daughter and pray for her continued health and wellbeing. I will hear from my son though. I count the few blessings I have.

    Comment by amfortas — Thu 1st April 2010 @ 11:58 pm

  3. Reply to Dave

    Dave, thank you so kindly Good Sir,and to all the decent caring loving Fathers that have been shafted by the Feminist system…

    Hold your head high,walk tall,stay strong ….And …Never.!!..Ever..!!!..say sorry that you are a Man.

    Never…!!!….Ever….!!! … Apologize that you are a Father that loves,honour, and cherish your Child/Children …Warm thoughts and good wishes to all…

    Kind regards John Dutchie

    Comment by John Dutchie — Fri 2nd April 2010 @ 9:10 am

  4. Easter Mess
    ‘Twas Easter time, but I’m confused,
    first we all fast, as Jesus has his last
    big feast, then a betrayer and his pilot
    plot a sudden, yet predicted, crucifixion…

    With how he dies, in thorns of shame,
    he seeks nobody, but himself to blame,
    yet, when his friends ask one last prayer
    the stone is moved and his body’s not there…

    For years the sceptics search for surety,
    whether left within or risen for all our sins,
    people endure lives of rules and purity,
    to win tickets to heaven above with him…

    As shapely rabbits, soft and cute,
    much like those, many farmers shoot,
    rush after oval shapes, which last time
    I checked, followed before chooks…

    Malls mass debate more all hours profits,
    small change trickles from loose pockets
    whether fresh or hot, cross buns we buy,
    low clouds say rain again soon, all sigh…

    Read with no paper, take short measure
    search not for meaning, only treasure
    time for heart felt dreams and let the
    chocolate buttons, hopefully,
    bring us closer together…!

    Comment by Brendon Smith — Fri 2nd April 2010 @ 9:44 am

  5. Thank you Dave and my thoughts are with you and all the other childless fathers and fatherless children at Easter who are victims of either a failing and inadequate Family Court system or an ex-partner’s malice or desire for revenge or punishment.

    As a Christian I know others have suffered much more, but losing your children is the heaviest and cruellest punishment to be levied on any parent simply because they chose to no longer be in a relationship with their children’s mother.

    For me, forgiving (and I note your acceptance) for me is the key for being able to survive this situation – forgiveness not necessarily for anyone else’s sake but for my own so I can survive the situation and not consumed by bitterness and anger (something we all have experienced).

    Comment by Gerry — Fri 2nd April 2010 @ 11:12 am

  6. That’s poetry!

    Comment by Dave — Fri 2nd April 2010 @ 11:14 pm

  7. Childless Easter for me, and Fatherless Easter for my choldren. Doubt we’ll even talk this year. But at least I know that the family court is fair and this is for the best interests of the children! YEAH RIGHT! Rotten eggs to them!

    Comment by Scott B — Sat 3rd April 2010 @ 7:00 am

  8. i feel for all fathers who cannot be with their kids this easter,I have all my kids here with me 5 boys aged from 11 down to 2 you guys can borrow the buggers any time you like,(i do love them though)

    Comment by paul — Sat 3rd April 2010 @ 8:17 am

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