In New Zealand, both the Care of Children Act 2004 and the CYFs Act 1989 legislation require the familycaught to protect children’s access to their own family, unless to do this would endanger the children. Even then, supervised access can be used to sustain relationships, without exposing the children to serious risk.

So, although Parliament require CYFs and the familycaught to behave in these ways, the day to day reality is that a large fraction of social “workers” do not act accordingly and fail to act to sustain relationships. I have seen several applications by social “workers” to familycaught, saying I have run out of time to contact the father and ask for dispensation from this requirement. I haven’t seen a familycaught “judge” ever try to enforce the law, in this situation. I believe that this is a result of unresolved traumas in the childhoods of these social “workers” and “judges”. These old problems prevent them from professionally carrying out their jobs. History

In UK, the same fights are going on too. Different legislation, even more bureaucratic and cumbersome, even less economically efficient than in badly featherbedded NZ!!!!
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Judge tells feuding couple to share custody of dogs
By Edward Gay
5:30 AM Saturday May 28, 2011

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A prominent political figure and his ex-wife have been told they must share the custody of their two dogs after a long-running dispute in the Family Court.

Strict suppression orders surround the case, which includes an allegation of dog-napping on the street of a plush Auckland suburb in November 2010.

The ex-wife – to be referred to as D – saw her ex-husband’s new partner walking the dogs and is alleged to have unclipped one of the animals from its lead and put it in a car.

D told the court in April she told her ex’s new partner: “You have my husband, you cannot have my dogs.”

Her ex-husband – referred to as C – sought the court’s intervention.

Judge David Burns issued his reserved decision yesterday.

He said he had not been asked to make a long-term arrangement but in the short term the couple had to share the dogs.

“Neither party seems to me to have any greater claim to the dogs than the other.”

Judge Burns directed that the dog which was allegedly snatched off the street should be returned to C.

“This is to be done by [D] delivering [the dog] to the groomer which both parties use and the groomer is then to deliver the dog to [C]’s care.”

He ordered that the dog stay with D for three months to make up for the “unilateral action” of C taking it.

He said that at the end of the three months, the dogs are to be looked after by C and D on a month-by-month basis.

“The changeovers to occur through the parties’ groomer so the party who has the dog is to deliver the dog in the morning to the groomer and the groomer is then to … deliver the dog to the other party …”

Judge Burns said he found that both C and D “profess a great love for their dogs”.

At the April hearing D told the court: “My dogs are my babies.” Her ex-husband said the dogs were part of his family.

Judge Burns also noted that the dogs provided companionship to each other. “I therefore … find that the dogs should not be split.”

He ordered legal costs to “lie where they fall”. Both C and D were represented by Queen’s Counsel.
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This could be deemed not post worthy but anyways….

With the increase of Child Abuse being thrown out to the general public, I find it interesting how professionals can justify not telling the parents if there daughter has had an abortion. I then question if the boy who did it (if known) is also covered from his parents not knowing. New Zealand at least, in abortions the male has no say what-so-ever even if he wants the child or not. (Some) Females have been using that blackmail for donkey years (that in itself is abuse personally).

Personally, I have a daughter myself and the fact something like this is going to be hidden from me starts to question what else “im not going to be told” because im a male or parent as a whole.

This stuff story didn’t cover how the father felt about it. Dont we have a right to a say as well? Dont as parents have a right to know what is going on in our kids lives?

Dont these professionals understand that the parents would find out in the end? This isnt something you can put a “sticking plaster” on in the hope it goes away, its there for life. Personally, I would support my daughter (should that happen) cause at the end of the day, this is a traumatic experience for her. I would also support my son (if I had one). Wouldn’t it be beneficial that both family’s come together for a chat before they consider prosecutions for statutory rape.

A Rotorua woman has admitted sending threatening texts to herself in a bid to get her former boyfriend into trouble.

Jacinta Maree Hammond, 23, used a pre-pay phone to send the texts to her phone and then a few weeks later told police they were from her estranged partner, the Rotorua Daily Post reported.

She pleaded guilty to charges of making a false statement to police and wilfully attempting to pervert the course of justice when she appeared in Rotorua District Court this week.

Judge Phillip Cooper remanded Hammond on bail for a pre-sentence report and sentencing on July 19.

In the preface of this self-published 130 page book, Adam writes that since his separation:

“the torment and legal battles I have had to go through since then I feel are rather unique”

Well, not quite. (more…)

Several recent posts have discussed mother hazard / father hazard, for risk of injury or murder.

I have pointed out that international abductors presently run about 85% mother / 15% father. Unfortunately, as “judges” tend to publicize cases involving father abductors, the public are being seriously mislead, to believe that the main hazard comes from fathers. (more…)

With an increase in single parent stats, we are starting to see the effects its having in our communities.

This story from NZherald I thought needing mentioning. My father lost his father at a young age. As a result, departmental effects of this are going onto me. I was never taught many things a “man” needs. I dont agree saying that im classed as a “useless moron” as the story could portray.

Schools do not teach these skills. Basically only fathers pass on to there sons these skills. If your father wasnt taught, what is going to happen to his off-spring?

Allowing the biological father to raise a child “virtually guarantees the child won’t die”, but substitute the father for another man and you risk harm to the child.

Taking under-five child homicide deaths from 1991-2000 fathers and mothers are almost neck and neck but defacto relationships are almost half that again (possibly due to no real bonding).

I find it interesting that there is no mention of step-mums.

Link to Stuff story

Simon Power yesterday announced further financial support for those referred to as “victims” in criminal cases. At first glance all seems warm and fuzzy; for example, few would quibble about additional financial support and trauma counselling for “families of victims of serious crimes leading to death”. But a closer look at Power’s support package raises serious concerns about its underlying ideology and likely contribution to rampant misandry. (more…)

In New Zealand we do not have Child Support. We have a child tax. This tax has absolutely nothing to do with supporting a child.

In my view the entire premise of child support is flawed anyway.
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By Steve Bucci – Bankrate.com

I just checked my credit report and found my wife opened an account using my name and information. I have never used this account. I didn’t apply for this credit. Now the account is delinquent. In your opinion, what is the best way to go about fixing my credit? I look forward to your advice.
— Shocked

Read more: Hubby unmasks wifes secret credit affair http://www.bankrate.com/finance/debt/help-i-m-a-victim-of-id-theft-by-my-wife.aspx#ixzz1LGdqk6qN

http://www.bankrate.com/finance/debt/help-i-m-a-victim-of-id-theft-by-my-wife.aspx?ec_id=m1080689,m1080689

Following the reported assassination of Osama Bin Laden, a Radio NZ National Radio interview this morning with Marc Sageman, a former CIA operations manager with the Afghan task force, was interesting. I quote:

“Well, the process of radicalisation is a two-step process; one, you join a protest counter-culture against the discrimination and persecution of Muslims worldwide, but this is not terrorism, this is very much a protest, this is legal; and then when you realise that your legal forms of protest are totally ineffective in the face of great atrocity, and usually those are innocent Muslims dying abroad, what people call collateral damage, people decide to actually, out of moral outrage, to do more, and they decide to take things into their own hands. They think that non-violent protest is just talk, talk, talk, totally ineffective, and they appoint themselves as soldiers protecting this worldwide community, and then proceed along the turn to political violence. So this is the process.”

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From the New Zealand Family Violence Clearinghouse; see here

A new report from the Law Commission recommends additional provisions that will make parent and caregivers liable if they fail to protect their children from injury or fail to intervene when a child is at risk.

It has also recommended that the core assault and injury offences be simplified and replaced by six new offences and repealing the offences of assault on a child and male assaults female. Minister of Justice Simon Power responded to the Law Commissions report stating that there are no plans to remove the male assaults female offence due to the current focus on domestic violence.

The bill introducing the new offence of failing to protect a child or vulnerable adult will be introduced early next year.

The Law Commission’s Report is available at: www.lawcom.govt.nz/ProjectReport.aspx?ProjectID=147

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And so the shake up begins. Im sure many people are going to be watching this closely.

The womans refuge are not happy and im sure others are going to come out of the woodwork.

Little concerning this is being rushed through.

Greetings. I am in my second long term relationship, with grown up children from my first marriage, but thankfully no children from my second as my current partner and I are now going through the process of separating.

My partner has been to a lawyer, but I do not yet have one. I need to consult with a lawyer on the process I need to follow, and help me try and negotiate an out of court settlement, and fight for me in court if necessary.

Are there any suggestions anywhere of lawyers that others have found?

The Greg Meads murder case was previously discussed on MENZ. It became clear that anyone who attempted to discuss rationally issues around this case would be personally abused, including any discussion of the extent to which provocation should be taken into account at sentencing since it had been removed as a partial defence against a murder conviction. Neville Robertson, well known for supporting a domestic violence industry largely built on exaggerations, fabrications and myths, labelled my writing about the Greg Meads case “misogynist”. When challenged to point to anything I had written fitting that description, he was unable to do so but instead suggested that any mention of provocation in considering a man’s reactions to a disloyal wife plotting behind his back to ruin him and to take his child away is “misogynist”. Of course, women’s violent reactions to men’s behaviour they found similarly threatening would be seen as being understandable and justified.

No wonder then that the Greg Meads case has recently given rise to more nonsense. (more…)

April 22, 2011, 7:10 am (From the NZPA) – Full article posted here (in case it gets pulled from Yahoo later).

“Te Wananga o Aotearoa says a “human error” allowed a woman convicted of cruelty to a child to enrol in a social work degree.

The spokesman said a new system mean here had been “disruption” of police vetting, but was confident a more efficient checking process was now in place.
Te Wananga would not say whether Ms TeKani was still studying at the campus.”

In my experiences with CYFS, one could argue that a woman convicted of cruelty to a child would already be suitably enough qualified to join the ranks of her fellow social workers at CYFS.

I would personally like to thank Netta Christian for having the guts to speak out at the state service. Nothing has really changed even after 73 years and I would hope that other stories like hers finally come out of the woodwork. People are starting to have a voice and im surprised such a story was published.

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There is so much in the news latterly about abuse on our kids and how the Government is meant to be helping with support. But then I read this morning in the online nzherald that The Family Court could be curtailed without compromising justice for vulnerable parties, such as children at risk of abuse or victims of domestic violence.

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When women kill children, understanding galore
She was a brave victim of a cold, mean world
Struggling alone, a sole parent, abandoned
(Though actually, probably, she grew bored with the manhood
Ejected the father, erased his involvement
What can you expect? Men are useful for money,
Nothing else, they’re a hassle, not worth having honey
The government makes a good husband you see
Relief from a real man’s opinions and needs)
The odds were against her, she crumbled, poor thing
Insufficient free money, services, bling
How unreasonable to expect she could cope as a mother
People don’t realize how painful, the bother
She was seeking help for her nasty addictions
Blame the brew doctor, the husband, afflictions
A really nice person, so lovely, so kind
If she murdered she must have been out of her mind
No penis so let’s not get carried away
With punishment, admonishment, spoiling her day
It’s more money she needed, more life satisfaction
And men we can blame for her murderous action

The news story this week about ACC employee Dr Peter Jansen was fascinating. A disgruntled female ACC claimant (on the basis of alleged sexual abuse) wrote potentially defamatory things about Dr Jansen on a blog. Dr Jansen asked her to remove the comments and, when she refused to do so, commenced a defamation case against her claiming $250,000 in damages. He has made it clear that his aim was simply to have the comments removed, although more recent news articles reported he also demands an apology.

In wades Labour MP Ms Carmel Sepuloni who, in parliament, asked the ACC minister (more…)

For the second time this year I recommend people buy a copy of North & South magazine.

Despite a number of comments from MENZ readers suggesting that the two writers displayed misandric tendencies, I reckon the latest issue confirms my view that North & South is by far the most effective publication in the country when it comes to serious investigative journalism about men’s issues.

In the May 2011 issue, the lead story by editor Virginia Larson is titled: In Praise of MEN – Forgotten male virtues: A woman’s view. (more…)

YES!!! the government has listened to the people….

I say that because alot of what has been said about the legal aid reforms, is very similar to what I proposed in my submission to the Legal Aid Reforms.

As mentioned here: http://www.nbr.co.nz/article/govt-unveils-legal-aid-changes-set-save-138m-over-four-years-ne-90653

The changes seem to be very good for those who can not receive Legal aid currently, as the other party wont be able to receive as much, by the looks of it, there will be a cap of $650, unless they can prove its going to be an expensive case, hopefully, this will encourage more mutual agreements, rather than having to deal with the other parties lawyer all the time, and there will be no more “Ill have to check with my lawyer” replies when requesting something outside of an agreement or order. (more…)

Silence on abuse may mean 10 years’ jail
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ECPAT originally stood for “End Child Prostitution in Asian Tourism” but the organization dropped that slogan and now ECPAT stands for “Preventing the Sexual Exploitation of Children”. It has grown from a New Zealand group to have support in many countries. Most of us would support the aim of protecting children, but the group is spreading what looks like false propaganda that will cause people to hate men even more. (more…)