Now the elections are over it is time, as Scrap has said, to start a proactive call to reform the CSA.  I have stood for a place in parliament but with very little time on my hands before polling day I was unable to get enough support to make that a reality.  But this is not the time to stop or even slow down. 

In the next 3 years we have the oppertunity to really make a change, to wit I am back to focus on the documentary called “The CSA Files”.  For further info in this doco please visit www.the-csa-files.webs.com

I am also looking to talk to anybody who would like to appear on camera with their story whether is be about the SCA or about the Family Court.

In the mean time, have a look at the teaser for the upcoming film “The CSA Files”.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=06AhVnXvBdM

National’s policy is on the way.

Police will gain the power to issue on-the-spot protection orders to protect victims of domestic violence.

This type of policy sums up how National views men. Those who cast their vote for National, Act ,United Future and perhaps the Maori Party voted for this. 

Child Tax is in Judith Collins sights. Now an ex family court lawyer will be a key influencer of National polices on the matrix of family law.

The time for action is close at hand, we need to be proactive and force the reform of family law onto the agenda. The choice is ours.

I know what I will be doing and will post in the next couple of weeks. Meanwhile its off to start organising  a proactive call for reform of Child Tax Law . There a lot of work to be done and helping hands are welcome.

Regards

Scrap

From YouTube Sweden:

Why is it a crime to be a man?

Worth watching, as it seems to have a bit in common with NZ.
Cheers, MurrayBacon.

Maxim Institute Lecture: Breakthrough New Zealand?

On Monday 3 November in Auckland, UK family policy expert Dr Samantha Callan delivered a lecture for Maxim Institute about why tackling family breakdown is an important social justice issue.

“I want to talk about what we’re doing in Britain to tackle family breakdown. I’m a long way from home but that’s great, we’re on such a similar page demographically from what I’ve been reading. And we have finally begun to acknowledge the extent and severity of our experience of family breakdown and I think that the seed has truly been sown into the policy-making arena to act on that knowledge to prevent family breakdown as well as to alleviate its effects.

“We’ve been very well received across the political spectrum, especially by the current Conservative opposition which could very easily form the next government. We’ve been working for nearly three years to change the narrative around family to get away from the mantra that says family structure is irrelevant. My publications argue crucially from the research that we will never have the kind of society that genuinely has the welfare of children as its core concern if we continue to deny the research that two parents tend to provide better outcomes for children than one. A quarter of all British children are in one parent families and recent polling showed that if you’re not brought up in a two parent family you’re 75 percent more likely to fail at school, 70 percent more likely to be a drug addict, 50 percent more likely to have alcohol problems and over a third as likely to go on benefits.

“At the same time we’re not stigmatising people who are raising children on their own or outside of a formal commitment. It is a really good thing that children are not ostracised anymore because their parents aren’t married, however on average they are penalised because they are more likely to see their parents split, to experience a significant loss of income, to have to move home etc.

“Its class-based prevalence is the rationale for putting it firmly on the political and policy agenda. In other words the high break-up rates of lower income people, the greater likelihood that those in poverty will not be married and that they’ll have children outside of commitment and repeat the cycle of low income and low attainment has, in the past, made it really hard to talk about family breakdown without sounding judgemental and as if middle class values are being unjustly imposed but in the UK. We’ve had to turn this around and say if we are determined to tackle (what has become known in the UK) as our broken society we have to treat the high likelihood that poor children will grow up fatherless and from a fractured or dysfunctional family as a correlate of the intergenerational transmission of poverty.

“Research is pointing to a marriage gap in the US and the UK. Aspirations to marry are universally high across the social spectrum but the culture and financial barriers to marriage are hard to overcome in low income communities; and a great concentration of single parenthood here may not be an expression of diversity but paradoxically of reduced choice with inability to fulfil marital ambitions and so it’s another dimension of inequality.”

Watch Dr Samantha Callan on TVNZ’s Breakfast programme

International Men’s Day is an international holiday, celebrated on the first Saturday of November. It was suggested by Mikhail Gorbachev and was supported by the United Nations in Vienna, and other organisations[1]. The tradition began in 1999, probably by analogy to International Women’s Day.

Recognition and support of the day is limited; in Malta it is celebrated on February 7, in Trinidad and Tobago on November 19, in Brazil on July 15, in Ukraine on February 23, in India on November 19 and in Oltenia (region of Romania) on March 9. In Norway it’s celebrated on October 7, and on November 25 in Canada. In Sweden it’s not celebrated at all.

Also, Russia and Kyrgyzstan celebrate Defender of the Fatherland Day on February 23, which in recent times has essentially become these countries’ version of International Men’s Day. In Colombia, it has accepted 23th March, after Saint Joseph’s day.

Plans are afoot to recognise International Men’s Day in United Kingdom and Ireland on April 5.

Indian Men’s rights organisation Save Indian Family has started an International campaign to build consensus on IMD on November 19th. As a first step, it has accepted 19th November to be celebrated in Pakistan as Men’s Day. With this at least 20% of world’s population accepts 19th November as International Men’s Day.

familylawwebguide.com.au

A spectacular, spectacular where…
Mo Bros, dressed to suit their Mos will be judged by an expert panel for their chance to be crowned the Gala Parté Man of Movember or Best Mo in Class.

Mo Sistas, dressed to suit their Mo Bro or fancy dress will also be judged, with one Sista crowned Miss Movember.

Official Gala Partés in 2008 will be held at:

Wellington Thursday 27th Nov, 6pm, The Loaded Hog ….. Judging time 6 – 8.30pm
Auckland: Friday 28th Nov, 6pm, Eden Park ASB Stand Concourse …. Judging time 6-8.30pm
Christchurch: Saturday 29th Nov, 6pm, The Civic …. Judging time 6 – 8.30pm

Tickets cost $25

About Movember

Co-counselling is a personal development system that confronts limiting behaviour at its deepest level. Working in peer relationships with others it enables us to heal hurts from the past, build on our present strengths, and live into emerging potentials.

Learning to co-counsel means learning a series of simple techniques that allows us to work with our feelings rather than talk about or suppress them. It provides a clear theoretical and skills base for completing unfinished business from the past affects how we operate in our current relationships. It helps to restructure outdated beliefs and create chosen futures.

This five day training will give you the skills to utilise the field of presence between two people to facilitate transformation in all your relationships. It is based on the belief that within each person is a source of wisdom and self directing intelligence, with the ability to heal, and reveal deeper experience of the human capacities to love, understand, and choose. It is based on principles of trust in self direction, and the supportive and aware presence of other loving human beings.

The programme focuses on the development of emotional competence. It keeps us clear of unaware distress so that we meet others from a position of clarity, generosity, ease, creativity and delight. It is valuable for anyone who wants to interact in a genuinely facilitative way with their own process, their family, their community and work colleagues.

The programme is for anyone wanting to develop themselves personally and socially and is particularly useful for people who want to promote co-operative, peer ways of working with others, such as facilitators, leaders, managers, counsellors and trainers and teachers.

Ph 09 376 2386

www.essentiallymen.net

Crime
TelstraClear

Father relieved abduction case is over

Wednesday, 29, Oct, 2008 4:04PM

The father of an eight-year-old boy at the centre of a high profile abduction case is relieved the ordeal has come to an end.

The boy was missing for five months after he was taken from Hamilton City Library two years ago.

Today his mother Kay Skelton and grandfather Dick Headley pleaded guilty to abduction at the High Court in Hamilton.

Court orders prevent the child’s father Chris Jones or his Lawyer Thomas Sutcliff speaking about the boy. However Mr Sutcliff says his client and his family are relieved, as they believe the matter could have been cleared up over a year ago.

Mr Sutcliff says the ordeal has drained his client financially and emotionally with the case going all the way to the Supreme Court.

Skelton and Headley will be sentenced in December.

Previous discussion on MENZ

Perspective:
After 5 or 600 women abductors in the last 20 years, 1 prosecuted when it could no longer be hidden from the public
Several men have been prosecuted, when number of men abductors is less than 100!
Generally the men kept the child for a few days, with little or no intention of totally destroying the child’s relationship to the other parent.
Most of the women abductors intended to put the child out of reach of the father forever!

Please draw your own conclusion about the integrity and skills of these familycaught “judges”!!!

As Ralph Nader said about a FORD car, the familycaught is unsafe at any speed.

Deterrence does require competent, timely, effective prosecutions.

Our children are worth protecting, from all abductors of any sex and (in my opinion) from these misleading, manipulative, devious, greedy, deviant “judges”. They lack knowledge about how to protect children and just play legal games for personal profit.

Note how they try protect their performance from informed public comment, by issuing gagging orders onto the father, whom they ripped off financially through the last 5 or so years. By doing this, they intend to protect their personal financial interests, which they have placed far far before the child’s “paramount” interests!!!!

They don’t want practices in the familycaught to improve or become competent, even by accident!

People of this ilk cannot be taken seriously, as protectors of children.
Best regards, MurrayBacon.

National Party leader John Key has promised Mr Dunne a seat around his cabinet table after the United Future leader yesterday ruled out supporting a future Labour government.

Its official a vote for United Failure is a vote for National. National has one view on Child Tax, lets get more draconian.All dads are deadbeats in the eyes of Judge Judy (Judith Collins) and we should be punished and United Failure will support this.

So guys if you want to be stopped at the border by Tax Officials and pay a truckload more Child Tax and have less time with your kids vote for National and their lackey United Failure.

You have a choice on election night and as it stands National and United Failure are a very dangerous option that will get votes from gullible men who need to look beyond pious platitudes and remember what has, or more importantly, has not been delivered.

To be frank if you support them you deserve what you get. Time for change guys vote-wise in 2008 and remember don’t flush your vote down the Dunney

Regards

Scrap

Hey, Boshier, check this out…

http://www.stuff.co.nz/4738796a11.html

Would we have a better family unit if we stopped Sunday trading?  This is a throw away question but I would like to know what everybody thinks.  I think a lot of parents are missing out on family time because of weekend work.  Let me know your thoughts…

Some food for thought :

Lyn Craig wants us to believe:

And overall .. Australian fathers spend an average of just under an hour between Monday
and Friday caring for the children .. with 90 per cent of that care done alongside the
mother

Compare this to the just published UK study:

Children who spend time with their fathers have a higher IQ .Children who spend large amounts of time with their fathers have higher IQs, according to a new study.

We hear nothing of the findings of a well researched longitudinal study from the UK that shows how important dads are to our kids development but plenty of Lyn’s Lunacy. Says something about how the media in NZ views fatherhood.

Regards
Scrap

A headline article in the latest newsletter of the NZ Psychological Society expresses delight that the number of complaints reaching the Psychos’ Board has fallen dramatically. This has enabled an insurance company to reduce professional indemnity premiums for Family Court psychos. However, don’t imagine this indicates any improvement in Family Court psycho assessments. Don’t imagine they have become anymore ethical, less feminist or less male-bashing. Quite the reverse from what many fathers report; often such reports are now required only to assess whether a father is feminized enough to allow his children to have him as a father.As usual, many psycho reports simply amplify and give undeserved credibility towards all manner of allegations women make against ex partners.

The reason complaints are not getting to the Psycho Board is that a cosy little agreement was made between Boshier and the Board. This produced a “practice note” that ordered all complaints about psychosto be dealt with in the first instance by the Family Court judge, who would decide whether the complaint should be referred on to the Board. The judges are now so effectively stifling complaints that hardly any get through to the psychos professional body for proper scrutiny. (more…)

Press Release by United Future at 12:57 pm, 21 Oct 2008

Reports today that Wellington Zoo has solved the mystery of who fathered their baby chimpanzee through a DNA paternity test perfectly highlight the ludicrousness of family law in New Zealand, according to UnitedFuture deputy leader, Judy Turner.

“It’s an insult that we extend monkeys the right to determine parentage in this country, but refuse that basic right to fathers and children. It is a disgrace that men have no right at all to get a simple DNA test to confirm whether they are the father or not,” says Mrs Turner. (more…)

While I don’t condone party political broadcasts on a forum like this I believe what happened last night is a positive step forward in our cause.

There I was sitting with 13 other candidates for Wellington Central with a crowd of maybe 200. I was the newbie in the room pressing flesh with the likes of Sue Kedgly, Stephen Franks and Grant Robertson. With Heather Roy to my right and Michael Appleby to my left I stood and gave my speech very nervously to the crowd. I swear they could actually hear my heart pumping while my hands were shaking like a leaf in a Wellington breeze. But I held my head up and let rip with the policies that I believe in whole heartedly.

Amongst other, less relative topics to this site, I let it be know that while the government is surgically removing the man from the family, several hundred thousand children are becoming Fatherless. Some on a day to day basis, and some – permanently. We will ABOLISH THE CHILD SUPPORT ACT, which is completely sexist and unfair legislation, in favour of a case by case approach. (more…)

Happiness is really important, for an effective, relevant, working justice system.

Trust is key for happiest people in world

As economists probe better ways to measure well-being than pure wealth, they say the Danes — who are also among the world’s most prosperous people — have a tradition of equality and trust that is not widely replicated……….

OECD economist Justina Fischer — a German who has studied subjective well-being and its societal and economic correlations for many years — puts Denmark’s happiness down to the fact that people consume a relatively equal share of the wealth they generate, and trust each other. (more…)

Enforcing accountability and responsibility is essential for protecting children’s interests.

Stuff article

Family breakdown and decreasing marriage rates is costing New Zealand taxpayers at least $1 billion a year, according to new research.

Prepared by the New Zealand Institute of Economic Research (NZIER), the research was commissioned by Family First NZ.

“The study shows that the decline of marriage, New Zealand’s high teenage fertility rate, and our rate of solo parenthood is not just a moral or social concern but should also be a concern of government and policymakers,” said Family First NZ national director Bob McCoskrie. (more…)

FYI, my email to Elections NZ, concerning their special section naming all women who have served in parliament:

I notice that your website has a special section entitled “Women in Parliament 1933-2005”. This section stands out because there is no similar section for other subgroups in parliament. There is a section about the number of Maori, Pacific and Asian MP’s but the information that provides is much less extensive than the women’s section; for example, the women’s section names every single woman who has served in parliament, her party, term of office etc.

While the increase in women’s political participation may be interesting, it is no more so than that of other sub-groups categorized by race, sexual orientation, socio-economic status or disability. Your favouritism towards women’s participation treats their contribution in parliament as somehow better, more significant or more laudable than that of men or other subgroups. I do not believe a reasonable case could be made that women’s contribution has been superior or especially laudable, and I object to the sexism demonstrated on your web site. A special women’s section in the absence of similar sections for other sub-groups denigrates the contribution of all others who have served in parliament.

I would like to know where the directive or initiative came from for this special treatment of women on your web site, and how maintenance of this sexist propaganda is funded.

FYI, my letter to Dr McGregor, in relation to a recent case of false complaint in which the offender was, as usual, treated with undue leniency by the Court.

Dear Dr McGregor

You were quoted in the Waikato Times on 08.10.08 as follows:

“Dr Kim McGregor, director of Auckland-based group Rape Prevention Education, said that about 2-10 per cent of rape claims were false, but an estimated 91 per cent of sex attacks were not reported. Dr McGregor said false rape allegations were often triggered by traumatic experiences and questioned the benefit of prosecution in such cases.”

While you are entitled to your opinion and to express it, no doubt your position will be duplicitous. I am sure that you would not question the benefit of prosecution of male sexual offenders whose behaviour was triggered by traumatic experiences, as indeed is true for many of them. (more…)

I noticed that the UK is doing quite well with a men’s movement and I think this group is making it’s voice heard.

Real Father’s for justice

Anyhow, while reading the relevant information on the Auckland City Council website I came across the pages for event organising and noticed that they will direct you and assist you with what you need to do and provide their expertise and experience.

One thing I have noticed in the community is the desire to get men’s issues out in the open and sometimes I think there are a few egos in the political scene wanting to receive some sort of credit for it. (more…)

LONDON, October 9, 2008 (LifeSiteNews.com) – The largest UK teachers’ union wants the government to decriminalise sex with students who are over the legal age of consent. Chris Keates, the general secretary of the National Association of Schoolmasters Union of Women Teachers (NASUWT), said that teachers who have sex with pupils over the age of consent should not be placed on the sex offenders register. Keates called prosecution for statutory rape “a real anomaly in the law that we are concerned about.”

NASUWT complained that media reports had misrepresented their position. “To describe the NASUWT’s comments on this as ‘teachers want the right to bed pupils’ as one report has done, simply for pointing out an anomaly which criminalises a teacher but would leave any other adult free from prosecution for the same type of relationship, is a travesty.” (more…)

My name is Elizabeth Herd.

I have a Myspace page titled Sean’s Voice. This page is in honor of my sweet grandson, Sean Michael Sowards who was tortured, abused and neglected leading to his murder by his own mother when he was just two and half years old. It was in June of 2007 (just last year) that we had to say good bye and bury this precious angel. This woman not only abused Sean, but also abused my son, Sean’s daddy over the eight years they were together. (more…)

I need help. Please help!

I made phone calls today as I always do now and then to groups. But groups seem independent IMO. I find it really hard to find groups that are anti male and yet we follow an ideology.

Is this ideology just a political thing? I am serious! Maybe I didn’t get a piece or 2?

Plunket in Auckland can’t figure how they boo’ed John Keys for they don’t think they work with children over 5 years of age and Banardos understand father’s issues. (more…)

Reality of Battle Hits Home

Events over the past weekend have reminded me of just how important it is to speak up on family issues.

Last Saturday night, four women dressed in black came to our family home in South Auckland and placed almost 1,000 plastic knives into our front lawn. They also taped an intimidating note on our front door relating to the knives (anonymous of course!). (more…)

There has been one thing in particular that has stayed in my mind for the time I have known about men’s plight in New Zealand. It was told to me when I confronted some leaders of a well to do group in Auckland and argued that I think boys should be allowed to climb trees and be risk takers and fall over and scrape their knees and I think girls should be allowed to play with dolls and tea sets if they want to.

The arguments back were …. well, there wasn’t any because young men were around and spoke up themselves saying they liked being masculine. Why does a hairstyle have to be more important to males than being rough and tough? What is so wrong with sport and what is so wrong with not showing emotions all the time?

Anyhow, the sentence that I will never forget is, “I hope men don’t fall in line because that is the day we have socialism”. (more…)