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Sun 30th September 2012

Protecting Children Through Separation

Filed under: General — MurrayBacon @ 8:50 pm

Making the Marriage Licence Worth Something?

While the marriage licence is being applied for, we could be reporting to parents on their parenting skills and resources. This is based on financial resources, employment skills, day to day parenting skills and mental health. Family backup is a little part of this equation, for time support, as well as parenting mentoring and financial support.

The arrangement suggested below gives parents good incentives to work together, to develop and protect their children. If one parent wishes to separate, they must obtain the agreement of the other parent, before the children are removed from the marital home. (If DV was claimed to be an issue, then proof would be required, before any sanctions were applied or the care of the children altered in any way.)

Parents who might be tempted to use Parental Alienation would clearly see that if they separate, they will get the lesser amount of care, or even risk having the children removed completely. On separation, shared parenting can be seen to offer better protection for the children, especially for parents with poorer skills.

Thu 27th September 2012

Brian Gardiner defends White Ribbon Hate Campaign

Filed under: Domestic Violence,Gender Politics — JohnPotter @ 4:46 pm

Yesterday’s RadioNZ Nine to Noon featured an item about the recent release of Police family violence statistics. I strongly recommend MENZ readers listen to this online while it’s available.

Black Ribbon Table – slight change

Filed under: General — Ministry of Men's Affairs @ 2:59 pm

Please note that the Hamilton and Tauranga dates have had to be reversed due to availability of key personnel. I have amended the original post to reflect the new schedule, shown below. Note that the Auckland dates remain as they were with no change.

Saturday 6 October: Manurewa town centre
Saturday 13 October: Red Square, Tauranga
Saturday 20 October: St Kevin’s Arcade, K Rd, Auckland
Saturday 27 October: Garden Place, Hamilton

Wed 26th September 2012

Parent relationships hypocrisy

Filed under: Gender Politics,Law & Courts — MurrayBacon @ 8:49 pm

Parent relationships hypocracy?
In these examples, the “judges” under the spotlight are in USA and in Turkey. The USA case was not under Hague Convention, but the real world parenting issues are similar.

The terror of the politically correct – Karen Woodall

Filed under: Gender Politics,General,Law & Courts — MurrayBacon @ 5:08 pm

While many men are sitting delicately, on their oversized derrieres, it is women who are getting out and actively doing something to protect children’s rights to have a relationship with their fathers….

No, I am not suggesting drug or electric shock treatment for your lethargy, more adrenaline injections from extreme violence…..

Anyway, maybe reading Karen Woodall’s blogsite will give many useful directions:

Out with the old and in with the new: on shared parenting and the road ahead (2)

Tue 25th September 2012

NZ Police: Nearly 50 per cent of children who die as a result of family violence are killed by their mothers

Filed under: Domestic Violence,Gender Politics,Law & Courts — Vman @ 1:31 pm

NZ Police today released a report summarising the findings of 95 family violence death reviews involving 101 victims between 2004 and 2011.

The report, which did not include all deaths that occurred during that period, found 15 out of 33 child victims were killed by their mums.

Five newborn babies were killed by women who concealed their pregnancies, while six children were killed by their mothers prior to them committing suicide.

The most common cause of death was head trauma. Suffocation or drowning by the mother was also on the list.

The article provides a complete breakdown of relationship violence resulting in death. For NZ this is ground breaking stuff and we need to spread this data far and wide.

Family violence death toll revealed

Letter to Hon Paula Bennett Re: Child Support and Benefit Abuse

Filed under: Child Support — rawkusworldwide @ 1:09 pm

Dear Paula

I wish to draw your attention to a case that has come to light with Child Support NZ.

My husband and his ex wife had a private arrangement where he paid her child support each month as a cash payment. She went on a benefit during this time and did not notify him of the change in circumstances or furnish his correct contact details to CSA NZ for collection, in spite of being in regular contact. (more…)

Black Ribbons March On

Filed under: General — Ministry of Men's Affairs @ 12:07 pm

We are going to set up a table promoting the Black Ribbon Campaign – Show You Care About Men each Saturday in October, 10am to 2pm, as follows:

Saturday 6 October: Manurewa town centre
Saturday 13 October: Red Square, Tauranga
Saturday 20 October: St Kevin’s Arcade, K Rd, Auckland
Saturday 27 October: Garden Place, Hamilton

We warmly invite you to call in and support the campaign (or disagree with it if that’s your bent). We will be seeking donations and distributing black ribbons, badges and information pamphlets.

Remember that if you would like a package including a black ribbon, badge and information pamplet sent to you, please send your postal address to mmainnz@gmail.com. We would appreciate a donation of $5 (or more) to the Black Ribbon Campaign account 38-9008-0274760-00.

I have recently become aware that there is an ongoing Black Ribbon Campaign with the slogan ‘Combatting Feminist Lies’, attributed to the New Zealand Equality Education Foundation and the International Ex-Fetus Association. I see both campaigns as being towards similar ends and can support each other.

We will be out there and hope to see some of you!

‘Time for a Change’ in how we address DV?

Filed under: Domestic Violence,Gender Politics,Law & Courts — MurrayBacon @ 11:29 am

Written for FathersCan by Dr. Don Dutton PHD-for national and International distribution

‘Time for a Change?’

What do Chris Brown, Ike Turner, and OJ Simpson have in common? They are all famous men who beat their wives. Chris Brown’s case got maximum exposure on Oprah, Ike Turner was vilified in a movie, OJ got all day/every day coverage at his murder trial. Our ability to remember them as examples of “wife beaters” is called the availability he uristic- we develop these associations largely from high profile media events. Since an availability heuristic- the examples of domestic violence we can call to mind- shapes our beliefs and judgments about an issue like domestic violence, the question is raised whether these media examples are representative of typical domestic violence.

The answer is that they are not. They misrepresent domestic violence in three ways by making the perpetrators appear to always be black, male and acting alone. Reality bites- when large sample victim surveys that ask about domestic violence are done, a very different picture emerges. In the first place, domestic violence is not more common in black relationships than white or other racial groups. Perhaps more surprisingly, the stereotype of the male as a bully and the female as hapless victim is not supported by the data. Surveys from 1989 to 2007 keep finding the same thing; the most common form of domestic violence is two -way- both partners assault each other at about the same level of severity. Women are hurt somewhat more but only somewhat- men get hurt too for the obvious reason that everyday weapons get used, knives, frying pans, and boiling water, amongst other things.

Sun 23rd September 2012

Owen Glenn is wasting his money

Filed under: Domestic Violence — JohnPotter @ 1:43 pm

Independent enquiry!!! was the subject of the email I recieved yesterday, noting that Owen Glenn is launching an inquiry into domestic violence and with the comment that this could be a chance for men’s concerns to be heard.

He’s Just Swapped His Fists For The System

Cartwright Seminar

Concerns that Family Court failing women and children


Tue 18th September 2012

2012 Women’s Refuge Conference

Filed under: General — Ministry of Men's Affairs @ 9:18 pm

2012 Women’s Refuge Conference

Child Support – unfair doubling up of support payments where provision has already been made via voluntary agreement

Filed under: Child Support — rawkusworldwide @ 7:43 pm

I welcome any constructive feed back or suggestions that could assist me with the following:

The background is that I have 4 children, the youngest is 23 years of age and resides in France. I have been working overseas and recently returned to Australia which has been my primary residence since 96 when I left NZ. I had been back in Australia for 2 years when I received a liability from Child Support NZ for $89k. I was aghast as I had paid child support directly to my ex wife for all the years my children were dependent. Upon investigation it would appear the liability goes back to 2002 for a 1 year period and from Dec 05 – May 08. (more…)

Sat 15th September 2012

NZ, the power of a woman’s word.

Filed under: Child Support — Mikey @ 7:25 pm

The New Zealand IRD (i hope google picks this up) took my ex wife’s word that I earnt money under the table, when I was clearly destitute on the DPB and after having lost my my business in 2008. They assessed me on my previous year’s income and after the review I got a letter which pointed to a previous court case where a dad refused to work to avoid child support. (more…)

Fri 14th September 2012

The place of the father & child support: the bible’s perspective

Filed under: Child Support,General,Law & Courts — Divorced_Man @ 4:58 pm

(Disclaimer: I’m writing this article since our Minister is a Christian, with a hope that his legislation of child support will be influenced by it. I have no intention to convince any of you to become a Christian – I’m not a Christian myself! I just have knowledge of the bible, have researched the scriptures and one of my hobbies is research of international history/cultures)

Payments of child support are not directly mentioned in the bible, although the financial responsibility of the father to the children, even under situations of separation or divorce, is straightforward when you read the bible. (more…)

Wed 12th September 2012

Child support answer needed

Filed under: General — Mikey @ 4:15 pm

Both my daughters dropped out of school when they turned 16. Now they spend all day at home doing nothing, not working etc. it’s been over 8 months. Their mother is in support of this. I understand that child support continues until 19 or such full time employment over 30 hours a week. Does this mean that my daughters get a three year paid holiday and I don’t get do do anything about it?

Not waving but drowning: preventing male suicide

Filed under: General,Men's Health — MurrayBacon @ 1:14 pm

Male Health Research and Policy Workshop

This workshop was hosted by the Institute of Policy Studies and the University of Otago Wellington and was held on June 1, 2010.

In recent years some health researchers have suggested that more attention needs to be given to developing strategies for improving men’s health. This workshop therefore aimed to define where the problems lie, explore information gaps, highlight a set of policies and programs currently making a difference, and identify some possible broad research and policy agendas.

Sun 9th September 2012

Social Media and family law

Filed under: General — Scrap_The_CSA @ 6:28 pm

Facebook, Other Social Media Coming Into Play in Child Support Cases
Learn more about how online postings are becoming an important part of family law conflicts.

September 08, 2012 /24-7PressRelease/ — Facebook, Twitter and other social media websites are marketed to the public as a way to maintain interpersonal connections, and as a source of entertainment. However, the value of social media as a data-mining tool is increasingly coming to the forefront in contexts that can have important, real-world consequences.

One of those contexts is the courtroom. Of course, everyone has heard the news stories about hapless criminals who post evidence of their malfeasance online. Yet, the power of social media in the courtroom often operates on a much more subtle level. More and more, Facebook and similar sites are being utilized in family-law cases in addition to criminal prosecutions.

How Is Social Media Becoming Relevant To Family Law Cases?

Sat 8th September 2012

Costs from False Allegations

Filed under: General,Law & Courts — MurrayBacon @ 7:34 pm

Prosecutions should only proceed when it is in the public interest, for example when there is sufficient evidence that there is a reasonably prospect of gaining a conviction.

When there is no workable system of accountability for prosecutors, then defective prosecutions may still occur. From the prosecutor’s perspective, successes gain public credit (and wrongful prosecutions just result in private costs to the innocent victims, garnished with public humiliation for the innocent victims).

In the longer run, the costs often come back onto the Government, as compensation to victims for prosecution malpractice. Although this is an old problem in NZ, it has never been satisfactorily been resolved. I have seen one police prosecutor who appeared to understand these issues and she behaved accordingly, which is far more than I can say for most of the men prosecutors I have seen in NZ. (I haven’t seen enough to be able to make valid overall conclusions.)

Legislative Process in Perspective

Filed under: Domestic Violence,Gender Politics,Law & Courts,Men's Health — MurrayBacon @ 6:58 pm

When I was younger and had never seen the inside of a caughtroom, I thought legislation guided judges, in rather clearly defined manner.

Having seen several caught cases proceed, I eventually came to the conclusion that more often than not, Parliament and legislation is several years behind changes in judge’s behaviour. Tail wagging the dog? This is politely called “judicial activism”, but less charmingly may be called malpractice, incontinence, senility, hormonality or corruption.

RIP Andrew Wotton

Filed under: General — Alastair @ 2:54 pm

RIP Andrew.

WOTTON, Andrew Grant. Passed away 3 September due to a tragic accident, aged 54. (more…)

Fri 7th September 2012

Protecting your children from familycaught$

Filed under: General — MurrayBacon @ 11:43 am

SFO relying on corruption whistle-blowers

Parents who are concerned to protect the lives and quality of life of their children (who are being forced to deal with familycaught$), need to look very carefully at how they plan to protect the lives of their children and grandchildren. – MurrayBacon

Thu 6th September 2012

Steve Taylor’s press release

Filed under: General,Law & Courts — MurrayBacon @ 11:44 pm

This is Steve Taylor’s Press Release [about Judge Boshier and the latest Family Court Reforms] …… The percentages he quoted are from the Govt’s own report into the Family Court apparently.

Debate about familycaught$ Leighton Smith NewsTalk ZB

Filed under: General — MurrayBacon @ 7:30 pm

Recently, Leighton Smith has allowed some talk back discussion about familycaught$, on News Talk ZB

A friend told me that the discussion has been wide ranging and positively focussed.

I suggest to listen and perhaps take part!

Leighton Smith Show 8.30 am to 12 pm
– Murray Bacon.

Wed 5th September 2012

History of Child Support

Filed under: Child Support,Gender Politics,General,Law & Courts — MurrayBacon @ 1:48 pm

History of Child [and Spousal] Support

The best concise record of the history that I have seen, is by Barry Pearson in UK.

While his website is available, it is quicker and easier to read Barry Pearson’s website. The headings of the two articles below, take you to the source website.

As his website might one day be closed, I have taken the liberty of copying the essence into the MENZ website.

There have been quite a few postings recently on MENZ about “Child [and Spousal] Support”, which have taken the viewpoint of the accused father.
If we wish to address the problems that result, for fathers, mothers and children, we need to see these issues also from the viewpoints of taxpayers, beneficiaries and children in particular.

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