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Fri 30th April 2010

The dirty secret of sex slavery.

Filed under: General — Vman @ 7:14 pm

Feminism and the refuge industry will have you believe the sex industry is awash with exploited girls forced into the sex trade against their will. The dirty secret is that (at lest in the UK) it doesn’t exist. It is a myth. This is so extremely rare to be inconsequential even though there are thousands of desperate illegal immigrant women in that country. However this fact is being hushed up.

This article makes for interesting reading.

Institutionalized Favouritism Towards Female Offender

Filed under: General — Ministry of Men's Affairs @ 12:56 am

Day after day our news media report blatant examples of denigration, disrespect, disenfranchisement and neglect towards men and institutionalized favouritism towards women, but here’s one that deserves some kind of prize. (more…)

Thu 29th April 2010

Children’s inheritance dilemma

Filed under: General,Law & Courts — lido @ 1:06 pm

I have shared care and guardianship of my two children. They have been left a substantial amount of money by my ex-partner’s grandmother (their Great-Grandmother) which will set them up for life. I have only learnt about this by accident from a 3rd party. My ex-partner is taking my children to court to take their inheritance money from them and so she obviously doesn’t want me to have any knowledge of this as she knows that I will be of the opinion that the money should stay in trust for the children until they are old enough. I am being kept in the dark at the moment by their mother, her family, her lawyer and also the lawyer acting for the Estate. Everybody seems to want to push this through the courts as a done deal and rip my children off.

Now that I know, I am trying to find out more about how I can prevent their Mother from taking their money. She is in another relationship now with a guy who has children of his own. Obviously, if this all turns to custard further down the line, then he will likely walk off with half of my children’s money.

I was wondering if anyone out there has had a previous experience like this and if anyone knows if this is considered a guardianship issue so that I can have my say in the courts. My lawyer thinks that it is, but is not 100% sure at the moment and is doing some investigations. However, time is of the essence as their mother has already started court proceeds to have her Grandmother’s will overturned.

I would be grateful to hear from anyone with assistance with this dilemma. Many thanks!!!!!!

Tue 27th April 2010


Filed under: General — Vman @ 7:01 pm

I think most people on this site believe a child needs a mother and a father. I also believe this to be true.

These days it is possible for a single man to have a child by surrogacy. That is his sperm, a donor egg from woman 1, a surrogate woman to give birth. The child is his biological child and if he does his research neither of the surrogate women involved have any claim on the child. For example the egg donor may be from Ukraine and the birth surrogate in India. The both get paid for their services, they are happy and go on their merry way.

What this means is that the father has the child knowing that it will not have a mother unless some woman comes along and takes this role. Rather like a mother dying in child birth (only with surrogacy you know this will happen before conception).

Now this child is being brought into the world with one parent by choice. Is this wrong?

Keep in mind that any child has at least a 50% chance of being reduced to one parent by choice any way. The mothers choice. These children have loved a father and had that taken from them = suffering.

The following pages keeps being deleted from Wikipedia by feminsts.

Filed under: General — Vman @ 6:42 pm

Marriage strike

A ‘marriage strike’ is the social phenomenon of men seeking to avoid marriage. The ‘marriage strike’ specifically refers to the action of men living within the Western world. Advocates of the marriage strike believe that after a considered cost-benefit analysis, the legal contract that is modern marriage no longer represents an attractive option for men living in the West’s changed legal, economic, sociological, cultural and demographic environment.

Advocates of the marriage strike hold that through the combination of laws permitting no-fault divorce and prevailing conditions in divorce courts that are substantially more likely to favor the wife over the husband in disputes over child custody, visitation rights, ownership of the family residence and other shared property, child support, and alimony. It is possible for a woman to divorce her husband unilaterally while simultaneously depriving him of the right to see his offspring and financially crippling him. They argue that since the divorce rate is high, and since women are more likely than men to seek no-fault divorce, scenarios like the above are a likely outcome of marriage, and that many men, fearing such an outcome, choose not to marry. There have been numerous studies showing that a range of 60 to 93 percent of no-fault divorces in the United States were initiated by women, usually against a man who works a blue-collar job, for grounds cited as “emotional unfulfillment.”
Legal Causations of Emerging Western Marriage Strike
Divorce Penalty

Marriage, while being publicly understood as a union between man and woman, is also a legal contract. On divorce, the court deems that a legal contract is considered broken, and legal consequences come into effect. There is a dissolution of the previously shared financial assets of the married couple. Assets are divided for distribution to both parties by a court ruling. Typically, a woman will receive 50% ownership of the couple’s assets on initiation of divorce. These assets include property, housing, vehicles, savings, and investments.
No-fault divorce

No-fault divorce is divorce in which the dissolution of a marriage does not require fault of either party to be shown, or, indeed, any evidentiary proceedings at all. It occurs on petition to the court, typically a family court by either party, without the requirement that the petitioner show fault on the part of the other party. Either party may request, and receive, the dissolution of the marriage, despite the objections of the other party.
Divorce and Children

In the Western world, family law is structurally more likely to award child custody to a child’s mother in the case of divorce . This legal situation results in fathers often having very limited access to their children after divorce. In an attempt to balance the rights and needs of the mother, father, and children, courts may award a couple joint custody of their children after divorce.
Male Alternatives to Marriage
Cohabitation Without Marriage

Proponents of the marriage strike advise that men should simply cohabit (live with a girlfriend), and not actually marry. Living with a girlfriend presents a legally safer alternative, with marriage’s benefits to men, with a reduction in the penalties found within marriage.

De-facto Law:

However, it should be noted that family law can also be applied in some Western nations (eg, Australia) and other nations (eg Brazil) to de-facto relationships such as these. After a certain length of time, the breakup of a non-marriage, live-in relationship can legally result in a man losing his assets to his ‘de-facto wife’, as considered by the law.
Pre-nuptial Agreement

A prenuptial agreement, commonly abbreviated to ‘prenup’, is a contract entered into by two people prior to marriage. The content of a prenuptial agreement can vary widely, but commonly includes provisions for the division of property should the couple divorce and any rights to spousal support during or after the dissolution of marriage.

Prenuptial agreements are not always fully recognized by law in case of divorce. Prenuptial agreements are, at best, a partial solution to obviating some of the risks of marital property disputes in times of divorce. They are not the final word.
Foreign Women

Full article: Mail-order bride

Another form of the marriage strike is to single out only American women, or women from any English-speaking country (such as the United Kingdom, Canada, Australia, or New Zealand) for shunning. English-speaking women are characterized as rude, aloof, selfish and brainwashed by feminism. Instead, such marriage strikers encourage men to marry women from other, usually developing, countries. Most often mentioned countries are Latin American, Eastern European, or Asian countries, such as the Philippines, Thailand, Japan, Mexico, Colombia, Brazil, Russia, Ukraine and Poland. They state that such women are more likely to appreciate marriage than American women and are much less likely to divorce. Some even go so far as to urge the men to move to the other country and live there rather than bring the foreign wife back to the United States, in case she gets “infected” by feminist ideas; citing horror stories of foreign women using the man for a green card and ripping him off.

In 2005, the International Marriage Broker Regulation Act was attached to the Violence Against Women Act and was passed. The passage of IMBRA includes placing restrictions on visas given to women who meet an American man through an online dating service. Many marriage strikers have assailed the law as a spiteful attempt to protect American women from foreign competition, as a sort of “love tariff”. In fact, despite the term “mail-order bride”, most marriages between American men and foreign women do not use “mail-order bride” services. However, IMBRA can come into effect from any online correspondence, not just through a dating service.
See also

* Alimony
* Bachelor
* Child support
* Families Need Fathers
* Family law
* Fathers’ rights
* Involuntary celibacy
* Masculism
* Misandry
* Palimony


* US National Center for Health Statistics: Divorce rate in 2003 was 50% of the marriage rate
* 15% of men are awarded custody, unchanged since 1994 (see p. 1).
* As a matter of routine in family court, fathers are awarded four days a month visitation to see their children.
* Annual support payments increase 18% to $40 billion paid by 7.8 million separated parents, 6.6 million are fathers
* Up to $4.1 billion available to states that create support and arrearage orders, and then collect (see 6B, 6C, & 6D).
* Divorced/separated men commit suicide 400% more than women (see # 5, 15).

Further reading

* Dump Your Wife NOW! Blog – A blog united with the men’s movement. Thought provoking original articles on men’s liberation, masculism, as well as articles taking aim at radical feminism and the marriage strike.
* No Marriage – A case study against marriage to an American woman
* Why Men Won’t Commit: Exploring Young Men’s Attitudes About Sex, Dating and Marriage by Barbara Dafoe Whitehead PhD and David Popenoe PhD
* The Marriage No-Shows by Carey Roberts
* Have Anti-Father Family Court Policies Led to a Men’s Marriage Strike? By Glenn Sacks and Dianna Thompson
* Women Lose When Feminists Bash by Carey Roberts
* The Marriage Strike by Wendy McElroy
* Lysistrata Complete text of the play Lysistrata by Aristophanes
* Eternal Bachelor blog – The thoughts and musings of a man who has cheated a woman out of a divorce settlement.
* Stay Single, Young Man! – by Vox Day.
* Don’t Make Her Mad – Thwart the false pretext of a divorce (domestic violence/fear thereof) via surveillance of the false allegation.

Index: A B C D E F G H I J K L M N O P Q R S T U V W X Y Z

This article is based on “Marriage strike” from the free encyclopedia Wikipedia (http://en.wikipedia.org). It is licensed under the terms of the GNU Free Documentation Licencse. In the Wikipedia you can find a list of the authors by visiting the following address: http://en.wikipedia.org/w/index.php?title=Marriage+strike&action=history

The Mental Health and Parenting Practices of Recently Separated Parents Survey

Filed under: General,Men's Health — Julie @ 12:17 am

Approximately one half of committed relationships (marriage or de facto) result in separation — that’s a lot of separated adults. Between August 2007 and July 2008, the Family Court in New Zealand granted 10,000 divorces — and that doesn’t account for all of the de facto relationships that ended during that time. The breakup of a committed relationship is a stressful event. In fact, separation and divorce have been ranked as the second-most stressful events in life after the death of a spouse. Overseas research has found that people going through a divorce are more at risk for psychological difficulties (like anxiety and depression and the overuse of alcohol) than people who are married, or people who have never been married. Interestingly, it seems that there may be some differences between men and women with regards to these difficulties. Some research says that men struggle more than women, and other research says that women struggle more than men. One of the reasons that these differences have been found may be that people are usually only asked once about how they’re coping. So, maybe women suffer more at the beginning and men suffer more later on, or vice versa. If they’re only asked once about it, the researchers may never know that things got better (or worse). Unfortunately, we don’t have that information about separated parents in New Zealand.

In 2008, there was an average of nearly two children involved per divorce in New Zealand, which suggests that a large proportion of divorces involve people who have children. So, how much more stressful is separation when there are children involved? Anxiety about the children’s welfare adds a huge burden to the already-difficult process of separating from someone you’ve loved and shared your life with for a considerable period of time. Needing to communicate and co-operate with someone who makes you feel sad or angry or guilty or scared is very difficult. Working out how children are going to continue to get the best out of both parents can be a minefield of frustration and anxiety and even despair. It’s been suggested that parents going through a divorce are twice as likely to think about suicide than parents who are not going through a divorce. Some research says that fathers who don’t have custody of their children are at particular risk for mental health problems.

Read the rest of the quoted article here

This sounds like a terrific survey to get involved with and it would be a terrible shame if an opportunity for men’s voices to be heard passed by with just a whisper. At the moment 83% of the participants are female meaning only 17% are male. That’s sad when you consider 50% of participants in separation are female/male.

If this sounds like something you personally can participate in please take the time to fill out your answers, or if this is something your partner can participate in, or your brother, father, friend etc., etc., please pass this on and encourage them to take some time to share.

For details about the researcher click here

To participate in the survey click here

Thu 22nd April 2010

What Women Need to Know about Men.

Filed under: General — Vman @ 5:47 pm

Given the huge amount of time and words women spend discussing relationships I find it rather surprising how little the majority of women understand about men.

Here is an article titled What Women Need to Know about Men.

NZ lags well behind Australia

Filed under: Law & Courts — Vman @ 4:39 pm

The New Zealand Family Court is at least 8 years behind Australia and this gap is growing.
Have a read of this article from the Sydney Morning Heard published in Oct 1996.

Since then these changes and also changes to Child Support have been made in Australia. The judiciary are only slowly changing but they are changing. It is harder for mothers to relocate, more shared parenting decisions are being made and there is a much more equitable child support scheme. (more…)

Mon 19th April 2010

More vengence from an ex partner?

Filed under: General — Vman @ 5:32 pm

Two Rotorua women broke into a man’s house, burgled him and then black mailed him.

One of them is a midwife. If she is found guilty it is my opinion she should be banned from midwifery or any medical profession. However I doubt there is any mechanism for this ban to occur. Imagine the out cry if a male doctor had behaved this way.

Of more interest is that one of these women has name suppression. This leads me to suspect that she is/was married to the man and naming her would identify him and/or some children.

Whether or not children are part of the equation, one can speculate that this criminal enterprise is a female being abusive and vengeful to an ex partner.

Jail for sex outside marriage?

Filed under: General — Vman @ 5:21 pm

A woman in Dubai is alleging rape.

Consider the following law in a rational and objective manner. It occurs to me that the Dubai laws are in fact more just than our system. Although when I say that I assume that the judge has the option to rule that he can’t confirm either person’s version of events and thus discharge both people without conviction. Certainly the Dubai system has plenty of flaws. However on the face of it this does appear to be a more rational approach. (more…)

Male teachers should have insurance benefit.

Filed under: General — Vman @ 5:10 pm

Male teachers should be give an extra benefit paid by the government. That is an insurance fund to pay the legal costs in any abuse allegation plus compensation for the stress and impact on their career.

I have no idea if the current case is valid or not. For all I know this guy may be a raving predator. On the other hand he may be innocent and facing a huge legal bill to defend himself. He says he was naive. Well frankly pretty much any male teacher would have to be naive to get into the profession. What would be the point of a career in teaching for a male? The risks far out weigh the rewards.

The myths persist.

Filed under: General — Vman @ 3:52 pm

No matter how many times mothers kill and seriously harm their own children the myth that this is exceptional persists.

Gabriela Espinosa, 23 was arrested early Saturday after police said she admitted drowning her 2 month old baby boy while they were interviewing her following a traffic stop, ABC TV station KFSN in Fresno, USA reported.

“What’s really unique in this situation isn’t just that an innocent child died, but that a child died at the hands of his own mother,” Fresno Police Department Deputy Chief Robert Nevarez said.

What is really unique about that? Mothers murder their own children more often than anyone else.

It is mind blowing how deep seated the refusal to acknowledge the true risk factors for children are.

Pre-nups – another deceitful example of family law.

Filed under: Law & Courts — Vman @ 1:35 pm

A New York woman spent 9.5 years in divorce proceedings screwing over her ex husband. Nothing new about that. What made the news was that having realised how easy it is for a determined woman to destroy an ex husband it dawned on her that some other woman could do the same thing to her son. Therefore she turned her spitefulness on her son’s fiancé because they got married without a Pre-nuptial agreement. (more…)

Sun 18th April 2010

Highest Court in Oz has LIAR judge.

Filed under: General,Law & Courts — amfortas @ 4:43 pm

Australian Government Remains Silent on Judicial Fraud
Thursday, April 15, 2010

By Ash Patil

The 7th of April 2010 marked the fourth anniversary of the Magill v Magill paternity fraud case in Australia, effectively creating two remarkable precedents in terms of the perpetuation of fraud in this country. (more…)

Aussie Child Tax Paternity Update

Filed under: General — Scrap_The_CSA @ 12:35 pm

Australian men reclaim child support through DNA tests after law change

Australian fathers are reclaiming thousands of dollars in child support payments after a change in the law allowed them to demand DNA tests on children

Peter Dunne(Nothing) could have followed the Aussie lead instead of doing nothing about Paternity Fraud. (Re-spun by academics as Misattributed Paternity)

These children have a fundenental human right to be assured of their Paternity and the rich heritage that is their paternal family.

Come on Peter Dunne Nothing  DO SOMETHING – implement the same law in New Zealand.



Wed 14th April 2010

Cure for prostate cancer F77

Filed under: General — Vman @ 6:37 pm

I have only just found out about the F77 cure for prostate cancer.

Has this been widely reported?

Is NZ allocating funds to speed this into clinical trials stage?
Surely a cure for cancer as promising as this would have government funding pouring into it? Oh wait this cancer only affects males.

Should we have happy fathers?

Filed under: General — Vman @ 3:29 am

I’d like to know your thoughts on this subject.
I am interested in long term happiness. The kind of happiness when you can say you have a happy and forfulling life. I think it is important.

MENZ – – promoting a clearer understanding of men’s experience –

Does it matter to society if fathers are happy?

Why is this never researched?

What are the consequences?

Does this affect your quality of life?

Should society care?

What enables fathers to be happy?

Mon 12th April 2010

Suicides prompt child custody shakeup

Filed under: General — gh @ 9:05 am

article here

A high suicide rate among people involved in Family Court custody proceedings has prompted the country’s top family judge to shake up the system.

The court is speeding up the way it deals with childcare disputes, particularly when they involve potential violence or abuse.

Principal Family Court Judge Peter Boshier said too many people were losing hope when cases dragged on, and were taking their own lives. “If they can’t see a solution in sight then what started off as depression becomes full-on hopelessness. I am driven by a desire to give people a light at the end of the tunnel.”

Between May 2008 and June last year, 18 people died from suspected suicide. Judge Boshier had anecdotal evidence that suggested the pattern was continuing.

Cases involving family break-ups often resulted in bitter disputes between parents.

“Some parents use the court as a battleground to vent their frustrations with the other parent, and being able to do that is more important than concentrating on the real issue.

“This can cause considerable delay in resolving the issues, which can be harmful to the welfare of the children caught in the middle of these conflicts.”

From Monday, the more than 27,000 cases filed each year that relate to children will enter the court’s new early intervention process.

Cases in which there are safety concerns for children will be treated swiftly.

Parents in non-urgent cases will be sent to counselling. If this fails they will move on to lawyer-assisted mediation and then a conference before a judge.

If the parents are still unable to reach an agreement the case will go to a full hearing before a judge, with wait times no longer than a month.

Judge Boshier said the new system would be quicker, cheaper and more effective than the old one, once Justice Ministry staff and lawyers adjusted to the changes.

“The . . . process is a landmark for the court and will be one of its most significant reforms since the Family Court was created in 1981.

“We have struggled to control our custody conflicts for a long time and there are still too many cases that are taking too long to proceed through the system. Children need stability restored to their lives after the trauma of family break up. It is vital to their welfare that the conflict surrounding them is reduced . . . as soon as possible.”

Mental Health Foundation chief executive Judi Clements was delighted at the changes, which would reduce families’ stress and anxiety. “I applaud the move.”
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Law Society spokesman Paul Maskell said the group also supported the move. “Cases will come to judges much sooner and many families will get results from court a lot more quickly.”

Sun 11th April 2010

Family Court changes announced

Filed under: General — gh @ 11:26 am

Article here
A shake-up of Family Court processes will speed up child care cases, with those involving abuse or violence to receive urgent attention.

Principal Family Court Judge Peter Boshier, who announced the changes today, said cases involving family break-ups often saw bitter disputes between parents.

“This can cause considerable delay in resolving the issues, which can be harmful to the welfare of the children caught in the middle of these conflicts.”

From Monday the more than 27,000 cases filed each year which relate to children will enter the court’s new Early Intervention Process.

Where there are issues of safety for children they will be treated urgently with judges taking responsibility to ensure issues are dealt with swiftly.

Parties in non-urgent cases will be sent to counselling. If this fails they will move on to a lawyer-assisted mediation, then a conference before a judge.

Where the parents are still unable to reach an agreement the case will go before a full hearing under a judge, with wait times no longer than a month.

Judge Boshier said the new system would be quicker, cheaper and more effective than the old ways once Ministry of Justice staff and lawyers adjusted to the changes.

“The Early Intervention Process is a landmark for the court and will be one of its most significant reforms since the Family Court was created in 1981.

“Children need stability restored to their lives after the trauma of family break up, and it is vital to their welfare that the conflict surrounding them is reduced as much and as soon as possible.”

Sat 10th April 2010

Ministry of Womans Affairs Quiz

Filed under: General — Scrap_The_CSA @ 1:09 pm

This thread is a post of the comment by No Confidence to the Child Tax Quiz Thread.

Its way offf topic of the Child Tax Quiz and should be a thread of its own,



Who said this…

Of all the politically correct organisations littering our Capital, the big Mother of them all is the Ministry of Women’s Affairs (MoW). This is one so powerful under the Labour/PC coalition government that no man (or 49% of the population) is qualified to comment on it or its work.

Any man who makes any comment whatsoever about MoW is either sexist (if a negative comment) or patronizing (if he tries to be positive). Who are these powerful women?

Well, for a start, they aren’t women — not in the ordinary, every day usage of the term. They’re wimin. These wimin are not attached to men and they don’t have history, they have herstory. For them, gender equity quotas exist — but men need not apply. The men’s quota is zero. Men are not wanted by MoW. It’s not that all men are rapists — but they have the potential don’t they?

Should you ever wish to read a MoW document, then you can be assured of two things: it will commence with a list of the inequalities faced by wimin and then will reach a conclusion that men are paid more money than wimin and therefore we taxpayers need to fund more research by MoW into how to redress these inequalities. ‘



Fri 9th April 2010

Child Support Quiz

Filed under: Child Support — Scrap_The_CSA @ 6:36 pm

Who said this ? When did they say it?

The further point that follows from that is that when non-custodial parents are asked to pay a substantially increased sum of money into the State’s coffers to offset the cost of benefits those non-custodial parents will find it that much more difficult to engage in voluntary support for their children in all those many different ways in which that voluntary support occurs—by means of the payment of pocket money, by buying an occasional pair of shoes, by paying for the occasional music lesson, and all those kinds of things in which, in fact, non-custodial parents in those situations frequently engage. From the evidence presented to the select committee it was quite clear that a number of such parents will find it very difficult to engage in such payments in the future. Therefore, of course, their children will be that much worse off as a consequence. The custodial parent will not receive any additional income; the non-custodial parent will lose income.

Have a read of this, its very enlightening Child Tax history



Thu 8th April 2010

Wanted: 1000 women

Filed under: General — Vman @ 1:28 pm

We are looking for 1000 women to assist us to protect the rights of children.

WE NEED YOU! You can make a difference.

About 20% of children are denied the right to know who their biological parent is for no good reason.

We want 1000 women to name Mr Peter F Boshier as the father of their child. (more…)

Wed 7th April 2010

Reproductive rights

Filed under: Boys / Youth / Education,Child Support,Law & Courts — Vman @ 3:54 pm

Men have no reproductive rights. In fact they are punished and held in servitude for the reproductive choices of women. Think I am exaggerating? Think again.

Here is an American group raising awareness of this issue.

“The problems connected to unwanted pregnancies exist not because a guy has sex. Sex will always happen. The problems happen because American males simply are not aware of how dating, sex and our legal system work against them.”

This stuff should be part of the education we give boys. We could start by having volunteers give a lecture at voluntary senior classes in boys schools.

A teenage solo parent

Filed under: General — Vman @ 3:35 pm

Here is an article about a solo teenage parent, written in 2005.

Worth reading I think.

Tue 6th April 2010

Peter Dunne Child Tax Quotes

Filed under: General — Scrap_The_CSA @ 11:49 am

Time to analyse the words of Child Tax Administrator Dunne Nothing.

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