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Tue 31st August 2010

Womens Refuge defends violent murderer

Filed under: Domestic Violence — Scrap_The_CSA @ 3:54 pm

From the Dompost :

A woman who fatally stabbed her partner in the chest with a kitchen knife has been sentenced to just eight years in jail.

Jacqueline Elaine Wihongi, 33, “self-medicated” with alcohol after a tragic “history of victimhood”, a court was told yesterday. She is believed to be just the second person to receive less than a life sentence for murder.

Wihongi was found guilty in June of murdering her partner of 17 years, Vivian Hirini. But in the High Court at Napier yesterday, Justice John Wild said it would be manifestly unjust to sentence the mother-of-six to life imprisonment.

Women’s Refuge has hailed the decision as “brave and right”, and the justice minister says there are no plans to review the law that allowed the sentence……

Police were often called to attend to their altercations, which were often physical. Mr Hirini had been stabbed by her previously and had lost an eye when she hit him with a bottle….

Crown lawyer Steve Manning said this was not a case of “battered woman syndrome” and Wihongi had directed significant violence toward Mr Hirini in the years leading up to the murder….

Women’s Refuge spokeswoman Kiri Hannifin praised the judge for considering the “appalling violence” Wihongi had suffered.

“Given the horrendous life she has led, we believe that it was valid to weigh up whether it would be manifestly unjust to impose the presumption of life and come to the conclusion it was not.

“It was brave and right to impose a finite sentence…

We keep on being bombarded with the “its not OK’ campaign that shows men beating women and children.

I say again – its not OK for a woman to be repeatedley violent to a man and get off in the justice system with a slap with a wet bus ticket!

Women’s Refuge clearly supports the position that domestic violence against men is OK and that it can be mitigated by women perpetrator playing the victim card.

This is a shocking sentence and this violent woman has been treated very differently than a man is in the same circumstances.

Either its not OK to be violent to your partner and justice is meted out equally or it is OK if you can play the victim.

Women’s Refuge -all I can say to you is Shame on you!

Sun 29th August 2010

The Sex Abuse Counselling Empire Strikes Back

Filed under: General,Sex Abuse / CYF — JohnPotter @ 11:18 am

Felicity, my family and I feature prominently in the Sunday Star-Times today.

On the bottom of front page: “Academic with links to sex abusers silent on role in drafting ACC rules
Special Investigation, section C: “Conflicting interests?

The central message of these two stories; that Felicity was influential in the recent changes to ACC payments for sex-abuse counselling; is a fabrication, and will no doubt be corrected by ACC in due course. All the old dirt about Centrepoint is just that.
[Edit Aug 2013: Here is Felicity Goodyear-Smith‘s response to this attack.]

Sat 28th August 2010

Legal Aid in the Family Court

Filed under: Law & Courts — JohnPotter @ 6:55 pm

Last Wednesday I received a message on my voice mail from TVNZ looking for someone from a men’s group to comment on a recent speech about Legal Aid in the Family Court by Justice Minister Simon Power. Unfortunately, I didn’t get back to them in time to make any suggestions about who to talk to.

Power’s speech, to Otago University Legal Issues Centre on 25th August, was titled Challenging Tradition.

Some of the issues raised by the Minister include:

  • the length of time some Family Court cases drag on without satisfactory resolution
  • the need for incentives to divert cases away from the court
  • the possible use of duty solicitors for giving speedy legal advice
  • greater use of cost orders to deter vexatious litigants
  • greater restrictions on who can access legal aid
  • Bringing lawyer-for-the-child under the umbrella of legal aid

Here is the section of Simon Power’s speech of most interest to MENZ readers:

What Men Want – in bed

Filed under: Men's Health — JohnPotter @ 3:10 pm

New book by Bettina Arndt

Across the world, the story is the same. Sex scandal. Media frenzy. Another prominent man caught with his pants down. So why do men take such risks for sex?

What Men Want - in bed by Bettina Arndt

Sex therapist Bettina Arndt’s new book, What Men Want–in bed is all about why sex matters so much to men. Over 150 men kept diaries for her, talking about what it is like to live with that constant sparking sexual energy–relentless, uncontrollable, all-consuming.

Their painfully honest, confronting, often hilarious stories explain their quest for sexual adventure, their secret delights, the thrill of giving pleasure, why some men turn to pornography and men’s delight in the Viagra revolution.

With every second man over fifty dealing with erection problems, Bettina offers advice on the wondrous new treatments giving men a new lease of sexual life. Her diarists explain what it is like to pop the little blue pills, or inject their best friend, or face impotence after prostate cancer treatments. Extraordinary his-and-hers diaries reveal how partners react to this bumpy journey showing the fallout when a man seeks a new lease of sexual life when his wife just wants him to hang up his spurs.

Thu 26th August 2010

Child Support Profiling

Filed under: General — Scrap_The_CSA @ 9:58 am

While this is Austrailian I suspect that similar happens here.

Fathers ‘stereotyped’ by Child Support Agency


August 26, 2010

THE government watchdog responsible for overseeing child support payments has been unfairly focusing on parents who do not pay enough while ignoring those who are getting too much, the Commonwealth Ombudsman says.

In a report that might not be well received by some single mothers, the acting Ombudsman, Ron Brent, found that the Child Support Agency had at times been unduly influenced by stereotypes about fathers not meeting their obligations.



Tue 24th August 2010

Simon Power, please give this Judge a job.

Filed under: Law & Courts — golfa @ 4:10 pm

Plotting ex-wife gets 7-14 years in jail

Kristin Ruggiero will spend 7 to 14 years in state prison for what police say was part of a years-long ploy to use the criminal justice system against her ex-husband, who was thrown in jail and nearly lost his career during a bitter divorce.

Judge Kenneth McHugh said Ruggiero’s attempt to set up her ex-husband and use the legal system as a weapon was unlike any other case he has seen.

Mon 23rd August 2010

A new paradigm for dealing with Men’s issues

Filed under: General — Scrap_The_CSA @ 7:48 pm

There has been a lot of debate recently on MENZ regarding the approach to solving the issues fathers/men face. A lot of it extremely negative and divisive.

Most contributors use what is caused a deficit research approach characterised by :

  • Identification of problems
  • Analysis of causes
  • Analysis of possible solutions
  • Plan of action (How will we “treat” this
  • Issues are seen as problems to be solved.


Sun 22nd August 2010

Protests + Men’s Rights in the Justice System

Filed under: Events — Julie @ 5:20 pm

A protest for men’s rights expresses a ……. strong reaction to the way father’s are treated through feminist anti father policy and procedure in New Zealand’s government departments, family and criminal courts and Child, Youth and Family Services (CYFS), ……… and a reaction against misandry – ‘the hatred of men’.

Men’s Rights Protesters protest ……….. as a way of publicly and forcefully making their opinions heard in an attempt to influence public opinion and government’s treatment on the nation’s men of all ages and ……… to undertake direct action in an attempt to directly enact desired changes themselves.

Because many father’s are wanting to protest in their own areas, leading protesters are touring the country. If you want to get involved in any area and need a lift – ask, if you need a place to stay – ask. It’s a team effort and men and women are happy to open their homes to protesters, drive them around, feed them and so on. If you’ve never been part of a protest – you’re in for a treat. Not only is protesting a great way of standing up for yourself, it’s a great release.

Dates, Times and Places.


Thu 19th August 2010

Holocaust in hollow court or the 3rd world standard of the Nelson fc

Filed under: General — MAX @ 11:02 am

“All it takes for Evil to win is for Good to do nothing”.

Part 5 (continued from Part 4, Wed. 30th June 2010)

(Like previously this story is not about the malicious mother (syndrome) since that is something I can’t do anything about. This post/story is part of exposing and dealing with the corruption of the Nelson FC and is only step 2 out of many more to come.)

(Continued). After my daughter and me not having seen each other for 2 years- because of the court having suspended contact and not allocated a hearing for that long, the judge now decided that: “there is no reason why the father can not have contact”, (meaning they admitted now that there was no reason (apart from the persecution of me) to have suspended contact to start off with), and ordered 10 sessions of counselling to reintroduce the child back with her father,

Mon 16th August 2010

Dunne and Income Splitting

Filed under: General — Scrap_The_CSA @ 6:46 pm

More than 300,000 families will be able to split their income for tax purposes and reduce their liability under legislation announced today by Revenue Minister Peter Dunne.

Mr Dunne has introduced the bill as leader of the United Future Party, and he has government support to get it through a first reading and into a select committee for public submissions.

It allows parents with children up to age 18 to combine their income and split it down the middle for tax purposes.

That would move each income into lower tax brackets and a tax credit would be paid out at the end of the year.

Because of the way the tax system works, the maximum amount that could be gained is just over $9000 a year.

The latest from our Child Tax Minister – meanwhile we continue to wait for reform of the child tax system.

I can imagine the child tax police taking numerous Commissioner initiated reviews to stop liable parents income splitting.

Hey if your on a high-income earner a $174.61 per week tax deduction must look appealing. 



Coming home!

Filed under: General — Julie @ 12:14 am

This’ll bring tears to your eyes!

Fri 13th August 2010

Sexual Statism – The end of men

Filed under: General,Law & Courts — Julie @ 9:03 am

Sometimes an article is perfect the way it is, and sometimes an article is soooo good it needs to be copied and pasted in it’s entirety. This is one such article. (with permission).

The decline of the male economy – and of fatherhood – arises less from the empowerment of women than from the government’s usurpation of the family.

By Stephen Baskerville

In “The End of Men,” the cover story of the July/August Atlantic, Hanna Rosin describes “how women are taking control of everything.” Suggesting that “the economics of the new era are better suited to women,” Rosin believes the fair sex are winning the struggle for the survival of the fittest. In what is apparently cause for celebration, she writes, “three-quarters of the 8 million jobs lost were lost by men” in the ongoing Great Recession. “The worst-hit industries were overwhelmingly male and deeply identified with macho: construction, manufacturing, high finance.” She contends that the economic crisis “merely revealed–and accelerated–a profound economic shift that has been going on for at least 30 years.”

The Atlantic used the same issue to ask, “Are Fathers Necessary?” Pamela Paul cites a widely publicized study purporting to prove that fathers are harmful in rearing children and that lesbians do it better. The study is politics camouflaged as social science–its authors acknowledge that the parenting virtues they extol are defined “in part in the service of an egalitarian ideology.” Their message echoes Rosin’s: within the home, as in the national economy, men are unreliable at best and pathological at worst. The Atlantic assures us that the decline of men is the product of impersonal forces against which we are powerless to respond, even if we wished to–which apparently we do not.

Wed 11th August 2010

Dunne on Closeup

Filed under: General — Scrap_The_CSA @ 1:51 pm

Revenue Minister Peter Dunne is calling for a change to the child support system, saying “too many children are suffering”.

Close Up revealed tonight that more than 500 parents earning more $100,000 dollars a year haven’t paid child support debts, and Inland Revenue seems powerless to do anything about it.

Dunne said the child support system has become “outdated” and “unreasonable,” and wants the issue addressed.

Make sure you watch the video, particuarly when Dunne is asked how long till change is on the Cabinet Agenda – “the next few weeks-I hope”.

Believe it when I see it!



Mon 9th August 2010

12 Steps to Recovering from being Male

Filed under: Boys / Youth / Education,General,Men's Health — MurrayBacon @ 10:24 pm

I am concerned at the angst showing in many recent posts on these pages. Some men are taking too long to climb out of their hurt and see all of the faces of the world surrounding us.

Are they taking responsibility for the hurts that they may have given?
12 Steps shows a good path, which includes righting the wrongs that you have done to others.
Wikipedia 12 Steps Programme

Thu 5th August 2010

Just fors Dads – newly formed men’s group

Filed under: General — Julie @ 3:54 pm

There’s a lot of famous trios out there, …. the 3 musketeers, three wise men, Marx Brothers…. Groucho,Chico and Harpo and another to add …. 3 fathers – Alfred Ngaro, Jack Scanlan and Chris Makoare who have started the group ‘Just for Dads’.

The fathers formed the group with the thought of it being more than just a service, but a collective — a “family” even and wearing T-shirts with their logo, 160 dads, mums and children attended their first event at a Warrior’s rugby game.

Alfred Ngaro is a former pastor and community worker, Jack Scanlan a police youth development programme manager and Chris Makoare a Family Centre manager. All three understand the importance of fatherhood in communities and how fatherlessness is affecting our communities. There is argument that fatherlessness is responsible for crime and argument that it’s more complicated, yet whatever the argument, it’s obvious father’s help keep communities safe.

To find out more about Just 4 Dads contact the Glen Innes Family Centre on 570-6250 or email admin@gifc.co.nz.

To read the full article on Just for Dads, click here. There’s also events organised by the Prostate community from camps to runs to rock climbing. Click here to see their 2010 calendar.

Tue 3rd August 2010

Women don’t do as much housework as men.

Filed under: General — Vman @ 11:47 am

Women wash the care less often:


Then there are the lawns, the garden, the rubbish, repairs, fixing the car, etc etc.

Sun 1st August 2010

Dads say child support system is failing our kids

Filed under: Child Support,General — Julie @ 7:07 pm

Union of Fathers president Allan Harvey says “The system is too crude at the moment and encourages one parent to be a care parent and one to be a cash parent. That’s not best for our children.”

Child support reform advocate James Nicolle also said the system was failing both parents and children. “It’s just not fair to anyone – I have seen case after case where people have been pushed to the wall by the amount of child support they have to pay”,

“Systems like this don’t work anywhere in the world. If you go to the UK, Australia, the United States, Europe . . any system that is based on a percentage of income of the parent results in massive debt. They don’t just work – they’re unsustainable,” Nicolle said.


Well done dads!!!

To read the rest of this story, click here.

Men Devalued in Suicide Strategy

Filed under: General — Ministry of Men's Affairs @ 5:19 pm

Many people will have heard mention of the NZ Suicide Prevention Strategy but won’t be aware of exactly what it says, or that it was produced by the Ministry of Health and funded by our taxes. The Strategy was published in 2006 and is intended to be in place until 2016. Well, we all know that men suicide on average at about three times the rate that women do (actually, for some age groups it’s five to six times as much, and the figures will not include many other suicides made to look like accidents). No other population factor (e.g. age, race, socio-economic status) shows the large effect that gender does regarding risk of suicide (except for children under 10 years old who are understandably many times less likely to suicide than are all older age groups). But surprise, surprise, the Strategy contains not one single component specifically aimed at reducing male suicide or addressing the factors that lead men to suicide. (more…)

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