FYI, my letter to Radio NZ: Dear Radio NZ Regarding your story yesterday (Wednesday 28 March) on the ‘study’ about Pets as Pawns in domestic violence, I considered nominating Radio NZ for the Skeptics ‘Bent Spoon’ award for gullible, uncritical acceptance and reporting of dubious claims.

Dr. Jayne Major’s article gives many useful ideas. The comments it makes about caught$ are probably somewhat unrealistic to hope for in NZ, as many “judges” in NZ, are too slow to deliver much useful action….. Parents Who Have Successfully Fought Parental Alienation Syndrome by Jayne A. Major, Ph.D. Nothing stirs up passions more than […]

Conflict of Interest can be a touchy subject, but it is very important that we keep in mind the consequences, or potential consequences. Resignation Announced NICK SMITH: “I have made not one error of judgement but two in dealing with a conflict of interest.” Embattled MP Nick Smith has resigned all of his Cabinet portfolios. […]

From the Hearld Online About three years ago the Government began a review of child support legislation, with all sides of the debate agreeing that the law is unfair, inflexible and causing many families serious harm. Last year a bill emerged, but there seems little enthusiasm to make progress and it is in 49th place […]

John Potter made the following comment: http://menz.org.nz/2012/triple-p-parenting-or-pet/comment-page-1/#comment-730030 It seems to me that the dynamics of parenting as a couple are quite different to how it is if you are solo. It’s not clear to me how well PPP addresses this issue. John has made the distinction between solo and separated. Another very important comparison, is […]

http://www.stuff.co.nz/national/crime/6606448/Hamilton-girl-made-false-rape-complaint-police The alleged abduction and sexual assault of a Hamilton schoolgirl was a false complaint, police say. The 15-year-old girl told police she had been forced into a car and raped while walking home from school on Durham St, Nawton on February 27. Detective sergeant Robbie Hermann of the Waikato CIB said investigators re-interviewed the […]

Taken from the “Stuff / Dominion Post” web site – 15 March 2012. “Pasted” in full here due to Stuff’s propensity to clean out the annuls of history. Just to maintain a bit of balance; it’s not only dispossessed dads that get upset with the state grannies at cyfs. Seems cyfs can rile up mums […]

Parenting training is often seen as an insult. This is unfortunate, as parenting skills are vitally important to the welfare of our children. Good parenting skills would also help negotiating skills, which alas may also be useful in making the best from being forced to separate. Parenting skills help with negotiating, which can also help […]

The NZ Herald has published an article on the best places to be a woman since it is/was 101st International Women’s Day. Note: 18) Best place to leave your husband: Guam

I find this story rather sureal. The situation seems to be that a family traveled willingly to another country. It is implied that the father then decided to stay in that country with his children and with the mother if she wishes. The mother was always free to leave at any time. The father has […]

On Tuesday, TVNZ ONE News screened an item: Male domestic violence victims speak out.

Submission regarding Open Marketplace Conversion of Family Court Review Questions Public Interest v Personal Matters – what role the Family Court should have in private family disputes; Generally the law should make clear the limits and people should be able to negotiate freely within those limits, without needing intervention from courts. Disputes relating to facts […]

Positive Men is grateful TradeMe has removed from its site an item that trivialises and makes fun of domestic violence. The “choking husband toy’ caused considerable outrage in the community, and Positive Men yesterday called upon TradeMe to immediately stop the auction of this offensive item.

Positive Men has expressed outrage that TradeMe is selling an item that trivialises and makes fun of domestic violence. The item is a “choking husband toy’. The seller says, “This is a toy that you will get a kick out of and it really helps if you angry with your partner or husband. You press […]

DownUnder gave examples of unsatisfactory and illegal performance by familycaught “judges”, so I though that a brief international comparison would help to understand this issue: NZ California The Constitution authorizes the Commission to continue proceedings after a judge retires or resigns UK Annual Report UK USA seems to be proactively addressing these issues. UK is […]

http://breakingviewsnz.blogspot.co.nz/2012/02/joanna-moss-how-financial-crisis-might.html SUNDAY, FEBRUARY 19, 2012 Joanna Moss: How A Financial Crisis Might Turn Into Much Needed Reforms Labels: Family Court, family policy, Joanna Moss The financial blow-out in the Family Court could be a blessing in disguise if the crisis is put to good use in terms of understanding the wider system and bringing in […]

The New Zealand Herald carried an article about 16 year jail sentences given to two executives, as a result of 3000 asbestos related deaths of workers and neighbours of the factory. Note that the executives didn’t bother to attend the trial and I guess might not care to attend the jail either?

Putting oneself into the position of another, is a challenge. Especially when the viewpoint is of children or babies, who are not well placed to verbalise their needs or desires. Joanna Rose has written about Donor Insemnation, from the viewpoint of the child and says that insufficient consideration is given to this viewpoint, in our […]

Family First lobby group have published a book about the consequences on children, of the use of daycare. This has aroused considerable response, from groups who feel that it criticises choices that they have made, in particular working women. Who Cares Mothers Daycare and Child Wellbeing in NZ

For those in Wellington or who can make it there on Friday, a few of us will be setting up the Ministry of Men’s Affairs in parliament grounds and raising awarenss of the Family Court review and mens/fathers’ issues around this. We hope to speak to a few relevent big wigs and perhaps a radio […]

Dear Health Sponsorship Council Positive Men has been established to promote the use of positive imagery of men and masculinity in the media in Aotearoa New Zealand. For far too long men have been demonised and portrayed as abusers. A rare positive portrayal was going to occur when All Black Piri Weepu was going to […]

Previously Scrap and I and several others considered the impact of DV Act onto saving the lives of women and children and came to the evaluation that it had negligible net positive impact. Quantitative Full analysis in submission Another issue raised in wider discussion, how many fathers give up on parenting their children and leave […]

The NZ government’s childrens action plan: Your opportunity to have your say here: 9 key questions etc. etc. Maybe it’s just me; but the more I looked at this government kids action plan, the more I thought about one irksome question; how many mums and dads have killed themselves as a direct result of the […]

new book by Warwick Pudney and Éliane Whitehouse. Young children can erupt like little volcanoes when they are feeling angry. It can be overwhelming and difficult to deal with, and can produce angry feelings in the parent or caregiver too. This book is packed with advice and strategies for those working with children under five […]

Either a marriage contract in New Zealand should be overhaulled to require man and wife to committ to each other or else Bigamy should be legal. We can’t have the current situation which is hypocracy. New Zealand marriage laws make no sence unless you view it as a contract to extract money from men and […]