Guilty until proven innocent

With 20 years jail in the balance, when will National publicly as Labour to clarify this policy.

Recollections of Father’s Day from older men might be a curiosity to younger readers.

For me, being the youngest in the Family, I recall the annual presentation of a white porcelain tea cup with pictures of old cars – we’re talking Model T Fords and Chrysler convertibles, just to be clear, not old bombs.

The modern perception of this annual religious fervour might have us as a bunch of tosspots following in some Old English custom. But it suited a man who didn’t like a lot of fuss, added to his valued collection, and reminded him daily his children had paid their annual respects in person.

Jump forward to 2017 (more…)

My name is Bill Clarke.

I am writing a book about fatherhood and I want to interview dads. I am interested in hearing their STORIES – about their fathers, or their own story of “Dads in distress” or “Dads in success” in raising their children.
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So as a man in his mid 40’s I had pretty much resigned to the fact that I was not going to become a father. I discovered that one partner I had for a few years was proud of her 11 abortions… shortly thereafter I gently tippytoed away from the secondary school teacher in a boys school in West Auckland. After that my next partner of 18 months announced she was pregnant, I knew she was before she told me, but she is so utterly impractical that she almost had to deliver to find out. Roll forward 3 years. We have a boy, she slept with some lucky bloke and I guess the guilt made her have to let me know, we were over. He can have her. (more…)

Here are a few thoughts regarding men and father issues this election. (more…)

A meeting will be held in Auckland on this day should the Ministry of Men’s Affairs choose to organise it.

Concerned Men can attend the meeting and express their opinions.

Let us know where this is. Venue to be advised.

In the absence of a physical venue, this meeting will be held online. See you all next Saturday.

Updated Saturday 4th November 2017;

The analysis of politics in history records easily enough, the lurching from crisis to crisis, the ‘failures’ and the ‘sucessful’ undertakings, as a matter of opinion, but the critical analysis of the persecutions, the conflicts, and lost possibilities, are usually the consequence of courage and retrospect. They are often not taught but found by those who choose to look.

The observation: ‘This helped destroy a pattern of life without building a new one.’; is no stranger to anthropology.

Following this election, the outpouring on social media suggests there is not only disappointment, but varying levels of anger in the consequences of MMP and the way in which this government has formed.

The initial marketing of the new regime is similar to what we saw in the Clark era, hugging of children, dictates to independent bodies like the Rugby Union to ‘pay the girls too’ and payback to ‘youthquake’ fulfilled with next year’s free education.

Whether the winds of change are strong enough to blow anything larger than a tongue is yet to be seen, but I don’t recall any pictures of politicians hugging homeless men.

There is an opportunity here to consider and reconsider the way we use social media and the way in which we respond to our current social situation.

It would be encouraging to see here today, not only general or specific concerns relevant to the purpose of the site, but also comment on participation in social media, and how this site could make a greater contribution to the social dialogue that is gaining considerable momentum outside of mainstream media.

Discussions in similar jurisdictions are often worth watching.

I noticed this article on the Guardian about Family Law.

John Banks, known to some of us as a passionate supporter of Fathers, refused a DNA test.

If you were a father, would you not want to know?

Help me out here, is the estate, or pride, or something, more important than your own offspring.

I’m having a bit of trouble with this one, especially after my personal interactions with this political force.

John Banks found to be a father

A men’s group has labelled a new policy announced this week by Corrections Minister Louise Upston as “corrupt”. The new policy aims to reduce the likelihood that female criminals will be sent to prison.

Spokesman Kerry Bevin for community group The Ministry of Men’s Affairs said the policy was an abandonment of the principle of equal justice for all under the law. (more…)

Fathers are speaking out at parliament on Friday 1st September, the Friday before Fathers’ Day.

MPs have been invited to address the concerns of disgruntled fathers who claim they have been neglected for decades and their parenting role abused. They claim ‘de-fathering’ has delivered many thousands of devastated families and led to further child abuses when children are unprotected by their fathers. (more…)

A Feminist instructer was dutifully educating a small group of eager students in a lesson in equality.

Among the 10 aspiring students, who sought the ultimate prize, the Borg Award for collective understanding, was a young man keen to understand the requirements of the Feminist Master.

Beside them, was a small bridge over a deep dark abyss.

Now, students, please pay attention and watch me closely … and the instructor proceeded to gracefully cross the bridge and return to the class.

Now, James, would you take your turn and do the same please.

James, confident in his endeavors strode forth to cross the bridge, but at the centre point of the arch, the bridge gave way, and James fell into the deep dark hole. A small thud echoed up, but nothing more was heard of James.

The instructor smiled, and raising her eyebrows in quiet jubilation announced, “And, that girls, is today’s lesson in equality”.

Members of Parliament are blind to the damage done to families by our social policy and law that is skewed away from ‘parent equality’, said Ministry of Men’s Affairs spokesman, Kerry Bevin.

“Father’s Day has become a tragedy for many families as de-fathering has continued for decades.” (more…)

A free bowling and Mini-Putt family event will be hosted by Kidz Need Dadz in Kapiti from 4-6pm on Sunday 3rd of September.
Kapiti TenPin Nikau Valley
Sponsored by Kidz Need Dadz, KCDC and AVS

This article appears in the NZ Herald and attributes blame for the current state of unruly youth to the parents.

It can’t go without a mention – whether you can be bothered reading the article is a different story.

Empty shoes March to Wellington

70 % of the shoes are men’s while eight are small ones representating children aged between 10 and 14.

“It broke.”

“Yeah. Well, that’s not what is was meant for.”

Wrong tool for the job. But a DIY lesson many of us would have learnt.

“That will learn ya.” Was an expression I often heard from an old man who was watching the kids around him growing up.

What about Feminists trying their hand at a bit of DIY short-sighted thinking?

Did they take something that wasn’t purpose build for their ends. Was there something they thought, would do the job, but they never considered the possibility it might break?

In relative terms, as far as the civilized world goes, only nature and war could make such a mess in such a short period of time.

Those Feminists. Are they nothing but natural warmongers?

How big does the mess need to be, before someone says, the house is a mess?

And they are still wondering why the angry white man voted in Trump.

Police chief suggests non-English speaking victims of crime will be given priority with white middle class men at the bottom of the list

Milo discussing Google:

“Some people within that company have such extreme politics that science is off-limits when it comes to talking about the differences between men and women. That’s remarkable. And terrifying.”

He is talking about the growing trend for “politically incorrect” organisations to be banned from the internet, and for search results to be sanitised. Our right to free speech is under significant assault. (more…)

I put together a little video on youtube to ask a few questions of the woman who may be king after the election.
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I have a tale of woe with regards to CYFs (yes I know, not another one)

I have been dealing with them for almost 2yrs now and every time they blunder into our path they leave us worse off.
My daughter has some complex emotional and mental issues as documented by mental health.

The process with CYFS has been a series of blunders and to be honest they have caused my daughter and I an incredible amount of stress and undue duress. This has lead to her feeling she is being judged by strangers who do not know or understand the situation and had an adverse effect on my health and business.

I have laid complaints with Cyfs, Anne Tolley and the Opposition Carmel Sepuloni. It took a month after some prompting to get a standard “we are looking into it response’ from Anne Tolley. (more…)

In two generations the application of Feminist thinking and goals has turned the Western World inside out.

Today, the society around us, struggles to bear much resemblance to what many of us are familiar with, and likewise what is familiar to many has little attachment to the history it descended from.

It is a confused mess, and men are not completely but more on the loosing end of this rapid change.

We must reach a point, and perhaps we have, where no matter what a male behaviour is, we try and find a reason or a justification for it, simply to avoid continuing persecution.

This mirrors the behaviour of Feminism, finding no fault in women, through some unorthodox study, to make all women, normal and equal.

It is an impossible world – destructive world – that many, I’m sure, wish would just go away.

The real question is, what if anything are men trying to justify, because it is a consequence of the separation of the sexes, when we shouldn’t bother?

(There’s nothing wrong with us, and there’s nothing wrong with us either.)

Trump may have bullshitted the working class in the US to vote for him believing he will care about their welfare rather than his own profit. However, his election was also related to a rejection of the claims of modern ‘social justice’ warriors including feminists, and a desire for free and frank speech that isn’t repressed simply because someone claims to be ‘triggered’ or offended by opinions they don’t like.

Regarding the Charlottesville violence, Trump was quite correct in criticizing both sides of the melee. The white supremacists, neo nazis, alt right supporters and other like-minded folk had a permit to gather at the park to protest against the removal of a statue of Robert E Lee. Others who disagreed with those opinions ignored a fundamental principle on which U.S. democracy was founded, i.e. the freedom to hold, support and express one’s own political views. They attended with clubs and other weapons to try to deprive the protesters of their democratic right. Of course, the steel-capped brigade inside the park were also armed and quite happy to fight. (more…)

National promises boot camps for children who have become serious offenders with long criminal records, and to fine and criminalize parents whose children under 14 years are on the street after midnight. Yeah, creative stuff. So previous governments financially incentivized family demolition and sole parenthood (meaning mainly sole motherhood), then reduced parental authority and options for enforcing discipline, handing over the right to use force in discipline exclusively to agents of the state. Now government aims to punish parents for the predictable child behavioural results of those foolish policies largely of feminist creation.

Meanwhile, schools are becoming more and more dangerous places with attacks by children against teachers occurring from primary school onwards.

Nobody seems to want to mention the elephants in the room. The elephants as predicted will grow bigger and soon will be squeezing us all against the wall. At that point the system will either collapse or policy makers will face up to the importance of families, fathers and male wisdom in raising children.

According to Radio NZ Dunedin patients are waiting for many months, some well over a year, simply to get a biopsy after being referred by GPs for unpleasant symptoms and blood tests indicative of prostate cancer. Then when such cancer is diagnosed they are waiting for many more months to get treatment. Similar problems are faced by those needing heart surgery.

Of course, it’s purely coincidental that the conditions mainly affected are suffered primarily by men, and that services for women’s needs are not underfunded. As it is coincidental that the commissioner installed by government to replace the elected Health Board and who has overseen this particular division of resources leaving male services short, just happens to be a woman.

Oops, look out, he mentioned the G Word again.

But really, com’on, did anyone panic too much when Neil Gaiman, put American Gods on the market? Perhaps that was only because it was seen as a lucrative exercise, rather than a contemporary exercising of the mind.

If you were to read that book from an historically naive point of view, you might struggle for enthusiasm when it comes to following the story; yet anyone with a glimmer of our ancient Sunday Schools could pose a question that might remain an eternal mystery to the same reader.

He is one man, who I would suggest didn’t see a hole in the market, but rather that he saw signs of one of the reoccurring intersections in the sophistication of society.

He probably panicked at the realization and shouted, “We’re going backwards” rather than “Eurēka”.

I noticed something similar in one of the recent comments on MENZ when an economic discussion suggested that our remaining option was to retreat in the direction of Pennsylvania. That, I would suggest was a similar discovery, wrapped in golden silence.

I am not sure how many of our readers would be thinking along the same lines as I am obviously suggesting here, but this is the other side of the same coin.

You might ask, who would benefit most from the denial of that proposition?

The would-be Gods of Leisure and Consumption hoping to be born in our own house. Not imaginery gods, religious gods, or gods of literature, but earthly creatures hoping to obtain that status and recognition that historically has granted them eternity in the mythology of any culture.

Does this not concern men?

Should I not be writing this on Menz?

Or, should we all be getting on the same page in the same book?

I look forward to your thoughts.