See here:

You’ll want to click out straight away but don’t, watch it to the end.

Don’t comment unless you’ve watched the whole video – it’s making a point.

Although children in NZ are “protected”, it isn’t to any specified Quality of Care.

On the basis that no real duty of care is required for children, the NZ Government slipped off the hook for any accountability at all!

Other posts show how the Government is substantially failing to protect workers from serious hazards in the workplace (or in the marital relationship too), this post unfortunately illustrates that children are the most dangerously unprotected of all.

For all of the great marketing performance of NZ Government, Clean Green and A great Place to Bring Up Children, the realities in NZ are as dangerous as in any other banana republic.

It is important to note and respect that Judith Collins acted for the child, now adult Prince.

For NZ to move forward into realistic protection of children, it is necessary that minimum standards of care for children be clearly specified.
This will naturally lead to a specification of the skills and resources required by parents (singly or as a couple), for children of various ages.
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I happened across this song entitled, ‘She only bitches when she breathes’.

I’ll have to sum it up this way
She could turn a straight man gay
She only bitches when she breathes.

I am sure there are some other good songs out there.

If you know of one, add a link in the comments.

Might help cheer up some sad fellow who arrives here hoping to find he is not alone in the world.

While we can be grateful that we have not been burying forestry workers at the same rate, we cannot allow our forestry industry to continue to operate in the same way.

We are a disgrace by international standards.

The New Zealand forestry industry has been the subject of many recent media reports, some of which are recorded in a previous post New Zealand Forestry Industry out of control.

Last year (2013) saw our highest number of fatalities, with 10 forestry deaths being recorded across the country. As was noted recently by the Rotorua Coroner, we rate very poorly by international standards; countries with significantly larger operations having less than 10 fatalities a year.

To date, there has been one fatality on the 16th January.

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Playlist: Depths of corruption

10 talks 2h 22m · Curated by TED
https://www.ted.com/playlists/148/depths_of_corruption

Corruption manifests itself in many ways, some subtler than others. From anonymous companies to bribes to unjust electoral systems, these talks take you deep into ethically murky territory and offer bold ideas on what we can do about it.

As of yesterday the Tories in the UK have a plan to eliminate the public paying for parents unable to come to a voluntary arrangement for Child Support. I do not know the costs involved in an administrative review in NZ but it is bound to be a shit load. The threshold for obtaining one of these in NZ is very low and unfair on the tax payer. Under the UK plan the parents will pay a penalty to take the matter to the State for a settlement, however it seems a bit unfair that mainly DADS will get a 20% penalty whilst MUMS lose just 4%. The UK calculation for child support is interesting. Bear in mind that the MEDIAN wage in NZ is $844 a week and UK $1000.
Is this a step in the right or wrong direction in your opinion???

The internet is a wonderful tool to share information and menz is a popular site for New Zealand fathers looking for information regarding:

• separation and divorce
• parenting plans that become parenting orders
• Shared parenting
• Equal parenting
• Full Custody aka day-to-day care of children
• domestic violence
• child support
• and more

One such father didn’t seem to find what he was looking for which prompted me to revisit menz today to see what I could find with the question he asked in mind which was, “What do I do now [that I am separated]?”.
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Please can anyone help with this very difficult situation i am in ?

I am a tradesman here in chch and i have recently been accused and charged with assault.
My partner has started an argument when I returned late – and then after attacking me with an electrical cord and then a wall hung mirror, she then rubbed toothpaste into her chest and neck area then scratched through the toothpaste and gone to my neighbour and claimed that i assaulted her.she has claimed in her statement to police that she was grabbed by the throat and thrown to the ground then held down as she was savagely and repeatedly beaten with punches and kicks, yet she stated that she was somehow otherwise completely uninjured apart from a few scratches and redness to her chest and neck.
The police took a photo of her chest showing redness (rash)and scratches and decided her story was legitamate.(or didn’t care )
The evidence photo shows a few scratches and redness to her chest and neck. But it also shows something else very strange.Somehow oddly , the skin on her hands has changed in colour with a distict yellowing of the skin and a grey purple coluring to her knuckles which looks only similar to the skin on a dead body.I have a very similar skin type and only have experienced this colouring to my skin during severe cold conditions.And even then not nearly so severe. it wasn’t cold.
From some online research i have descovered that toothpaste contains mono laurel phosphate which is a surfactant or foaming agent. This surfactant is highly irritant when applied to skin and i surmise that toothpaste scrubbed into the chest area causes a form of dermal shock that causes blood to drain from limbs and rush to the chest area creating a rash and simulating injury.
Im certain that my partner has used this ploy before and I need to find evidence that the toothpaste has caused the strange skin discolouration. Or find those she has done it to.
I’ve never been accused of assault and have no other charges. Previous or current.

I spent 50 hours in custody.then returned home to find some of my belongings packed in my car and ordered not to return.

Of course I’m angry with police handling of the matter.
But that’s not going to help me prove my innocence.
I have heard of this toothpaste trick described once before from the very same woman and once by her former friend. Apparently as I recall it even has a name.-when she “grabs her neck”.
I’m almost certain she has done this to others and will again unless I can prove pergery.
If anyone can help in any way please email me. Or reply to this post.
I have had a quote of around 8 thousand for representation from a barrister.
So it looks like I’m defending myself.
Its intimidating as I’ve not had any court experiences.
Any advice or referrals are more than appreciated.
Has anyone heard of this cunning ploy to destroy a mans life and reputation and future. ?

DailyMail – MailOnline
Boy, 10, beaten black and blue by wicked stepmother becomes poster boy for anti-domestic violence campaigners in China

Schoolboy Bin Bin tells teacher how his stepmother ‘beats me all the time’
Ten-year-old asked to show injuries as he was in pain whenever he moved
His body was covered head to toe in bruises and lacerations from beatings
Stepmother said to be jealous of youngster’s relationship with his father
The domestic abuse case has sparked outrage on the Chinese internet
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A Short Treatise on Woozles and Woozling

National Parents Organization

May 14, 2014 by Robert Franklin.

The excitement in the family law world occasioned by two papers – one by Dr. Richard Warshak that was endorsed by 110 eminent social scientists around the world and one by Dr. Linda Nielsen – has died down a bit with no blood actually having been shed. Whew, that was a close call. Warshak, et al and Nielsen thoroughly skewered work done by Dr. Jennifer McIntosh and colleagues that was widely used by various Australian organizations involved in parenting post-divorce to marginalize fathers, particularly regarding children under the age of three. McIntosh’s work was cited time and again for the proposition that fathers having their very young children overnight was a bad idea. Australian courts embraced the notion as did custody evaluators, lawyers and the like.

About that, Warshak, et al said this:

Advocates are promoting a report issued by an Australian government agency (McIntosh, Smyth, & Kelaher, 2010) as a basis for decisions regarding parenting plans for children of preschool age and younger. Accounts of the report appearing in the media, in professional seminars, in legislative briefs, and in court directly contradict the actual data, overlook results that support opposite conclusions, and mislead their audience.

A “background paper” describing the Australian report, posted on the Internet (McIntosh & the Australian Association for Infant Mental Health, 2011), illustrates all three characteristics.

In short, according to 111 prominent scientists, both McIntosh and fellow authors, and advocates that use their work to marginalize fathers in the lives of their children, make claims that “contradict the actual data, overlook results that support opposite conclusions, and mislead their audience.”
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Budget 2014

The Government has fairly successfully managed the costs and social upheaval associated with Christchurch Earthquake.

The budget has addressed large tax cuts to the top end of earners and generally not addressed tax evasion, particularly by corporations and wealthy individuals. These problems pervade the western world, as a result of ownership of political parties right across the spectrum, by extremely wealthy individuals. This conflict of interest can only be addressed, by tracking back all major donations to political parties and publishing them, after each election. This budget has not addressed these conflicts of interest. One example of such influence, is the Sky City ‘gambling deal’.

The budget has constructively addressed housing costs, supply and quality.

The budget has assisted parents, by subsidising costs of medical treatment, for children under 13 years.
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What a weird and hypocritical society we live in. Beyonce’s sister, Solange Knowles, attacks Jay Z and most media see it as a joke. This is not a slap but punches and kicks over a period of minutes with intent to injure. TVNZ 7 Sharp’s Mike Hosking treated it as good humour. This message of inconsistency in public values is dreadful and sets a precedent for both male and females to view violence of this magnitude to be acceptable. A lot of men on this site will have been locked up in jail for a lot lot less. I will be watching with anticipation with what happens to Solange regarding this event.

Story here.

http://www.nzherald.co.nz/lifestyle/news/article.cfm?c_id=6&objectid=11253304

I’m not sure how this would work for the father of the first child.

Does he get to pay for the mother and both children? Does the state get to pay for the baby that derives from the sperm donor? Or should the mother pay for this one? Maybe the sperm donor should front up with a few bucks and a free house for this woman?

You know I really don’t think the state had this situation in mind when they thought of ways to pay for the children (and mothers lifestyle choices) of solo parent families.

With all the discussions going around Labour’s proposed policy on compulsory Kiwisaver, I was quite surprised there was hardly any discussion around how this would impact the non-custodial parents in this country, a group that consists mostly of males.

Labour wants to make a compulsory 9% off the gross wages. Anyone paying child support is having at most 18% per child being taken off their gross income. The cost of living for the non-custodial parent, or any custodial children, are not necessarily taken into account without a pocket-emptying fight. As it is, with the rising costs of living, it is becoming difficult to survive after paying child support, imagine, what is going to happen if another forced 9% is taken off the gross.

It is almost certain that IRD will be looking after the compulsory Kiwisaver payments. Everyone is well aware how quick IRD is to put on fines if there is a missed payment, how quick they are to put up the liability with a small increase in income, and how slow in balancing should the income decrease. And to think they will be monitoring this makes me shudder to the bones.

Not everyone is blessed with an understanding ex. Honestly, I would be an extremely stupid NCP, if I even for an instant think that voting for Labour would be any beneficial.

This, apparently, is to raise awareness of female circumcision.

It is doing the rounds on social media and has a discussion here. One astute commenter (male obviously) making the observation;

Strange how this bird can ride a sex toy in public and no one says a word but … if I used a Masturbator in public, I’d be arrested and locked up!

Yes, I have to agree. I think you’d be hard pressed to find an excuse that would satisfy a judge as to why you were masturbating in public.

Surprise me – what novel explanation might you ‘come’ up with?

(If you didn’t know – this is what your kids and grandkids are looking at on their phones.)

We know, and it is often discussed on Menz, how women are held to different standards of accountability. In this post I want to look at a social anomaly in the way society responds to women.

The recent post Pussy Pass for Judith Collins looks at how British Prime Minister David Cameron and New Zealand Prime Minister John Key handled the financial scandals surrounding their respective ministers, Maria Miller and Judith Collins.

There are differences between the two situations, in that Maria Miller had her hand in the parliamentary till over expenses whereas Collins was using her ministerial warrant to advantage a company her family is heavy involved with, which also brings a cost to the taxpayer.

Both Prime Ministers initially went into bat for their ministers; Cameron didn’t know when to give up, and a severe public backlash eventually left a British prime minister red faced at his own behaviour – trying to defend the indefensible.

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CYFS demonstrates, yet again, their complete and utter incompetence by placing kids in the care of a rapist! When will the New Zealand public demand the dissolution of this gaggle of amateurs? I fail to understand how anyone with one ounce of compassion can see how CYFS benefits our children and our community. If the judgement of CYFS is so impaired that they cannot identify safe homes for the children CYFS have “adjudged” need care; then should we not be questioning their competence to adjudicate the removal of children from their parents in the first place?

As usual; CYFS go through their hand wringing ritual and hollow apology routine; but they’ll just carry on as usual; no consequences so a free license to just do it all over again! Disgusting!

As reported in Stuff today (8 May 2014)

A Northland Child Youth and Family caregiver has been found guilty of sexual and physical assaults against children in his care.

“It’s our hope that the verdict will bring some closure at least to the victims of Mr Kupa’s crimes.”

From STUFF today (7 May 2014)

A woman says she should not be responsible for half her former husband’s secret borrowings against their million-dollar family home. The woman thought they had a debt-free home and they even had a party to celebrate paying it off, the Court of Appeal was told today.

Two courts have refused the woman’s request for an unequal sharing of the relationship property. She has asked the Court of Appeal to hear her appeal on specific parts of the division, including whether she has to pay half the bank loan and pay him for the money that went into the trust for their daughter.
In Wellington today, the court reserved its decision.
The Family Court and the High Court have both refused to fence off the bank debt as being only the husband’s.
It was decided that he had used the money for the benefit of both in the course of managing the household affairs and bringing up the couple’s daughter.
He said he was too embarrassed to tell her that he had to keep borrowing.
The couple’s daughter, now in her 20s, has a health condition that means she may not be able to work.
Without her husband’s knowledge in 2006, the woman had put $120,000 into a trust set up to benefit the daughter and failed to refer to the money in the first eight formal statements she made in the relationship property dispute with her husband.
The Family Court found that putting the money into the trust had been intended to defeat any claim the husband had to it. As a result, the woman was ordered to pay him $66,250. The couple were not named in public documents relating to their dispute.

It seems “equality” is coming home to roost; well in the marriage property settlement sector at least. Clearly the winners here are the lawyers; this woman just won’t accept that what’s good for a man is good for a woman too….so she keeps going to court.

A suggestion to have women-only swimming sessions in Hamilton has caused plenty of waves, with some people saying there should be male-only sessions as well.

Hamilton City Council’s manager for recreational swimming, Mathew Baylis says the proposal is not do to with segregation, but more to do with making women feel more comfortable being in the pool.

He says if the proposal goes ahead, they would only be looking at 90 minute sessions only once to twice a week.

Mr Baylis says there are other pools that men can use.

By Grant A. Brown | May 6, 2014 For several decades now, fathers have faced significant, widespread bias in family courts across Canada. But as author Grant Brown shows in this free e-book, many of the popular prejudices behind this bias simply have no basis in law or fact. In Ideology And Dysfunction In Family Law – How Courts Disenfranchise Fathers, Brown shows us why dads are getting such a raw deal – and what can be done about it.

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One of the issues being canvased in the lead up to this year’s election, is why a growing number of New Zealanders are not voting. Over 800,000 voters chose not to cast a vote in our last parliamentary election, and we’ve had a couple of spats amongst regular commenters here at Menz, about the validity of the vote, for men in New Zealand.

My prediction is that this year even less people will vote, and that appears to be a common concern in the political arena judging by the conversations that have arisen on various platforms. It has become apparent that no one, including politicians, actually have any idea of the demographic make up of this non-voting group, or perhaps more importantly, the reasons why voters are not turning up to the polls.

In respect of the question ‘why don’t people vote’ comments such as “they’re brown and rural” or “they’re ignorant and lazy”, (which is not particularly helpful) were thrown up, but I didn’t see anyone giving consideration to the possibility that it was more likely to be men than women, in this growing group of non-voters. (more…)

Work Required to Change to Open Marketplace for Parenting Plan Certification Services

Below is a list of areas of legislation needing to be changed. This has been taken from my Submission to Review of Family Court.
Please add points left out into comments.
Where suggestions I have made are unrealistic or unfair to women or childless persons, please make appropriate comments.
If you wish to make suggestions or discussions confidentially, please contact me privately.
This list is presently only aimed at familycaught$ and child protection. We need to consider men’s physical and mental health too.
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A 100-point Women’s Election Agenda Aotearoa 2014 has been released, calling for action on violence against women and many other issues.
I don’t think there is a page in it, that wouldn’t breach the Human Rights Act, but for the Government exception. mcb.

womens election agenda march 2014 final.pdf
The link above was hurriedly password protected and later closed down completely.
Just read the text version presented below in the comments.

I said in the post Pussy Pass for Judith Collins;

John Key has already made this an impossible situation for himself, when after failing to hold Collins to account he glibly told New Zealand:

‘Well I wouldn’t want to be in her shoes if there was repeat of it.’

It was suggested to me recently that Collins’ big mistake (regarding Oravida) was not to come clean right in the beginning and show she understood that she needs to maintain a distance from her husband’s business activities. It is the arrogant way she dealt with the media that is damaging her reputation most.

That was not the way I saw it. I have no doubt Collins knew exactly what she was doing and when there was the prospect of being found out she chose both to lie to the media and withhold the truth from the Prime Minister.

Then there is a question of whether this is relevant to MENZ? (more…)

There have been several posts recently where non-custodial parents have had difficulties in being heard at all in familycaught$.

One of the dishonest manipulations, for taking sole custody (the concept of sole custody was repealed in Care of Children Act passed by Parliament in 2004, but not familycaught$) is the without-evidence Protection Order.

Time has moved forward, the real world is progressing and NZ caught$ generally have moved backwards too. Leading the backwards charge, is familycaught$, by proclaiming itself a learning organisation. Sure, I have seen their ability to mangle money out of families develop into a Crusher level of skill. In terms of protecting anybody at all, I have only seen them protect their own paramount financial interests.

Remember – Caught$ only hurt people who take them seriously.
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