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Mon 12th July 2021

An Acceptance of Failure

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 11:09 am

“An Acceptance of Failure”

That is often how the comment reads. It doesn’t matter what the post was about, there is a embodied response that suggests the situation is terminal – like it was the last thing you read before the plane crashed on take off – done often enough though it is a habitual response for some people and self-imposed negativity that one imagines is difficult to escape from. 

Even though it’s a different (more…)

Tue 6th July 2021

Hen-Pecked Man Syndrome

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 11:16 am

Sounds far more reasonable than battered woman syndrome.

A man on trial for killing his wife during their belated honeymoon in Te Anau said he snapped and he just wanted her to be quiet.

Rodney Stuart Fallowfield admitted the killing, but said (more…)

Tue 29th June 2021

Weaponizing our criminal justice system against men

Filed under: Law & Courts,Sex Abuse / CYF — JohnPotter @ 9:40 am

Bettina Arndt’s latest newsletter reports on a presentation by prominent Sydney barrister Margaret Cunneen. She was speaking at The Presumption of Guilt Conference run by the Rule of Law Education Centre in Australia.

Her online presentation focussed on the impact of the new sexual consent laws that Attorney General Mark Speakman aims to ram through NSW Parliament. Speakman appointed the NSW Law Reform Commission to examine proposed changes to these laws but then ignored their warnings about the injustice that could result and proudly announced he is giving the feminists what they want

Feminist academics have been lobbying for years for a ‘’yes means yes’’ affirmative consent model where enthusiastic consent must be given at every stage throughout the sexual encounter. Under the new laws an accused would have to prove to have taken active steps to ascertain consent throughout the sexual proceedings. And as Cunneen pointed out, this would render most of the sex most of us have as potentially illegal.


Surviving a Sexual Prosecution in 21st Century Salem

Filed under: Law & Courts — JohnPotter @ 9:29 am

Criminal defence lawyer Samira Taghavi has published an article on The Daily Blog, outlining the concerns about the proposed Sexual Violence Bill felt by many in the legal profession. She writes:

Lawyer Samira Taghavi

Instead of respect for science, common sense and the presumption of innocence, we are in an unhappy age of Salem witch-trial-style hysteria that has now given us the Sexual Violence Bill. There are numerous very ugly consequences that will flow from the bill and while conviction and imprisonment on a false allegation is of course the worst outcome – and an outcome this bill will multiply – another collection of indignities has not received focus, being life as an accused person prior to and during the trial process. Indeed, even if acquitted, men can still expect to have survived their prosecutions at an often-crippling price.


Mon 28th June 2021

Will New Hate Speech Law Apply to Extreme Feminists Speech?

Filed under: General — Lukenz @ 6:53 pm

Will Hate Speech Law Apply to Extreme Feminists Speech?

Tova O’Brien: Jacinda Ardern has misled the public and shut down debate on hate speech laws

I bet its doesn’t.

Sun 27th June 2021

The Killing Of “i”

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 9:25 am

Identity is something I’ve mentioned before but I’m not sure we’ve had an in depth discussion about the subject on MENZ.

We’re not born with identity, it’s something that is given to us, but I’m referring to more than just how we are identified and more to the content of that identity, which is us, which is our ‘I’.

The acknowledgement and preservation of identity appears to be (more…)

Tue 22nd June 2021

New Family Court (Supporting Children in Court) Legislation Bill – Now only one reading away from becoming law.

Filed under: General,Law & Courts — Lukenz @ 6:27 am

In a lot of cases children who want to see dad, they will have their say. That being said, lets get down to the real world. The worlds most cunning animal is the human. To head the above scenario off, a woman need only alienate the child before lawyer for child gets to interview the child.

In my view, if a child has been alienated by one parent, the child need only repeat what they hear from that parent and the other parent won’t be seeing that child anytime soon. No prize for guessing which gender does the alienation.

Where is the legislation to outlaw and call alienation violence? (more…)

Mon 21st June 2021

Faulty assumptions underpin Sexual Violence Bill

Filed under: Sex Abuse / CYF — JohnPotter @ 2:04 pm

My wife (Professor Felicity Goodyear-Smith) had an article published today on The Daily Blog.

The post begins:

The Sexual Violence Bill, currently before Parliament, looks to increase convictions by effectively revoking the defendant’s right to silence, and prohibiting types of evidence tending to indicate innocence. As an academic, qualified forensic physician, and expert witness in sexual cases (for both sides), I am concerned by the rationale for this bill.

Read the rest here:

Sat 19th June 2021

Greta Aurora explains: The Infantilization of Women

Filed under: General — Lukenz @ 12:32 pm

Greta Aurora makes a video to explain Infantilization. It is the approach or methodology where grown women act out and make others believe they should be treated as children. And the receiver of such a performance gets emotionally involved, believes it.

Thu 17th June 2021

Mothers lying to win child custody battles

Filed under: General — Lukenz @ 11:51 pm

I don’t care too much for the presenters’ mannerism. Perhaps it’s her way of getting up the courage to speak. But she did receive over half a million views, 8000 comments and 34,000 thumbs up.

War is coming! – You are going to need some of those old white men.

Filed under: General — Lukenz @ 3:43 am

If you ever wondered how you came to live in a democracy?

It was not because people thought it was a good idea. It was not because you expected it. It had to be fought for.

War is not polite. It has rules yes. But those rules tend to be ignored by the aggressor when the bombs fall and bullets fly. I can assure you the defenders quickly learn to ignore those rules too.

Sat 12th June 2021

Family Court Judge allows violent woman continued custody resulted in little girls murder.

Filed under: General — Lukenz @ 9:20 am

Mothers of Sons is a group of ordinary women whose sons have faced extraordinary ordeals in our unjust, anti-male legal systems and workplaces.

Fri 11th June 2021

Government paid campaign to destroy the self-esteem of boys.

Filed under: General — Lukenz @ 11:53 pm

White Ribbon funded by the Australian Government are shaming boys by making them apologise just for being male.

Mark Latham former MP says it leads to suicide.

This is a massive campaign and it must stop.

Sat 5th June 2021

Why is Trevor Mallard still the Speaker of the house?

Filed under: General — Lukenz @ 10:43 am

When you knowingly falsely accuse a man of rape, have the Government pay compensation to the man using my taxes to the tune of $333,000 but then continue to accuse him using privilege, – What sort of nonsense is that?

What happened to separation of powers?

News Media Link

Tue 1st June 2021

17 Strategies Used By Narcissists to Alienate the Other Parent

Filed under: General — Lukenz @ 10:14 am

Have you ever wondered why your child has lost contact with you? Why they might be behaving poorly towards you or not openly communicating as they did the week before?

Below is the 17 strategies used by narcissists to alienate the other parent.

It has been a real struggle to get the narrative to accept this form of child abuse.

How many can you tick off that has happened to you?

1. Badmouthing (Example: Constantly criticizing the character of the other parent in front of the children.)

2. Limiting Contact (Example: planning activities for the children during the other’s parent time.)

3. Interfering with Communication (Example: placing unnecessary restrictions and rules around phone calls with the other parent.)

4. Interfering with Symbolic Communication (Example: Getting rid of the child’s pictures of the other parent.)

5. Withdrawal of Love (Example: Subtly giving the child the message that if they love the other parent, they are less valuable.)

6. Telling Child Targeted Parent Does Not Love Him or Her (Example: “If your dad really loved you, he would have never done what he did.”)

7. Forcing Child to Choose (Example: “Are you going to be loyal to me or your mother?”)

8. Creating the Impression that the Targeted Parent is Dangerous (Example: Packing pepper spray in the child’s bag on a visit to the other parent and teaching them to use it “in case the other parent tries anything.”)

9. Confiding in Child (Example: Telling the child all the details of your ex’s affair.)

10. Forcing Child to Reject Targeted Parent

11. Requesting Child to Spy on Targeted Parent

12. Asking Child to Keep Secrets from Targeted Parent

13. Calling the Targeted Parent by First Name

14. Referring to a Step parent as “Mom” or “Dad” and Encouraging Child to Do the Same

15. Withholding Medical, Academic, and Other Important Information from Targeted Parent/ Keeping Targeted Parent’s Name off of Medical, Academic, and Other Relevant Documents

16. Changing Child’s Name to Remove Association with Targeted Parent

17. Cultivating Dependency (Example: Making the child feel like they need to be with the parent to be OK. Or making the child feel like the parent needs them to be OK.)

Sat 29th May 2021

The 2 Clauses that almost very defence and prosecution lawyers say are unjust & unworkable. Simon Bridges says many 100’s of innocent young men will be imprisoned

Filed under: General — Lukenz @ 7:54 pm

Clause 8. Can’t present previous sexual experiences with the person who claims they were raped.

Clause 14. Defence to present a year before the trial.

As you may be aware it is the inconsistencies between statements that finds if she is not telling the truth. The complainant could get to discuss their answer with the police or whomever they want for a year before trial.

Bill of rights report gives the new law the approval. Bridges says no lawyer could give the new law that approval.

Bridges says many 100’s of innocent young men will be imprisoned.

Wed 26th May 2021

Australian Family Court Judges to be Trained About the Malicious Use of False Accusations

Filed under: General — Lukenz @ 8:17 am

Many have questioned, “How will bringing the Australian Family Court into the Federal Closed Circuit Court make a difference?”

It is becoming clearer the difference is wiping the Family Court rules and replacing them with the Closed Circuit Court rules.

To that end Australian Family Court Judges are to be retrained. It will include how to recognise victims of domestic and family violence whose stories are often not heard. i.e. Partners who have been falsely accused. And that it is usually the father.

This occurs when a woman, who may be feeling vindictive, tries to turn children against the other parent and makes unsubstantiated claims of violence and even child sexual abuse.

Such claims can be made out of malice and/or to bolster the party’s prospects of securing a favourable outcome – from their own perspective – in family law cases such as custody and property proceedings.

The law and penalty was always there under section 314 of the Crimes act 1900 (NSW). Punishable for up to 7 years jail. It just wasn’t in play in the Australian Family Court rules.

Where statements were made under oath that can be prosecuted for perjury under section 327 of the same act which carries a maximum penalty of 10 years in prison.

New Zealand

New Zealand has similar laws under the crimes act 1961 section 115. Conspiring to bring false accusation upon conviction is liable for imprisonment for a term not exceeding 14 years.

I am not entirely sure, but I think in NZ such accusations would need to be taken out privately in the district or High Court.

The direction the Australian Government has indicated is quite a significant one. It seems the Closed Circuit Court are arming and training Judges to award significant imprisonment penalties to those people who choose to lie in court.

Source Material Here

It has been a long time coming to recognise what has been happening.

Looking forward to seeing other peoples view on why the Australian Family Court Judges are being retrained in criminal law.

Mon 24th May 2021

Revealed how ABC journalists and producers “coached” women what to say when they make allegations against actor Craig McLachlan.

Filed under: General — Lukenz @ 8:59 pm

Sky News host Chris Kenny says highly disturbing footage has revealed ABC journalists and producers “coached” women what to say when they made allegations against actor Craig McLachlan.

7 News Australia has a full documentary on what happened and why he was not guilty. I can’t find or access it.

Sat 22nd May 2021

The Next Edition

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 12:51 pm

I saw this extract in a recent comment.

There’s no doubt there’s been some great success in the past. Some men responsible for this are still on this forum. Reaching anywhere near that level again seems out of reach at this present time. Most of us are just hanging in there consumed by family court processes, lawyer and child support bills.

We could (more…)

Police unhappy with ruling that stops formal written warnings from being supplied to employers.

Filed under: General — Lukenz @ 10:24 am

Original Post Here


Police unhappy with ruling that stops formal written warnings from being supplied to employers.

Let’s not make this confusing. There are a number of players here.

1. The Police have for a long time believe they are Judge and Jury by providing criminal history that has not been tested.

2. Justice Davison knows he is the decider on who has criminal history.

3. The teacher may or may not have been grooming the 15 year old girl.

4. The 15 year old girl believes she was not groomed and will not participate in a trial.

5. Clinical psychologist Kathryn McPhillips thinks it’s a useful workaround when victims who say they are not victims to stop people without convictions getting employment.

6. Professor Andrew Geddis said it could cost the Government $$$ is a possibility under the NZ Bill of rights act for the harm people have suffered.

7. Andrew Geddis thinks the Government should legislate to stop money being paid out to men who have suffered this side stepping on the NZ Bill of rights act.

I think any Court Of Appeal Judge will agree with Justice Davison.

I further think the Government may create a law to remove men’s rights under the NZ Bill of rights retrospectively. This would be a big step. But a step this Government may be willing to take since the latest sexual violence act that removes the right to a fair trial almost all lawyers are against here. Innocence Protection Project

What do you think?

Wed 19th May 2021


Filed under: General — Lukenz @ 4:05 pm

I very much dislike all social media like Facebook and others. However, it is a way to get notice.

Why is MENZ not on Facebook?

Mon 17th May 2021

Auckland barrister Samira Taghavi’s Innocence Protection Project

Filed under: General — Sam Butler @ 11:33 am

I thought some of you would find this of interest. It is a project by an Auckland lawyer to combat the new Sexual Violence Bill – or at least to try to mitigate what are likely to be its effects. Note the comment box where you can share your own experiences with her anonymously or even offer your support.

Gentlemen – It’s time to close your Westpac account & move your mortgage to another bank.

Filed under: General — Lukenz @ 6:43 am

Westpac say men don’t work hard or long enough.

Westpac fails to take into account men usually have physical jobs and a buggered when they finally get home. That and we build fences, service cars, mow lawns, trim trees, paint and a lot of other stuff.

Men who earn the bulk part of the income. Pay most of the tax that supports the nation.

There are many things we can’t do, but moving accounts and business away from companies we can. I am talking to my broker to move my mortgage to a bank that likes men. I suggest you do the same.

Westpac, see ya latter mate.

Sat 15th May 2021

Hey, Jim

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 9:55 am

Whenever he saw that look on my face, he would say, “Just call me a pome-git.”

We had become the sort of friends you seldom meet in life, that understood each other better than most people could ever hope to and some of the discussions are still unforgettable.

A little over 5 years has past since his funeral but it’s longer since (more…)

Mon 10th May 2021

Newsroom Oranga Tamariki Case

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 7:02 pm

The sanctions in the Family Court Act for a breach of Section11B involving identification of children are a maximum of three months imprisonment, or a $2000 fine for an individual or $10,000 for an organisation.

Link To Story

I haven’t had time to digest this yet but it looks like something we should be paying attention to.

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