It was shortly after separation and free counselling was available through the Family Court in those days. Up to six free sessions but this is at end of last century, so, what happens now – I’m not up to date with the latest on what’s available.
The counsellors were a couple, running their own independent business. I met him, a quiet fellow, marginally older, and he owned that professional aloofness that they hide behind, but with the acumen of a plate glass window. (Slightly (more…)
I walked into the toilets and there was this old guy washing his dick in the handbasin.
It had been mentioned to me a couple of days before that there was an old guy using the toilets as his washroom but I didn’t click that it was the tidy old man that pulled up in his tidy little car and headed to the toilets with a fluffy white bundle.
His little (more…)
I was reminded of this today when a guy told me a joke.
St Kitts $2.50
Naturally I had to ask, what’s this about?
There is no doubt people at the top of some of the ‘official’ apprenticeship schemes get paid handsomely, i am sure they do a good job.
Although there is an aspect of being “out of date”,… the, pathetic still, wage, paid to an apprentice in his time, a bugbear of mine.
However handing over to the failing numbered Polytechnic is surely to be seen to be radical , and that is putting it nicely.
You would have thought the government would first have spoken in length to the industry leaders and shakers, this is not how to do business, this is a girl hit, but might make money sense, maybe the tax groupie uncovered stuff.
Who knows, I’m not feelin’ the transparency..man.
Feminism hasn’t been a consistent beast – it’s evolved through various stages to the now unfathomable Intersectional Feminism .
Identity Politics, likewise has changed its definition to its current state of ambiguity.
So, in a similar way it’s fair to expect MGTOW (Men Going Their Own Way) to follow a similar pattern.
When the idea of MGTOW became (more…)
Okay, we love them, we love what they created, who they were, they created history, lauded by many.
The times, their time, threw them up and into the public arena.
No one knew whether or not they were perfect or flawed but one thing for sure is that they were put on a pedestal, their necks were up and out and precariously poised.
The higher they are the hardest they fall.
The , perfect?, people who are (more…)
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In my wander through the net today, I found a post on this little character.
This text is copied from the purchase site linked to above.
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You don’t have to be suffering from anxiety or depression yourself in order to wear or display the dancing black dog symbol, because doing so does not mean you are saying “I suffer from anxiety or depression”. Rather, it means you are saying “it’s ok to say if you don’t feel ok” to anyone around you who may be suffering from anxiety or depression. As many as one in four people suffer in silence from depression or anxiety. Sometimes they come across as the happiest person in the room, yet on the inside they are in fact the loneliest.
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It is not a NZ promotion but may be of interest to some readers.
Hi Everyone and have just joined as looking for advise regarding protection orders.
After a 2 day hearing I got a Protection Order against my ex wife which covers my new Fiancée, 2 children in my care aged 12 & 10 & myself. Before this my ex had been very aggressive which resulted in a number of attacks against my partner & myself with the final one been assault charges laid against her for attacking myself.
After this event and waiting for (more…)
From the Co-ordinators – Men’s Summit
Men’s Summit Goes South
The New Zealand Men’s Summit 2019 is going south this year to Otago University Rugby clubrooms in Dunedin on Friday 12 April.
It’s time to recognise the male contribution to society as Men Matter Too.
Following successful Men’s Summits in Christchurch, Wellington and Auckland, the move to Dunedin is a great opportunity to broaden your men’s network and spend time in the deep South.
Whether you (more…)
Anyone who has been in a long term relationship understands the complications, and the sometimes delicate peace.
There is, what we now call the flick-chick – expect an unpredictable launch at any time.
Now, any good MGTOW will tell you, the first time it happens, RUN! … and don’t look back!
There’s other more delicate versions. Examples you say? Well, (more…)
There’s something that bothers me about this picture but what bothers me more is that I can’t work out what it is, that bothers me.
It’s a female in front of a few guys, no big deal. If it was (more…)
Recently I wrote this post on the rising Homeless.
It only took a few days and I was standing by my vehicle when a security guard drove slowly past me, leaning out the window, yelling in a very sarcastically polite voice, “Hello. How are you today.”
Didn’t take long to join the dots, did it, and the news to get back to me but that’s small minded New Zealand, at its best.
More recently the news broke, (more…)
Identity Politics. I can’t remember where I first encountered this but regardless I’ve always been a bit ho-hum, disinterested, who can be bothered with that stuff. And I’m sure a lot of us feel the same – can’t we just have our live’s back. And then there’s another lot of us who get all technical and boring and it takes a lot of effort to make sense of what we’re on about.
I’m going to do the impossible (more…)
Haven’t we all been concerned about Stuff, the news site, Stuff, that is?
Or frustrated, annoyed, at the very least?
We’ve even had few scraps here about how to confront the beast.
About 15 years ago I was sitting in a café in Ponsonby discussing (more…)
A letter via the MENZ contact form. A lesson on how to use WordPress anonymously is probably not what this man needs right now, so I’m posting this on his behalf in the hope he might gain some useful response.
His letter is one of the clearest expositions of how women on temporary visas are recruited and supported to scam the immigration system by using Domestic Violence Act as a weapon against fathers.
This guy made at least two very bad decisions; firstly to respond to his wife’s provocations with violence, and secondly to threaten to kill himself with a knife when faced with arrest. But is this a sufficient reason for a little girl to loose her father forever, which I predict is the most likely outcome of this case?
I’ve added paragraphs to make it more readable, and [redacted] anything that might identify him. Otherwise the words are his.
I recently happened to meet a 23-year-old Canadian girl who is visiting New Zealand so I asked her if she knew the Canadian, Jordan Peterson. She said she not only knew of him but had been viewing his videos on YouTube as well as reading his book ‘12 Rules For Life’. (more…)
This is doing the rounds on social media and I see the question asked; could it just as easily relate to New Zealand?
Could you see the same sticker on Conservative Party vehicles at the next election?
That aside (more…)
I have to put this one forward.
A shameful performance from Iris Krzyzosiak, a representative of Auckland Peace Action when Mr Sean Plunket interviews him.
Interview link click here.
Have you heard of Paypigs?
Don’t worry, neither had I but there it was out of the mouths of babe’s … well more like early to mid twenties girls. You could imagine the outcry if it was boys calling girls something along the same lines. It didn’t take too much to gather from the conversation what this hinted at.
As you know, (more…)
The Family Violence Act 2018 is due to come into force in July. Information sharing is but one part of this law that further abandons fundamental principles of justice and civil rights in favour of feminist ideology and aspirations towards total control over men. Men’s supporters’ submissions were mostly ignored in the creation of this dangerous review of the law. (more…)
When the Mayor of Auckland started the Mother-of-all Homeless-count during 2018, it followed along the lines of our historical perceptions – the old men and the occasional woman sleeping rough, usually with an alcohol problem and not keen on any help from the Salvation Army or these days a drug and alcohol rehabilitation programme.
We had a post here for followers to comment on (back in August) although this did not attract a great number of informative comments.
Amongst the modern homeless and less inclined to be referenced by politicians and media is a grey area between a home and the street (that which family and friends call a couch or a garage, a helping hand, an obligation to their own) where a growing number of people whether by choice or otherwise exist in a less acknowledged sector of society.
This particular report relates specifically to (more…)
Surely it is time for a political party to stand for Men.
Surely the Women of such a party would like their Men.
Since when did politics play nice and fair.
Since when was there a party that did not Dare.
..and Discrimination has already been played and played hard,
now it is time to even the score and use discrimination once more.
Just like in the recent Triassic post the tides are turning,
could we ask for more?
This article illustrates the inevitable outcome of the empathetic nonsense that the #metoo was based on. With more women gaining political power comes the danger of policies based on empathy rather than compassionate reasoning. A 1995 study in the Scandinavian Journal of Psychology showed that women involuntarily imitate other peoples’ emotional expressions more than men. This may give them a proclivity to act in ways that are not conducive to the betterment of society. Paul Bloom’s book, Against Empathy: The Case for Rational Compassion, sets out a good case against viewing empathy as a virtue. Empathy and compassion are not synonymous and it’s very important to understand the difference. Listen here for his discussion with #56 Sam Harris – Abusing Dolores. And here #14 — The Virtues of Cold Blood. on this subject.
This is published @Stuff.co.nz
Written by; Serafin Dillon (Couples and Family Therapist for Walk the Talk in Nelson)
You may not agree with its entirety and contructive comments I am sure, will attract some interest.
OPINION: Violence, in all its forms, is abhorrent, however, men alone cannot stop violence against women and men alone cannot stop what they cannot see. If it were that simple, we would not be in this position as a nation.
It’s been a bit quiet on the post front lately and not wanting anyone to suffer confrontation withdrawal syndrome here is something to keep you occupied until the New Year.
On, the other hand, you may wish to take this post seriously and discuss the reasons for arguments and how this might be improved.