Dealing with a relationship breakdown, custody dispute or other family or whanau crisis can be an overwhelming, emotional and stressful experience. The last thing you need is to be thrust into the unfamiliar territory of the family court system without a clue about how to navigate it. The New Zealand Family Court Survival Guide explains all your options when you need to make changes to your family situation and helps you to avoid unnecessary expense and upset. Drawing from her own experiences in the family court system, author Katrina Smithson offers easy-to-follow advice on how to navigate a separation that is fair and respectful to all parties, with a strong focus on children and how best to assist them in what can be a tough and confusing time. Heading into court proceedings with the right information is critical. The New Zealand Family Court Survival Guide is the only resource you need to manage this difficult time in the best way possible.
Bettina talks with lawyer Michael Jose about our shameful supervised contact services whereas the family law system conspires with a malicious mother to teach the children that their father is dangerous. That the children might be hurt if that supervisor is not there to protect them.
Michael Jose says
I think it’s one of the key issues of the family court jurisdiction is the fact that it is rife with false or exaggerated allegations, and they’re simply not addressing them. So it becomes a bit of a rort.
The entire jurisdiction is destroyed from its original intentions because of how frequently false allegations are used, what impact they have and how there’s simply no ramifications for using them.
So one of the most common flows from that of course is there’s many different mechanisms of triggered by false allegations, but one of them is of course, the application of supervised access. And as we talked about, if it’s applied in the context of a low level or false allegation, in relation to domestic violence that doesn’t even concern the kids.
You might have a fabulous committed, hands on father that went from 24/7 access and independent care of his kids, suddenly, having lost that, and that can be lost for years and may never really be re-established in the same way it was when the relationship was on foot. And in the interim, supervised access is going to be applied.
Now one of the agencies that I spoke to over the years said that they reckon up to 80% of fathers that are on their books, getting supervised access, simply don’t need supervised access. It is considered to be another one of the processes in transition for them getting back or trying to get back meaningful access.
Now, don’t underestimate the application of the system that’s designed to protect the victims and to address risk when it’s applied incorrectly. And more often than not by abuser against the good parent, more often than not the father. That is in itself abuse, that system abuse in advance, and it’s incredibly harmful. So if you’ve got a great father that’s doing supervised access, they are getting harmed by that just as much as the kids are.
So it all adds up to overnight, that profoundly deep paternal relationship can be gone in a blink of an eye. It can be a fight tooth and nail for sometimes years. And then of course when those years pass, and everything that has happened still can be used against the father. It never goes back to where it was and never re-establish a meaningful relationship again.
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Radio NZ and other mainstream media are referring to ‘The Rugby World Cup’ final being held this weekend. Actually, it’s the Women’s Rugby World Cup, but that qualification is now deliberately avoided to try to elevate the significance of this tournament as equal to or greater than the established Rugby World Cup. (more…)
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A couple of current news stories deserve comment.
Firstly, this story tells of a Family Court judge who decided it was in the best interests of the child to order in favour of mummy’s preference to send a 5-year-old daughter to a school closer to mummy’s place even though her siblings all went to a different school closer to the father’s place and where he wanted her to attend. (more…)
In 2019 a Government report prompted change to the family court system. Andrew Little said “There are incredible delays in the family court and particularly where children are concerned, that’s not fair. The children can’t sit around for 12 months waiting for their parents to sort out their issues, that’s too longer period of time for a child.”
Today in the news, I note on a lazy Sunday afternoon. RNZ reports,
The Ministry of Justice said it is implementing recommendations from an independent review in 2019 but “transformation of family justice is a five to ten year project”.
Since the 1980s, thousands of parents whose children have died have been charged with murder because a doctor testifies that they have violently shaken their baby. These “expert witnesses” would demonstrate in court by vigorously shaking a doll.
In 1986 Dr John Plunkett was one of the first to question the validity this syndrome.
a contradiction dawned on him: that while low-level falls involving contact with an unyielding surface were believed to be devoid of lethal potential, shaking a brain within a skull with no broken neck below it, was believed to be fatal, despite no skull contact with any surface.
* The Supreme Court has ruled convictions on sex charges against Peter Ellis were based on a miscarriage of justice.
* Ellis was not alive to hear the rulings. He died of bladder cancer in September 2019.
* The court slammed the evidence of “critical” Crown expert witness psychiatrist Karen Zelas as unbalanced and misleading.
* It said parental questioning of the child complainants raised the risk of the children’s evidence being contaminated which was unappreciated at the time.
The Supreme Court says,
“If the jury had been correctly informed of the level of risk, that may have created a reasonable doubt about the allegations made, at least in relation to some of the complainants. As the evidence of the complainants was mutually supportive, the undermining of some of the verdicts necessarily calls into question all the verdicts.”
Matt King finished the evening by bringing the speakers together for a Q and A session. Smith was asked for her thoughts on Education and advocated for greater parental involvement, back to basics on numeracy and literacy, and better trades training for the boys.
Ever thought if some of the laws we in the west have to abide with are unreasonable? Is there something not right about that?
Clear examples of this are here.
– If a woman moves into your home after 3 years or less if she has a child, she owns half of what you spent a lifetime building up. Including the stuff in that home. Yes it happens to women too but far less frequently.
– If a woman decides to make an allegation of a sexual nature, does the investigation process alone have the ability to destroy your wellbeing, your place in the community. If such allegations make it to court, almost all (87%) will be found not guilty. Most often a man’s name is published. Is this unreasonable? Does this have the potential to cause a male suicide?
– If your female partner decides its over, she can and will destroy your relationship with your children to get living rights in the property you own with her new man, tax deduction from your income, penalties on penalties. Take years to resolve? Is that unreasonable? The taking away of a loving dads rights to communicate with his child. Does this have the potential to cause a male suicide?
– The level of suicides by males not being address by government. Clearly encouraged and accelerated by the family court.
– The white ribbon slogan “Prevention of violence against women”. Men are excluded because it is thought they can only ever be considered the perpetrators. Does this have the potential to cause a male suicide?
– Ministry for women, but no ministry for men.
– Throughout the world factual evidence with video, photos in family law courts from fathers are ignored while allegations without any evidence are accepted. Does this have the potential to cause a male suicide?
– To lock men up in prisons for decades so they can’t pollute the planet, consuming, driving cars, having children and consuming its resources. Does this have the potential to cause a male suicide?
– Serious crimes women commits are treated, handled differently than mens crimes? Example link here
This is not an extensive list. You can probably think of many more yourself. They are all designed to destroy men’s wealth, future income, their child’s relationship, take on an unfair burden of the tax liability to run the state, limit their options in life with allegations, regardless of the verdict end.
Oddly enough, these laws are mirrored throughout the western world. A world where politicians come and go. But there is one group of people who remain in power with full ownership and control of the media, the banks, the drug companies, the internet and your privacy, the things we buy. They own the lot. They control it.
Could it be all about reducing the planet’s population? To reduce the waste and save our planet? Forcing men to not have children because the personal cost and risk is too high.
Take a peek at the largest dumps in the world. The last one, its location in this clip may surprise you.
For the first time in 70 years a man is the Sovereign of this nation. After him another man, and another man after that.
PM Ardern wants to be the source of all power by becoming a republic. She wants her face stamped on bank notes and coins. For a women that has done so much harm to the nation and its people, I do not want to carry around her mugshot in my wallet. In my view her mismanagement of the economy, social, law has been unprecedented. I give Ardern a rating of unqualified. Some say even criminal and with the evidence I agree.
The Sovereign and the Governor General does have the power to dissolve this Government. Another power Ardern and her like wants to remove from the people of New Zealand. It happened in Australia in 1975.
Ardern sits on her arse saying “Be Kind” ignoring the plight of men, fathers and families. Not even a man who commits suicide on her doorstep is enough to persuade her to legislate relief and support for our gender.
Today I am going to coin a new phrase that more accurately describes Ardern “Be a bitch to men and watch them and their children suffer”.
Thats right Arden – The now grown children hate the life and poverty you forced upon them.
12 months from now, you and your like are going to cast out for your incompetence, bulling of your own MP’s, buying the media with our tax dollars, misleading and hatred of men and their families and a whole host of other crap you have dished out to us.
Ardens legacy will be the worse ever PM this nation has ever had.
Regeneration rather than the next generation. The next generation is in a state of turmoil, and various forms of political rage.
This particular outrage was attached to a tweet from Chris Luxon (Not a political broadcast) I can understand his concerns about education though, when you see this out of the mouths of the next generation of Pacifica.
Courage Under Fire … is a story that starts out in another place:
Imagine yourself with a partner and two children living the quiet life in a tropical paradise when the local village-council announces that, you must be jabbed with a needle of their choosing, in order to remain part of the community. If you refuse, you are to be put in customary isolation in your own home, with restricted communication and only the food supplied to you … read more about that here
Now that you know Mahelino a little better you may think he is a foreigner in a far away place. He’s a Kiwi, of Tokelau descent, who moved from New Zealand in 2017 to build a retirement home in Tokelau. He’s a born and bred New Zealand citizen who has managed to find himself a different form of persecution in a vacuum called a New Zealand dependency where he is a resident in isolation away from our domestic laws.
NZ teacher Peter Joyce’s settled life was disrupted when a woman he had never met accused him of historic rape. With a unique brand of angry humour, his diary plots the stages of his despair and traces his attempts to find justice in the face of the current insistence that we must “believe the victim”.
Dry Ice is a compelling memoir, but much more. The accusation made the writer a reluctant expert on similar cases from all over the world. He throws light on everything that limits public knowledge of false sexual allegations, from dangerous counselling to flawed statistics, and he exposes police investigation methods as blinkered, inefficient and insensitive.