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19 February 2015

FAMILY HERO FALLS ILL

Ministry of Men’s Affairs spokesman Kerry Bevin says that many kiwi men and their families will be saddened by Jim Bagnall’s terminal prostate cancer. (more…)

Celia Lashlie passed away today after suffering from cancer. She was a very wise woman and a great advocate in the education of raising healthy young males in our society. She will be sorely missed and I salute her for her brave stance in our matriachal ideologically driven society.

1. My ex got 90% of all assets after separation!

90%. Sheer luxury. Sheer bloody luxury.

2. I only got 5% and all the debts.

3. You guys don’t know how lucky you are.

All I got was me gumboots.

You guys just don’t know how lucky you are.

4. Gumboots. You got your gumboots.

I was kicked out of house, naked, with no clothes on.

It was middle of bloody winter …

1. Sorry to interrupt, but now that I have, I’m going to take advantage of that.

That’s nothing. Now I …

Put your one-up in the comments.

Unbelievable Duplicity Story number 73,456,864: “International tug-of-war in custody fight”. In order to pursue her own career, this mother deliberately abducted the daughter to the USA against the wishes of the girl’s father and denied the girl a meaningful relationship with the father for some years. She arranged a fake contact visit with the father to distract him from her real plan to leave the country, then took off with the child while the father waited to see his daughter. She then failed to honour agreements concerning returning the child to NZ. (more…)

Source Article:

Lloyd, who engages with victims at the point where they require or have obtained a protection order against their alleged abusers, said the issue for the court was whether what took place was domestic violence.

“The legal argument is about whether there was domestic violence given there was consent,” she said.

“Well, how can you say whipping someone with canes and chains until they’re bleeding raw, is not violence?

“In the Family Court, when you’re looking at whether a protection order is needed, a judge must be satisfied there has been domestic violence. It doesn’t mention consent.”

Conservative Christian lobby group Family First NZ this week called for the public to boycott the film and donate the admission fee to a local women’s refuge.

For anyone who is old enough to remember the railing against the likes of the musical ‘Hair’ and the film ‘Last Tango in Paris’ by the religious sector of the community, this becomes interesting reading.

If you take away the circumstances that surround this argument, and put it between the sheets generally, it becomes a case of even though there was consent, the manner of sexual participation may or may not be domestic violence depending on a ruling from the Family Court (by examination of a woman’s evidence) when a protection order is applied for.

There’s something to think about.

First what’s it all about?

As much as I am a little cautious about referring to Wikipedia, this seems reasonable enough.

There is no evidence of any link between St. Valentine’s Day and the rites of the ancient Roman festival, despite many claims by many authors.[15][37][notes 1] The celebration of Saint Valentine did not have any romantic connotations until Chaucer’s poetry about “Valentines” in the 14th century.[21] Popular modern sources claim links to unspecified Greco-Roman February holidays alleged to be devoted to fertility and love to St. Valentine’s Day, but prior to Chaucer in the 14th century, there were no links between the Saints named Valentinus and romantic love.[21] Earlier links as described above were focused on sacrifice rather than romantic love. In the ancient Athenian calendar the period between mid-January and mid-February was the month of Gamelion, dedicated to the sacred marriage of Zeus and Hera.

Have the boys been conned here?

I always felt this Valentine’s stuff was a bit of a one way street. I am yet to meet a bloke that said, he’d got a valentine out of the blue from some female – or I am just the unlucky one here? (more…)

Barrister David Osborne caused outrage with his blog She was gagging for it (the blog has been changed due to public outrage, but the original is included below) where he went as far as an wrote:

I have a very simple solution which I hope you will agree is fair. If the complainant (I do not refer to her as the victim) was under the influence of alcohol or drugs, or both, when she was “raped’, this provides the accused with a complete defence. End of story and a victory for fairness, moderation and common sense!

While I disagree with this particular solution, it must be seen in the context of the debate (if there ever were one). So on the one hand we have David Osborn’s “solution” and on the other the feminists who are basically demanding – so far almost unopposed – that the definition of rape should include “sexual activities with a woman who is drugged or drunk“. This solution is every bit as misandristic as Osborn’s is misogynistic. If only for the reason of bringing some balance into the debate, I applaud him for the courage to write these things.

The original blog follows:

I have been following the latest machinations over rape allegations with some interest, as they have serious consequences for all red-bloodied males who are out on the rut. For the past ten years or more, a politically driven agenda has been thrust down the throats of court users about the deplorably low percentage of rape allegations that lead to conviction, and successive governments have been enjoined to do something about it.

My considerable experience tells me that there are basically two defences to an allegation of rape: either “it wasn’t me gov”, or “she was gagging for it”. It is also correct in my own experience that most of those accused of rape are acquitted, not simply as a result of the brilliance of my advocacy, but because the jury did not believe beyond a reasonable doubt that the victim did not consent.

Into this squirming sack of grubby emotions steps Ms. Alison Saunders, who is apparently the Director of Public Prosecutions, so she should know better. And is it just me, or are women taking over the world? And is it just me, or do you share my dislike for the prefix “Ms’? It’s all to do with political correctness, or so they say, but speaking for my wife, and I suspect millions of other wives, when she agreed to marry me, convention dictated that she took my name and became Mrs. Osborne. She does not wish to be referred to as Ms. Osborne, nor does she wish to be known as my partner. It’s insulting!

Anyway, back to Ms. Saunders and her camp followers. She has decided, or rather it has been decided for her, that anybody who makes an allegation of rape must be believed, and everything possible in the trial process must be bent towards the conviction of the accused. Rape trials from now on are no longer to be prosecution led, but conviction led, and when you add into the mix that prison sentences for rape are getting longer and longer, the opportunities for a serious miscarriage of justice are self-evident. Or should that be “ms.carriage’?

Sarah Vine, or more properly Ms. Sarah Vine the journalist, summed up the feelings not just of red-bloodied males but also the legions of fair minded people. Like me, she deplores the so-called “vagenda’, the all men are rapists brigade advanced by vocal feministas like Harriet Harman and the “femi-fascist’ twitter mob who increasingly seem to hold sway in public policy. Predictably, Ms. Harman, and I use that form of address advisedly, replied to Ms. Vine’s comments with the usual “feminista’ clichés, defending Ms. Saunders for trying to ensure that victims of rape get justice. Gawd help us!

I have always found it distasteful and unattractive the suggestion that as the victim was blind drunk she therefore unable to give her consent to sex, or more to the point, she gave her consent which she would not have given had she been sober. In my book, consent is consent, blind drunk or otherwise, and regret after the event cannot make it rape as Ms. Saunders and Ms. Harman seem to be advocating. Save us from the Mssss!

I have a very simple solution which I hope you will agree is fair. If the complainant (I do not refer to her as the victim) was under the influence of alcohol or drugs, or both, when she was “raped’, this provides the accused with a complete defence. End of story and a victory for fairness, moderation and common sense!

A short video clip to show why men are treated poorly. It details why some men choose to end their lives.

http://www.stuff.co.nz/national/crime/65874779/teen-bashes-lone-girl-at-west-auckland-train-station

Nowhere in this “report” does it say the attacker was a girl. Oh, it says that the victim was a girl, but the gender of the attacker is conveniently omitted throughout. Sexist ? You betcha !

Since April 2014 I have been in the system of the New Family court system. my previous posts – http://menz.org.nz/2014/family-court-revamp-part-2

So my last update was up till about the 9th of December, My ex finally accepted a mediation date for the 13th of January 2015. Since one of the primary reasons for restarting the proceedings was to try and get contact for Christmas, I had the court confirm that the current parenting order (from 2010) was still enforceable, and then messaged my ex saying that since she cant have mediation till middle of January I will be forced to enforce the order, so if she could have my son available for the dates as per the order that would be great. I also mentioned to her that if she doesn’t agree either organize a mediation date for before Christmas, or I will be forced to enforce it.

She asked me for the mediators number, and he was not available, she said she would call the following day. 2 days later I have a bailif on my door step serving me with a Without notice application to vary the parenting order, essentially preventing me from enforcing the order, in her application she told the court that I had asked for contact outside the order, and a number of other stretches of the truth and unfactual information. and as a result it was approved. With contact be on agreement, so I text my ex asking when she sees contact occurring, and never got a response.

Come the 13th of January, I had travled from Auckland to Wellington, and was driving up to Palmerston north about 4 hours before the mediation date, when I recieved a phone call from the mediator saying that my ex had pulled out as she had a workplace injury that resulted in a concussion before Christmas. The mediator tried to work something out on the phone, but my ex couldnt even make herself avalible during the time period the mediation was supposed to be.

Thankfully as a result of her without notice application a directions conference was set down for the 4th of Febuary.

At the directions conference the Judge pretty much ripped into the Lawyer for child and Lawyer for my ex asking why contact hasnt been able to be sorted, and it appears to be a straight forward case. So we now have to have a round table meeting within 2 weeks, if no agreement is reached, we are to file detailed proposals for contact and care, and she will either make a decision based on those proposals and evidence previously filed, or set down a hearing.

I also wrote to MP’s about the time frames for the Family Dispute Resolution to occur, and received a response from Amy Adams yesterday stating that the provider contracts specify 35 days from application to mediation occurring. and they will be working with providers to ensure this happens. However delays are inevitable if people need extra time for the prep etc…

Felicity Goodyear-Smith was interviewed by Kathryn Ryan on National Radio’s programme Nine to Noon this morning about her new book Murder that wasn’t – the case of George Gwaze.

Listen here:
Miscarriage of justice – the George Gwaze murder case

GP and forensic physician, Professor Felicity Goodyear-Smith, on her fresh investigation of the George Gwaze murder case – and why she says the crown got it wrong.

Order Murder that Wasn’t here:

nationwidebooks.co.nz.

Hey all, I havent seen this mentioned here so am wondering who is following this, attending the HRC workshops and who will be making a “submission” on the MOJ’s report that it will submit to the UN. I began reading it last night, up to about page 30 and have already picked up 30 points that are in direct contradiction of the treatment of how me, my child and our family have been treated by the MOJ, the FC, the NZ Judiciary and the outcomes of FC proceedings that have seen our bond destroyed and the actual DV and perjury committed by the mother of the child being ignored by the entire government which not surprisingly portrays its handling of Childrens rights in a vastly different light. I believe this is an opportunity for those of us who have had our rights as parents and guardians unlawfully taken from us, as well as our childrens rights being taken from them, to have a voice and make the failings of the MOJ FC and NZ Judiciary more publicly known. I will certainly be voicing the facts in regards to the failings of those involved in our proceedings and those in government who have demonstrated they really dont give 2 f%^ks. If people can file a submission I would be keen to compile them and issue a paper regarding the FC’s failings. THIS IS OUR GREATEST OPPORTUNITY TO BE HEARD YET!!!!

Circumcision is another example of duplicity in the way many people think about gender issues, and an incredible example of sexism that harms males. Here we see boys having their genitals mutilated through religious and allegedly cultural practice, in ways that cause serious infections placing at risk these boys’ lives, fertility and ability to enjoy sex in their lives. No doubt the pain and fear of the ‘operation’ will also result in post-traumatic problems for many of these boys. National Radio informed us of hospitalizations resulting from these infections, but nobody seems to question why these intentional injuries caused to boys’ genitals are not routinely treated as one of the worst conceivable forms of sexual abuse. If girls were subject to so much as a gentle touch of their genitals, regardless if this was an established cultural practice, our feminist-saturated National Radio would most definitely be calling for the perpetrators to be charged with offences carrying prison tariffs comparable with homicide. If you as a male take or possess a photograph of your daughter in the bath or in any situation where her genitals can be seen, you are at risk of imprisonment. Yet it’s ho-hum ok to take a knife to boys’ penises and that’s not considered a sexual assault. Even if that knife is not properly sterilized and therefore likely to cause serious illness. Incredible.

George Gwaze made legal history in NZ when he was tried for murder a second time on the same evidence, after the Supreme Court ruled that double jeopardy does not apply until all appeals have been exhausted. Both juries acquitted him.

A DSAC doctor wrongly concluded that Gwaze’s niece Charlene was analy raped then suffocated, and this misguided medical opinion coloured the subsequent police investigation and media reporting.

A new book by Felicity Goodyear-Smith titled ‘Murder that wasn’t – the case of George Gwaze‘ outlines the medical evidence that Charlene died of the HIV infection which killed her mother.
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What is the difference between IRD and ISIS? Both terrorize non-custodial parents. One kills quickly, while the other kills you slowly over time.
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I’ve been assessed at a ‘potential’ income which is three times greater than my actual income as a result of a staggeringly unfair Admin Review. As a result I’m launching a counter review, as well as taking the existing review to the Family Court to challenge the review findings.

I’m needing to find examples of rulings that the Family Court have reached in previous cases where non-custodial parents have appealed under section 103b of the Act. Does anyone know where I can find these?

Should we adopt a difference approach for 2015 and throw some humour into the fight against Feminism?

One In Three Campaign

http://www.oneinthree.com.au/news/2015/1/19/nsw-police-acknowledge-male-victims-of-intimate-partner-viol.html

NSW Police today took the rare and long-overdue step of acknowledging male victims of intimate partner violence and their children with this post on their Facebook Page which is quickly going viral, with many supportive comments underneath it.
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A new study concludes that Victorian men were the original hands-on father, far from their image as distant and severe.
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Source:

Interesting concept for a TV show (and I haven’t seen it) if it does look at changes in masculinity, rather than simply being another survivor series.

Has anyone seen it?

But this is amusing.

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Here are a few recent stories of interest to students of gender issues. (more…)

I refer back to the first post I made 9 months ago back in may 2014 entitled Toothpaste accomplice. I had omitted in the post the fact that the woman had told me she was six weeks pregnant the week earlier. Months later police called me in to tell me “there is no baby”.

So I’ve lived for the past nine months accused of savagely and brutally repeatedly, assaulting a pregnant woman.
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We are all well aware of the more recent involvement of psychologists in demonising men, but wait till you get a load of this.

The book ‘Inferiority Feelings’ first published in 1951 and authored by Oliver Brackfeld, translated from French, is online (complete text) in the International library of Psychology

The loquacity (talkativeness) which the experts of last century numbered among the sexual traits of females, homosexuals and effeminate men is the direct outcome of the fear of not being taken seriously.

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It’s an expression I’d not heard before and I went looking for an explanation on the net and came across this.

The concept of gravel soup is a soup from left over’s – a bit of anything and everything – that can be added to if not consumed in one day.

A bit of a rough brew.

This guy has drawn an analogy between gravel soup and his father. I can relate to this in my father, but I’m wondering if it is something, as a consequence of metropolitan life, we are less inclined to see in men.

Have men become both less sophisticated and more sophisticated as the environment has changed around them?

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It’s been a long time coming but with the recent changes around reporting restrictions the subject has received considerable media attention in recent months.

For those that are interested there is a discussion in progress here on Stuff Nation.

Naturally the article is female focused but the comments have attracted some male perspective.