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Thu 28th August 2014

The Culture of Denial and Feminism

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 12:11 pm

When STUFF NATION put up their recent assignment, inviting writers to contribute to a debate on Equality in New Zealand (whether women have achieved equality in New Zealand society) I thought it might be interesting to look at this from the point of view of the background-role media play: whether media actually support equality of the sexes and which side of the equality debate they favour; accepting that equality is a collection of concepts as opposed to a defined word.

Media normally detest a culture of denial – it’s the noble cause of the journalist to be vigilant in the disclosure of truth for public consumption. In the face of war it can be somewhere between a challenging and fatal occupation, then at other times it throws up some interesting conflicts. (more…)

Tue 26th August 2014

Equality in New Zealand

Filed under: Gender Politics,General — Downunder @ 8:16 am

A Stuff Nation Assignment running at the moment – Are Women Equal in New Zealand poses questions about equality:

Maybe you think the fight for equality has gone too far the other way and it’s now men who are discriminated against in some areas…?

What do you think it would take, and what should we all be doing, for men and women to be seen as equals?


Mon 25th August 2014

Police abuse ‘No smacking law”

Filed under: General,Law & Courts,Sex Abuse / CYF — Julie @ 9:38 am

You see someone doing something excellent for people and then you see them hurting people ….. which matters to you?

Sun 24th August 2014

Tauawhi Men’s Centre

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 2:48 pm

Tauawhi (Māori) to hug, embrace, support (one another)

Tauawhi Men’s Centre is located in Gisborne and its co-ordinator Tim Marshall has announced via STUFF NATION their intention to hold a hui – a hui promoting a men’s response to violence in Aotearoa. (more…)

Sat 23rd August 2014

Child Abduction

Filed under: Boys / Youth / Education,General,Law & Courts — Had_Enough @ 6:16 pm

My 15 year old daughter was taken to Canada by her mother a few months ago. The Courts allowed this because they allow mothers to do most things don’t they, but I don’t know where she is now. The mother had told the Family Court the name of the school she was going to attend and also her home phone number and address. Most of this info appears to be bogus. The phone number appears to belong to some relative who never answers the phone and I suspect the address is false. The only hope I had left was that the school may at least give me information about my daughter’s school reports etc. I have just learned that she is not enrolled at the school so this is further false info by the look of it and I know the school was on the level because the enrollment officer was very cooperative. I am planning on phoning the Edmonton Police and taking this up with them as a suspected child abduction case because I believe that this is technically child abduction as she used false presences when relocating my daughter. Does anyone out there know what govt agencies I could approach in Canada to help me? The mother and both my children have both Canadian and NZ passports so they can stay in Canada indefinitely.


Fri 22nd August 2014

A Feminist Party?

Filed under: Gender Politics,General — Downunder @ 9:08 am

When I saw this article the other day it confirmed my thoughts – the ones I’ve been sharing in recent posts – that we are now seeing an overt feminist political-position.

Internet-Mana is a feminist party. No I didn’t say that. They did.

Dr Pani Farvid, an Iranian-born psychologist at AUT, [The Party's gender issues spokeswoman] proudly told a women’s election forum in Auckland last night that the Internet Party was “a feminist party”.

Any man in the party that had put his hand up for gender issues spokeswoman would have a big ‘D’ clearly visible on his forehead – it could only be a woman.


Wed 20th August 2014

2014 suicide figures released

Filed under: Boys / Youth / Education,General,Men's Health — Downunder @ 3:05 pm

Chief Coroner Judge Neil MacLean today released the provisional annual suicide figures for the year ending 30 June 2014.

The total for the year was 529, which is the lowest number by two since the annual coronial figures were first produced for the 2007/08 year. There were 12 fewer suicides compared to last year, and 29 fewer than the 2010/11 year, which was the highest annual number recorded in the last seven years.

Judge MacLean said, “while it is encouraging to see a slight drop in numbers, the overall rate is still stubbornly high and disappointingly consistent.”

Of the 12 fewer suicides (more…)

Tue 19th August 2014

Fathers Day Picnic BBQ at Ambury Park

Filed under: General — Brendon Smith @ 10:08 am

Join us on Fathers Day for a Picnic/BBQ at Ambury Farm, on Sunday, September 7th 2014, from 11am – 4pm

Father and Child Trust welcomes families and friends, come and enjoy the animal fun and lambing season.

Low cost sausages, drinks, steak sandwiches, ice-creams and coffee will be available.

Local music, community and dad support resources, all welcome, Happy Fathers Day!

Ambury Regional Park, Ambury Rd, Mangere, Auckland Ph 525 1690 for more info.

Sat 16th August 2014

Who are the Red Fems?

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 12:10 pm

A comment from the post – Gendered Justice in New Zealand:

Tell us more about the red fems.
The way to sink em is to get women onside who see this too.
It must be said that all this “system” does is perpetuate and create violence rather than reducing it.

It’s a discussion we need to have. Who exactly are these Red Fems? (more…)

Fri 15th August 2014

A mention of thanks to two fine women.

Filed under: General — dunnuffinwrong @ 5:12 am

Three years ago I was newly separated in auckland and I joined the single parents trust. I wanted to see how other parents remained close to thier children after separation.
I found support and new friendships and the experience was extremely rewarding. My daughter and I joined in many exiting activities, well organised and without a shred of gender indiference.
An organisation where dads are valued and I highly reccomend it to any single parents.
Julie Whitehouse runs the single parents trust and regularly contributes to topics on this site.
I truely admire Julie as I wonder just how many other men she has helped.
THANKYOU ! Julie Whitehouse. ,

Another fine woman is Lee-Anne Cartier.
She is the sister of phil nisbit who was murdered by his wife helen milner.
Nz police had botched the investigation.
Cartier was tenacious and committed and after huge expence and effort managed to get the case reopened and Milner put to trial.
What a fantastic woman that she took on nz police and refused to be told to go away.
Her brother was murdered and she stood up.and got busy!
Nz police had written it all off as just another male suicide.
Lee-Anne Cartier…has changed the course of history and she did it, not just for her brother , but for all men who mightve been milners next victim.
Lee-Anne Cartier, Lee-Anne Cartier, Lee-Anne Cartier !
Im just so impressed with her!,

Feel free to add yours to the list ive started.

Thu 14th August 2014

The Suicide of Robin Williams

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 12:50 pm

If Robin Williams had been a New Zealander we would not be having a discussion about his suicide, and certainly not publishing the method of execution, but the law in the US state in which Williams died is exactly the opposite – police are required to release all the relevant details of his death.

The media restrictions in New Zealand and the limited discussion is something I have been critical of, but that’s another story; Robin Williams is American and beyond the media eulogies the subject of his suicide is being openly debated.

It’s not a bad thing, to rationalise and make sense of human tragedy.

So, what did kill Robin Williams? (more…)

Gendered Justice in New Zealand

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 9:51 am

I’ve seen women’s advocates in the Waitakere Court. They wander around the court like they own it and make the judge look like a clingon to the proceedings. When I saw a news article showing their direct influence in sentencing, I put up the post Women’s Refuge Justice System

I had been waiting for another such case to surface – which it has – and is posted under NZ Judge – Women’s domestic violence and anger ok

We have a tendency to classify such cases, especially within the justice system, simply as a pussy-pass which I have a problem with; not because I am sensitive about the comparison with female genitalia, but because we need to look more closely at the mechanics of what is happening and the likely outcome.

This needs closer analysis. (more…)

Wed 13th August 2014

NZ Judge – Women’s domestic violence and anger OK

Filed under: Domestic Violence,General,Law & Courts — Downunder @ 3:14 pm

This is a staggering article that brings to life the feminist philosophy that many people cannot accept exists in the Family Court.

Worse the article highlights the disparity between what would normally be considered intolerable domestic violence and what is increasingly being considered acceptable female violence. (more…)

Ripping your heart out through your wallet

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 12:24 pm

In the last post we looked at Robin Williams as a men’s advocate and his political messages.

Here is an article by Christopher Bucktin looking at Williams’ personal life and the cost of his two divorces. (more…)

Robin Williams – A Great Men’s Advocate

Robin Williams

Yesterday the world reeled from the sudden death of Actor/Comedian Robin Williams.

Today tributes will flow, and rightfully so, from all corners of the earth, from those who knew him and worked with him, to those who respected and enjoyed his immense talent – he was a rare talent that could seize any moment, and turn it into theatre and laughter.

He will be remembered for his many roles, his ability to own the part, to make them unique likeable characters that only he could create.

But beyond this is another Robin Williams, a modern day Charlie Chaplin – both of whom are notable, not just because of their fame, but their political positions. (more…)

Tue 12th August 2014

Lonely old men

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 10:08 am

For someone who has lived a lifetime with a loving wife they could easily hold the view that all women are loving honest souls – then later in life – finding themselves alone in their old age could easily become the victim of the less honest.

A woman has been help in custody following the alleged (more…)

Thu 7th August 2014

My real live dildo

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 8:07 pm

A female paedophile has been jailed for having sex with an eight-year-old boy more than fifty times.

That’s seems reasonable.

Loren Morris, 21, started sleeping with the boy five years ago
She continued doing it for two years, until the boy was ten
She was convicted of sexual intercourse with a child last month
Today she was given the two-year sentence at Worcester Crown Court

Loren Morris

Loren Morris

The judge in the case told Morris that he would be lenient with the sentence – which will see her released from jail after one year – because she ‘realised it was wrong’ and stopped having sex with the boy.

His batteries must have gone flat.

Judge Robert Juckes QC said: ‘I make no secret of the fact your case has given me cause for much consideration.

‘I have come to the conclusion that due to the concern and embarrassment caused to both you and your family that you will not be offending again, let alone committing sexual offences.

Is this a bit of a ‘pussy pass’?

Defence lawyer Antonie Mullers had told the court Morris was struggling to accept the facts of the case, and asked Judge Juckes to spare her a prison sentence altogether.

Didn’t we have a case where a female teacher had sex with a pupil and when it was found out the teacher committed suicide – that’s right, the coroner suppressed the details and it had to be removed from the site?

Universal Hot Crazy Matrix

Filed under: General — JohnPotter @ 2:42 pm

Any man considering a new relationship should watch this video attentively.


Homes for women and Refuges for men

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 10:58 am

The current election campaign may not be offering much in the way of policy for men, but it has brought a few more commenters to this site and some interesting posts from new authors – which is great – we need to be our own media sometimes, it is the only way some of these stories will be told.

The more participants we have, the more ideas that float around (even if we don’t all agree with each other) the more we think about the issues that face men in this country, at this time and in the future.

While some of us might be getting a bit long in the tooth to be much more than grumpy old men, it is good to see younger guys continuing the good fight. It’s been a long fight; decades of effort in fact.

Times are a-changing still.

Sometimes important information gets lost in the comments – like this comment from Phil Watts:

Wed 6th August 2014

Children’s Commissioner failing Vulnerable Children

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 3:39 pm

Child Youth and Family (CYF) have acknowledged that they did not conduct an investigation into the death of a 13 month old baby who died in a bath tub drowning in November 2012.

The story was first discussed here in the post multi-tasking manslaughter.

The victim’s mother was subsequently charged with manslaughter and found not guilty in October 2013.

A follow-up story by journalist Phil kitchin detailed the father’s frustration about evidence that was withheld from the mother’s trial.


ATTN: Male input requested for new political group Law & Order policy

Filed under: General — Mana Male @ 12:31 am

I don’t want to go into too much detail prematurely, especially without permission, but a new political group is in the formation stages and is looking for input on their law and order policy platform before registering as an official political entity.

If you have any ideas, keyword “ideas,” not rants, and can put them forward in a coherent way with added rationale, please contact me privately.

Basically, I’m asking you to share your thoughts on what changes need to be made, what policy needs to be implemented in order to make the legal system fairer for males, too.

Please write your proposed policy idea, and add a short paragraph about why it’s necessary. These will be added in with the other remits, and voted in within the next few weeks. If you wish to be contacted via email or social media, please leave your details in the comments.

We can’t say we’ve tried everything until we have a crack at this, too.

In solidarity

Mana Male

Mon 4th August 2014

I am going to meet with a woman politician. I dont believe she is a feminist.

Filed under: Domestic Violence,Gender Politics,General — dunnuffinwrong @ 7:33 pm

Yep I could be wrong but she seems very interested in mens rights. I dont want to sit around and wait and see what happens and create summaries when men get screwed by systemstic discrimination. If you want to sit there.. then ok, but you can still help. Can you add statistics… rephrase my questions?

Domestic Violence Industry in “Overwhelming Disarray”

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 9:13 am

A report released last month has put the cost of domestic violence in New Zealand at $8 billion per year.

There appears to be a new type of inflation impacting our economy – Election Inflation.

This ‘$8 Billion dollars is a big increase on previous estimates. The difference between the $8 billion and the 368 million estimated in the PSA report as a cost to New Zealand business may be government funding of the industry – I haven’t seen the calculations to confirm the basis of their costing.

A 155-page report called ‘The Way Forward’ denounces the current industry as being in “Overwhelming Disarray” and proposes a new Integrated System for Intimate Partner Violence and Child Abuse and Neglect in New Zealand. (more…)

Sun 3rd August 2014

Revenge by Media.

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 1:27 pm

The Essay of Tania Billingsley discussed in a previous post saw a young woman jeopardise a possible court case in exchange for a minute of fame and some mileage for the airing of her views on the much politicised idea of New Zealand’s ‘Rape Culture’.

She’s already been forgotten about, and the chances of a court case are now resting close to zero.

But there is the distinct possibility that this will provoke further attempts to use the media to double the shame, post court case.

The barrier of course is suppression. (more…)

Sat 2nd August 2014

King – I’m sorry for being a woman

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 12:51 pm

Ms King’s apology for being a woman is “insulting” because not all women are so forgetful, our Prime Minister says.

“It’s a pretty silly comment from Ms King,” said Mrs Tubb.

“The problem isn’t being a woman, the problem is if you’re a forgetful woman, and I think it’s a bit insulting to imply that all women are forgetful.

“A small group are, and they need to change their behaviour or be held to account,” Tubb added.

The predominantly feminist-leaning Labour Pains Party leader, (more…)

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