It’s the BIG,,, the BAD,,,,it’s RESENTMENT!

# and it tends to stem from,

#- What we feel someone did to us which was unnecessary mean or hurtful
#- What someone did not do for us
#- How we feel when someone has not done enough for us

I do not know too many men who would dwell on the above three things…does this mean that women feel more resentment,, and these feelings, do they surface because of unrealistic expectations (todays standards of)…are woman throwing a wobbly,spitting the dummy, behaving like spoiled children???

Take another selfie girls, remember to pout your best face forward.

# these from article
the main line of this post was taken from an article by Jill Goldson, she is on the Little Mr panel, and I have to say it gives me some faith that she be there.

I read in a magazine the other day, in an article about Dads and his qualities,,

it said….’.Remember,, you wouldn’t BE a dad if it wasn’t for your kids mum!’

Yes I think sexual education is an issue after all…unfortunately babies are being confused with welfare.

Jan Logies’ Bill has passed, 10 days leave for domestic violence victims,,, as a previous employer in small business, I would baulk at the possibility of taking on a lady of that age for fear of becoming embroiled in her domestic problems, no one is ever going to see the other side of the story , maybe the woman has got serious mental issues, juggling babies and relationships is no mean task, but to constantly be told that as a woman you can simply blame the man in your life for all your problems, that is wrong, so wrong … A BIG and scary problem is the growing grey area of what “violence” is said to include, it may soon include text bullying etc, etc…. still snow balling in a dire direction for more men, I am supposing that small business owners are mainly men …

MAGGIE BARRY,, North Shore, National says…

We support the spirit of the bill, absolutely, but look at what it seeks to do. The bill proposes to make changes to five Acts: the Domestic Violence Act, the Employment Relations Act, the Health and Safety at Work Act, the Holidays Act, and the Human Rights Act. When we look at the Employment Relations Act, to allow employees who are victims of domestic violence to request a variation of their working arrangements and then, under the Holidays Act, to have those 10 days’ paid leave, we are starting to see building up a situation that is very difficult, and very difficult to sustain long term for a small business in terms of there being any of the opportunities that might exist to support somebody who has been a victim of domestic violence. When we were in the committee, and in reading the papers and the advice from officials, we were provided with many examples of employers who are doing the right thing, who are recognising and providing appropriate support, flexibility, and leave for employees who are affected by domestic violence and who need to suddenly go and see a lawyer, go and take their children from school to medical appointments, and so forth. Any of us who have raised a family know very well how quickly we need to be able to respond as parents to the needs of our family, particularly if we are also in a situation where there is a domestic violence overlay.

We talk about the lack of marrying kind gals,,, and there does seem to be a lack of them in my area of South Auckland, at least for the young men I know, two of my sons best friends, another friend in common, my own son and two of my nephews whom live in the sunny BOP. All of them have had relationships with older women.

The pitfalls I have heard about are varied and no doubt the advantages too.

Its sure seems a big ask for a young man to all of a sudden be dealing with adult children of this older woman, sometimes a young child or two as well an awl..

It also seems a big ask for him to be living in her circumstances, often her home and her already organised life. He can fit in , but he will never be financially connected. It is not like, ” hey, you want to buy a house together?”..she is often house secure, he will never get this chance, so what are the advantages???

Oh, I know, one advantage, He can leave any time he likes….
and if one of the babies is his, that’s okay, he will pay and she will receive, certainly no risk factor there, for her..

Our Modern Plunket

Plunket in my view was a organization to help mothers, not one that I viewed as a child watch dog.

In an internal Plunket document obtained by RNZ, the child welfare group said there could be fewer home visits and parents might have to travel further to clinics if they had the resources to.

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This story from Australia

A former female staff member of a prestigious school has walked from court after being handed an “extraordinarily lenient” suspended jail sentence for having sex with five male students in her care.

NSW District Court acting judge Christopher Armitage said a “toxic culture” had developed in The Armidale School boarding house in which the 25-year-old woman slept with students aged between 15 and 17 after inviting them into her room in late 2014 and 2015.

Judge Armitage said it was “difficult to see” how an immature young woman of her age and experience was chosen to sleep overnight in a boarding house with young teenage males.

And it wasn’t her fault, given a job she was not qualified for?

… evidence by the woman’s mother that the school didn’t take “correct responsibility for the affair” and employed a “junior, unqualified member of staff” in the boarding house without appropriate support.

Is it possible that Man pushed too far to keep Woman from burgeoning ever forward…and if so are Woman now not doing exactly the same thing…but worse..

Is this revenge???? (more…)

Posted by Andrew Little on September 05, 2018

Justice Minister Andrew Little welcomes the release of a public consultation paper by the Independent Panel considering the 2014 family justice reforms.

“The Panel is calling for public submissions, inviting everyone with experience of the family justice system to share their stories and have a say about how family justice services can be improved.

“The Independent Panel, made up of former Chief Human Rights Commissioner Rosslyn Noonan, and family lawyers La-Verne King and Chris Dellabarca, have been appointed to examine changes made to the family justice system in 2014.

“We can’t fix a broken system without knowing the extent of the problem so I’m pleased the Panel is seeking public input.share on twitter

“The consultation process is an invaluable opportunity for the Panel to understand how the family justice system can provide a better service.

“Wide public engagement will allow the Panel to get the full picture when it comes to the reforms’ effectiveness.

“Submissions are open for eight weeks. The Panel has worked hard to ensure that the consultation is accessible for anyone interested in helping to improve the system,” said Andrew Little.

Information about the Panel and the public submissions process can be found HERE

Submissions close on 9 November 2018.

I do not think that the use of the affidavit is necessarily a good thing.

You take a couple that have split, family is separated from the man, the women generally has rights over the children and she does not want to communicate. Then she gets to release her bowels on paper, causing yet more bitterness, the man must respond bitterly too???
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I THINK NOT….There is far toooo much to say, and some of you guys, have seen and said sooo much.

FAMILY COURT NZ…

Please do not treat all Men as violent, they are Fathers, Brothers, Sons, Uncles, Tax Payers and People.

Please be eloquent in your approach to a family situation and uphold the respect and virtue of that family, especially when children are involved.

Please understand that life has become very challenging and that the cost of living to mention one challenge is putting great pressure upon families all over our fair country.

Please let your reforms be for the family, for the children, for they are our future.

Please do not take the easy way out.

We knew it was bad, but not how bad.

Then the whispers started; four times as many men as women. The Clark Ministry wouldn’t be budged on making the figures public. Perhaps the previous government hadn’t been any better – I don’t know.

More than fifteen years ago we obtained by dubious means, the most recent figures. There was no hurry to be up to date and provisional figures were running about two years behind.

The media adopted various attitudes, (more…)

It has been too long since I have seen my son.
He went missing in action, taken down one of those black holes you guys talk about here. It wasn’t that is was okay for him to stop, it was necessary.

We have sayings like cruel to be kind and for greater good, it happens in the animal kingdom on an ongoing basis, but us humans think we are above this, we have to curb how we think how we speak,how we feel?! and we must adhere to the sentence of the likes of the courts when trying to save remnants of a shredded family.

Forced into a corner, he did have a choice, life or life sentence, that is how bad the choice became, choosing life when the alternative gave him driplets of the shredded remnants of his family along with the farce of it all…
said here the other day, in the words of a one crazy Billy.. reality, for most nowadays, is a dream long discarded.

WE CAN DANCE IF WE WANT TO…SAFETY DANCE…Men Without Hats…check out the mix version on you tube, live in the newsroom..if you want to

What for I wonder?.. certainly not for Jacindas’ new wardrobe.

Can’t be the Taupo caldera, certainly not the out of control riots in the streets.

or maybe the spy centre from hell for all the 6000 kiddies in foster care out there.

for the hidden statistics or Paulas’ mouldy biscuits.

used to be that a man could be the suitor
is he now the suitee

used to be going steady
now just going no where

used to be love and romance
could be a noose around your neck

used to be a coming together of the sexes
now only ending in senseless vexes

used to cummulate in a ring and a forever
now its a never ending nightmare

used to be someone to treat
now endless cost and need to retreat

used to be courtship
now just court shit!

It was just a little scrap of recent news; the history department complaining about the reduction in funding for that department but it made the news. Somebody thought it important and contacted the media, and somebody else thought it important enough to print the story, and in our ideologically driven institutes of learning, perhaps it is more important than the minimal attention it received from us.

Did you or would you have clicked into that link?

Then I saw this. I think I knew that we were involved in the Borneo and Malaysia conflicts – but really, I’m not sure because I can’t remember another single fact that would confirm this.

And then the bottom line, the all familiar phrase that gets dusted off each year when Anzac Day comes around.

“Lest we Forget.”

It’s a misunderstood saying. (more…)

G’day Menzies,

Anyone here have ever filed a tort against the family court / The Attorney-General for loss and damage in the supreme court? Or if any smart blokes here who ( think out of the box) want to share some knowledge have been victimized by the flawed FC ? I am planning to file a tort against the crown /The Attorney-General and self-represented. Please let me know if smart blokes here who got a case and keen to do it collectively ! The purpose is not only for winning but to raise the awareness and let them know its not right !

I personally, have an aged complex case with proven parental alienation, kids brainwashing and programming, abuse of court process, proven false allegations and all done by the vindictive ex. resulted in damaged father and children. The ex ended with a slap on her hand ” how dare you do this” and the judge recommended on her counseling.

I have an evidence of the detrimental loss and damage caused due to the courts lengthy and numerous prolonged proceedings and negligence of more than 5 judges who were involved in my case.

Please let me know if anyone is keen or has knowledge on how to proceed !

Negligence: The Duty of Care
Negligence: Particular Categories of Duty
Negligence: Breach of Duty
Negligence: Breach of Statutory Duty

They are out there.

There is a constant string of media reports highlighting this growing problem.

Just how growing is the problem?

How many are taken off the streets only through the benevolence of charity organizations?

Having seen a map produced by Stuff News I was surprised to see homeless people showing up outside of the main Auckland Centre and across the city.

Do you know a man who for some reason is homeless or choosing to be homeless and why?

How long are we to endure this ridiculous double standard in our criminal justice system? Here’s a violent woman who seriously injured two other women after punching a man. She wan’t even charged for hitting the man! If a man had hit a woman in exactly the same circumstances he would certainly have been charged with the sexist ‘male assaults female’ offence for which the imprisonment tariff is double that for a female offender. But even that’s not enough pro-female discrimination for police who didn’t even bother charging this woman at all for assaulting a man.

And for her serious, sustained, completely unjustified violence that has caused two victims enduring, possibly permanent physical and mental injury? This fat bully gets 9 months home detention, some community work and a pittance of restitution to the victims! (more…)

FamilyJusticeReforms FamilyJusticeReforms [email protected]

Hi any one and every one,,,,,join in the conversation,, these guys want submissions from any one that has had experience with the system.

I have just received an email thanking me for my email/submission and they have asked me to answer some more specific questions in due course.

Im my submission I really questioned the without notice infringement.

I am wrapped .

Listen to Podcast

Geoff McDonald talking about ‘Mental ill-Health’ in the workplace.

This is a very far reaching cross section of the subject from an HR CEO point of view in a large corporate enterprise.

Certainly of interest to the old crew will be our recognition of the same thing at the grass roots level over a decade ago.

Our attempts to have this understood, of course met with the political smashing machine because we dared to raise an issue about men during the Clark Government. Sadly it has taken this long for the issue to float to the top and receive recognition.

That we can now point out is the effect of Feminist dogma and silly little shouty girls.

RNZ

Calls for reform of the family court system and the need for more resources are being backed by a prominent international expert on legal issues related to children and families in the justice system.

Professor Nicholas Bala from Canada’s Queen’s Law School says while family dispute resolution works in many cases, much better resources are needed for the most difficult ones.

He’s calling for a clearer and more effective role of Oranga Tamaraki in high conflict separations, as well as faster assessments, and more lawyers being brought in at the early stages.

An overhaul of the Family Court in 2014 put the onus on parents to resolve custody disputes, causing a dramatic increase in urgent applications. Professor Nicholas Bala’s work in this area has been cited by all levels of court in Canada, including the Supreme Court, as well as by courts in New Zealand, America England, Singapore and Australia.

Professor Bala speaks with Lynn Freeman

https://www.radionz.co.nz/audio/player?audio_id=2018659364

Listen to Podcast

If you listen further in you’ll find a push to return to the judge-managed cases that we had 15 -20 years ago, but also a push to increase the use of psychologists and alter their complaints process.

The acknowledgement at the end; a guest of the NZ Psychological Society.

TVNZ news presenter Greg Boyed, 48, has died in Europe. He had been battling depression, his family says.

Sad for any family and the upfront honestly is something we seldom see in the media.

It is an interesting intersection; I have no doubt many will be observing the response from within the media alongside the media response.

TVNZ broadcaster Greg Boyed, 48, has died suddenly in Switzerland while travelling with his wife and youngest child.

The seventies were a time that had humans rally for humanity. There was no technology driven communication being used by the masses but it seemed that hoards of people were coming together for a common concern..hee hee and lucky for them music was abound and the quality would become classic…ahhh… and I guess we have to say the drugs ran as free as the rivers. HOWEVER!..minds were free.
We seemed happy before technological communication took a good deal of presidence in our lives.
You know, dinner table chat, card games, badminton at the local hall, because of technology we are becoming more and more insular,,, what are we doing to the kids.

No wonder people hate free speech , they would prefer to hear it only if they felt like it at the time.

See no evil, hear no evil, speak no evil..what a wonderful world we live in, as long as your are not one of the ‘accountables’…

Accountability is the new handshake and the spoken word a whisper….

Sitting in the Smoko room with a woman colleague, I mentioned a bit about a news item I had seen the evening before. She had no comment except to say “I do not really like to watch the news, just brings me down”… I am finding that people all around me do not want to hear of the ‘bad’ things, they dont want to be accountable, by opinion, even by thought.

Now I am self employed again, have been most of my working life and I am accountable for what I do….. In my industry accountability has stepped up a knotch and made me tick so many , many, boxes..many arses covered..all this work I do to make me more accountable, if I need to be shown to be.
However some people are far more ‘accountable’ than others any their accountability keeps them on their toes.
Business is accountable, workers are accountable, fathers are accountable. We all pay to be accountable

Children are not accountable, Solo Mothers are not accountable, Victims of anything are not accountable, beneficiares are not accountable, even justice is not accountable, unless something goes wrong.

I guess some of my point here is that when you are talking about the areas of making money and making cogs turn , this is the area where by you are accountable.
However in the area whereby you are either looked after by government, work for government or assist both of these categories, you are not accountable, unless something goes wrong.

So as a society we penalise the people who work to make money by making them pay to be accountable and in turn we get to support the unaccountable ones??

This article highlights problems in the way our media and feminist groups approach family violence. (more…)