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Fri 20th January 2023

Jacinda Quits

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 10:45 am

Jacinda Ardern is quitting as New Zealand prime minister ahead of this year’s election saying she no longer has “enough in the tank” to lead.

If you don’t have anything nice to say, best to say nothing at all – what your mother would say?

Frankly,

I can find very little to say about Ardern that wouldn’t be classed as misogynist bile by feminists. I’m not unhappy about earning that label. (more…)

Mon 9th January 2023

To be or Not to Be

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 11:44 am

To Be or Not to Be

The story of Hamelet as told by Shakespeare.

Follow the above link.

Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

What The Heart Of The Young Man Said To The Psalmist.

Tell me not, in mournful numbers,
Life is but an empty dream!
For the soul is dead that slumbers,
And things are not what they seem.

Life is real! Life is earnest!
And the grave is not its goal;
Dust thou art, to dust returnest,
Was not spoken of the soul.

Not enjoyment, and not sorrow,
Is our destined end or way;
But to act, that each to-morrow
Find us farther than to-day.

Art is long, and Time is fleeting,
And our hearts, though stout and brave,
Still, like muffled drums, are beating
Funeral marches to the grave.

In the world’s broad field of battle,
In the bivouac of Life,
Be not like dumb, driven cattle!
Be a hero in the strife!

Trust no Future, howe’er pleasant!
Let the dead Past bury its dead!
Act,— act in the living Present!
Heart within, and God o’erhead!

Lives of great men all remind us
We can make our lives sublime,
And, departing, leave behind us
Footprints on the sands of time;

Footprints, that perhaps another,
Sailing o’er life’s solemn main,
A forlorn and shipwrecked brother,
Seeing, shall take heart again.

Let us, then, be up and doing,
With a heart for any fate;
Still achieving, still pursuing,
Learn to labor and to wait.

Sun 25th December 2022

Power and Control

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 7:37 pm

A century before Duluth.

Sun 18th December 2022

Survival Guide

Filed under: Law & Courts — Downunder @ 9:21 am

FamilyCourtSurvivalGuide

I haven’t read the book.

Description Courtesy of Whitcoulls:

Dealing with a relationship breakdown, custody dispute or other family or whanau crisis can be an overwhelming, emotional and stressful experience. The last thing you need is to be thrust into the unfamiliar territory of the family court system without a clue about how to navigate it. The New Zealand Family Court Survival Guide explains all your options when you need to make changes to your family situation and helps you to avoid unnecessary expense and upset. Drawing from her own experiences in the family court system, author Katrina Smithson offers easy-to-follow advice on how to navigate a separation that is fair and respectful to all parties, with a strong focus on children and how best to assist them in what can be a tough and confusing time. Heading into court proceedings with the right information is critical. The New Zealand Family Court Survival Guide is the only resource you need to manage this difficult time in the best way possible.

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Wed 23rd November 2022

SUPERVISED CONTACT IS STATE-IMPOSED PARENTAL ALIENATION. Supervisor agency says 80% of fathers simply don’t need supervised access.

Filed under: General — Lukenz @ 10:06 am

Bettina talks with lawyer Michael Jose about our shameful supervised contact services whereas the family law system conspires with a malicious mother to teach the children that their father is dangerous. That the children might be hurt if that supervisor is not there to protect them.

Michael Jose says

I think it’s one of the key issues of the family court jurisdiction is the fact that it is rife with false or exaggerated allegations, and they’re simply not addressing them. So it becomes a bit of a rort.

The entire jurisdiction is destroyed from its original intentions because of how frequently false allegations are used, what impact they have and how there’s simply no ramifications for using them.

So one of the most common flows from that of course is there’s many different mechanisms of triggered by false allegations, but one of them is of course, the application of supervised access. And as we talked about, if it’s applied in the context of a low level or false allegation, in relation to domestic violence that doesn’t even concern the kids.

You might have a fabulous committed, hands on father that went from 24/7 access and independent care of his kids, suddenly, having lost that, and that can be lost for years and may never really be re-established in the same way it was when the relationship was on foot. And in the interim, supervised access is going to be applied.

Now one of the agencies that I spoke to over the years said that they reckon up to 80% of fathers that are on their books, getting supervised access, simply don’t need supervised access. It is considered to be another one of the processes in transition for them getting back or trying to get back meaningful access.

Now, don’t underestimate the application of the system that’s designed to protect the victims and to address risk when it’s applied incorrectly. And more often than not by abuser against the good parent, more often than not the father. That is in itself abuse, that system abuse in advance, and it’s incredibly harmful. So if you’ve got a great father that’s doing supervised access, they are getting harmed by that just as much as the kids are.

So it all adds up to overnight, that profoundly deep paternal relationship can be gone in a blink of an eye. It can be a fight tooth and nail for sometimes years. And then of course when those years pass, and everything that has happened still can be used against the father. It never goes back to where it was and never re-establish a meaningful relationship again.

Fri 11th November 2022

The Rugby World Cup

Filed under: General — Ministry of Men's Affairs @ 9:54 am

Radio NZ and other mainstream media are referring to ‘The Rugby World Cup’ final being held this weekend. Actually, it’s the Women’s Rugby World Cup, but that qualification is now deliberately avoided to try to elevate the significance of this tournament as equal to or greater than the established Rugby World Cup. (more…)

Mon 24th October 2022

Parental Rights vs Presumed Best Interests of the Child

Filed under: General — Ministry of Men's Affairs @ 10:59 am

A couple of current news stories deserve comment.

Firstly, this story tells of a Family Court judge who decided it was in the best interests of the child to order in favour of mummy’s preference to send a 5-year-old daughter to a school closer to mummy’s place even though her siblings all went to a different school closer to the father’s place and where he wanted her to attend. (more…)

Sun 16th October 2022

Dame Bettina Arndt interviewed.

Filed under: General — Lukenz @ 5:51 pm

Dame Bettina Arndt at her best.

Government reveals changes from 2018 Family Court review will take up to 10 years.

Filed under: General — Lukenz @ 2:14 pm

In 2019 a Government report prompted change to the family court system. Andrew Little said “There are incredible delays in the family court and particularly where children are concerned, that’s not fair. The children can’t sit around for 12 months waiting for their parents to sort out their issues, that’s too longer period of time for a child.”

Today in the news, I note on a lazy Sunday afternoon. RNZ reports,

The Ministry of Justice said it is implementing recommendations from an independent review in 2019 but “transformation of family justice is a five to ten year project”.

News Link 16 October 2022 Here

I suspect Andrew Little, a long term senior cabinet minister, will say “that is an issue for the current minister of justice.”

Other links here.

5 April 2018 Link here

Justice Minister Andrew Little tells us government already knows what the problems are. Link

Thu 13th October 2022

Tough love dad arrested and charged.

Filed under: General — Lukenz @ 3:42 pm

Out of control child disciplined by dad. Child calls separated mum – mum tells child to call police. See video to find out what happen next.

Tue 11th October 2022

Domestic Violence – All women must be believed.

Filed under: General — Lukenz @ 11:52 pm

In NSW Australia.

* Husband has doubts about his wife sincerity wants. Consults a lawyer.

* Husband comes home to find his home wrecked.

* His wife said to him, “you think you are smart, and you are talking to lawyers about me. Now see what i can do to you”

* Wife runs to the lift and smashes herself in her face with her own fist.

* Wife runs into the street. Police are called and she lays a complaint.

* Husband is charged and arrested. Faces 7 years in prison.

* While husband is arrested, Australian police help wife steal his belongings.

* Husband spends AU$20,000 on a lawyer. He trawls through 20 hours of CCTV and found the footage from the lift.

* NSW police drop the charges against the husband, but never charge his wife with making a false complaint. Which also carries a sentence of 7 years in prison.

Debunking Shaken Baby Syndrome

Filed under: Domestic Violence,General,Sex Abuse / CYF — JohnPotter @ 2:27 pm

Since the 1980s, thousands of parents whose children have died have been charged with murder because a doctor testifies that they have violently shaken their baby. These “expert witnesses” would demonstrate in court by vigorously shaking a doll.

In 1986 Dr John Plunkett was one of the first to question the validity this syndrome.

a contradiction dawned on him: that while low-level falls involving contact with an unyielding surface were believed to be devoid of lethal potential, shaking a brain within a skull with no broken neck below it, was believed to be fatal, despite no skull contact with any surface.

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Sun 9th October 2022

Jordan Peterson – Says young men are alienated.

Filed under: General — Lukenz @ 2:37 pm

Jordan talks about how young men are demoralised with casual insults from women.

When asked to explain why he supports men he becomes emotionally upset and said the now marginalised, alienated young men should have a voice and women are opposed to that.

Fri 7th October 2022

Peter Ellis – NOT GUILTY – Psychiatrist Karen Zelas Mislead Court.

Filed under: General — Lukenz @ 2:44 pm

News Link Here

Postcast here

30 Years of court battles. Why so long?

Who is answerable to Peter Ellis injustice?

Judge blames psychiatrist Karen Zelas

* The Supreme Court has ruled convictions on sex charges against Peter Ellis were based on a miscarriage of justice.

* Ellis was not alive to hear the rulings. He died of bladder cancer in September 2019.

* The court slammed the evidence of “critical” Crown expert witness psychiatrist Karen Zelas as unbalanced and misleading.

* It said parental questioning of the child complainants raised the risk of the children’s evidence being contaminated which was unappreciated at the time.

The Supreme Court says,

“If the jury had been correctly informed of the level of risk, that may have created a reasonable doubt about the allegations made, at least in relation to some of the complainants. As the evidence of the complainants was mutually supportive, the undermining of some of the verdicts necessarily calls into question all the verdicts.”

Fri 30th September 2022

Lee Smith

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 10:05 pm

Matt King finished the evening by bringing the speakers together for a Q and A session. Smith was asked for her thoughts on Education and advocated for greater parental involvement, back to basics on numeracy and literacy, and better trades training for the boys.

Full details available https://bcbnzblogcomponent.wordpress.com/2022/09/30/dnz-lee-smith/

Sat 24th September 2022

The war on men – Could it be its all about the reduction of men on the planet? The reduction of waste?

Filed under: General — Lukenz @ 7:29 am

Ever thought if some of the laws we in the west have to abide with are unreasonable? Is there something not right about that?

Clear examples of this are here.

– If a woman moves into your home after 3 years or less if she has a child, she owns half of what you spent a lifetime building up. Including the stuff in that home. Yes it happens to women too but far less frequently.

– If a woman decides to make an allegation of a sexual nature, does the investigation process alone have the ability to destroy your wellbeing, your place in the community. If such allegations make it to court, almost all (87%) will be found not guilty. Most often a man’s name is published. Is this unreasonable? Does this have the potential to cause a male suicide?

– If your female partner decides its over, she can and will destroy your relationship with your children to get living rights in the property you own with her new man, tax deduction from your income, penalties on penalties. Take years to resolve? Is that unreasonable? The taking away of a loving dads rights to communicate with his child. Does this have the potential to cause a male suicide?

– The level of suicides by males not being address by government. Clearly encouraged and accelerated by the family court.

– The white ribbon slogan “Prevention of violence against women”. Men are excluded because it is thought they can only ever be considered the perpetrators. Does this have the potential to cause a male suicide?

– Ministry for women, but no ministry for men.

– Throughout the world factual evidence with video, photos in family law courts from fathers are ignored while allegations without any evidence are accepted. Does this have the potential to cause a male suicide?

– To lock men up in prisons for decades so they can’t pollute the planet, consuming, driving cars, having children and consuming its resources. Does this have the potential to cause a male suicide?

– Serious crimes women commits are treated, handled differently than mens crimes? Example link here

This is not an extensive list. You can probably think of many more yourself. They are all designed to destroy men’s wealth, future income, their child’s relationship, take on an unfair burden of the tax liability to run the state, limit their options in life with allegations, regardless of the verdict end.

Oddly enough, these laws are mirrored throughout the western world. A world where politicians come and go. But there is one group of people who remain in power with full ownership and control of the media, the banks, the drug companies, the internet and your privacy, the things we buy. They own the lot. They control it.

Could it be all about reducing the planet’s population? To reduce the waste and save our planet? Forcing men to not have children because the personal cost and risk is too high.

Take a peek at the largest dumps in the world. The last one, its location in this clip may surprise you.

Tue 13th September 2022

NZ Rugby penalised $280,000 for not placing 40% woman on its board

Filed under: General — Lukenz @ 11:50 pm

NEWS LINK HERE – NZ penalised $280,000 for not reaching gender diversity targets on its board

NZ government mandated 40% women on boards quota by December 2021.

You know, there is a lot of laws being passed by Ardern I do not agree with.

How about just choosing the best person for the job?

If it were me, I’d just carry on and say stick ya money where the sun don’t shine.

Sat 10th September 2022

The Return Of The King(s)

Filed under: General — Lukenz @ 7:58 am

News Link Here

For the first time in 70 years a man is the Sovereign of this nation. After him another man, and another man after that.

PM Ardern wants to be the source of all power by becoming a republic. She wants her face stamped on bank notes and coins. For a women that has done so much harm to the nation and its people, I do not want to carry around her mugshot in my wallet. In my view her mismanagement of the economy, social, law has been unprecedented. I give Ardern a rating of unqualified. Some say even criminal and with the evidence I agree.

The Sovereign and the Governor General does have the power to dissolve this Government. Another power Ardern and her like wants to remove from the people of New Zealand. It happened in Australia in 1975.

Ardern sits on her arse saying “Be Kind” ignoring the plight of men, fathers and families. Not even a man who commits suicide on her doorstep is enough to persuade her to legislate relief and support for our gender.

Today I am going to coin a new phrase that more accurately describes Ardern “Be a bitch to men and watch them and their children suffer”.

Thats right Arden – The now grown children hate the life and poverty you forced upon them.

12 months from now, you and your like are going to cast out for your incompetence, bulling of your own MP’s, buying the media with our tax dollars, misleading and hatred of men and their families and a whole host of other crap you have dished out to us.

Ardens legacy will be the worse ever PM this nation has ever had.

Thu 8th September 2022

Barry Soper

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 3:19 pm

Congratulations?

We can say that as it wasn’t an accident, and old Bazza seems pretty chuffed with himself.

Just to allay any concerns, he is married and wife Heather is only half his age.

Barry is better known for (more…)

A Rising Rage

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 9:03 am

Regeneration rather than the next generation. The next generation is in a state of turmoil, and various forms of political rage.

This particular outrage was attached to a tweet from Chris Luxon (Not a political broadcast) I can understand his concerns about education though, when you see this out of the mouths of the next generation of Pacifica.

They’ve been (more…)

Wed 7th September 2022

In the case of Brett Power

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 9:01 am

https://www.facebook.com/1691597813/posts/pfbid0Jh3EaRpaWdtwzWcKp8y9AuSRMUR3EuTMaqLKVCDErhNc1ooF8c5YoA7XHWEjPHTEl/
Link

Court Case: Hawea 23rd of September. At least he’s getting quick access to justice. Not guilty trial in the same month.

Sun 4th September 2022

Dad Joke Day

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 11:17 am

    Dad Jokes

    Hit us with your best “Dad Joke”

Sat 3rd September 2022

Father And Son – Flight of the Conchords

Filed under: General — JohnPotter @ 7:36 pm

Trigger Warning: the lyrics of this song may cause distress to a father in the throes of a traumatic separation.

But it is also very funny, so I hope it will give some of you a laugh on Father’s Day. (more…)

Fri 2nd September 2022

Jordan Peterson is coming to NZ in November 2022

Filed under: General — Lukenz @ 12:16 pm

Jordan Peterson is coming to New Zealand in November 2022.

If you attend, you will be in good company as the person sitting next to you is likely to think the same as you.

Nov. 17th 2022 – Christchurch, NZ | Christchurch Town Hall
Nov. 19th 2022- Auckland, NZ | Spark Arena
Nov. 21st 2022- Wellington, NZ | Michael Fowler Centre

Tickets start at NZ$89.00

To book, click the following link.

Events

More about the Professor here

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jordan_Peterson

Wed 31st August 2022

The Importance Of Fathers

Filed under: General — Lukenz @ 8:40 pm

US Statistics

75% Of long term correctional facilities inmates are from father absent households
90% Of all homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes.

Children from fatherless homes are;

120% Greater risk of being endangered by some type of child abuse.
4.6x More likely to commit suicide
10.8x More likely to commit rape
15.5x More likely to end up in prison

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