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Tue 14th May 2019

Getting to know you…

Filed under: General — mama @ 10:56 am

It is difficult to get to know or getting to like a stranger who initially you thought you had something in common with.
This site is all inviting, but can be very harsh on character, it is easy to find yourself on the outer, but I have seen forgiveness and lightheartedness amongst the anger, frustration and fear and sadness that comes here too.

It is kinda like peoples from different abandoned towns meeting up, initially liking the company but then retreating to a lonely independence, a shadow of the independence you had before in your community which is now abandoned, you want what you had before and not some kind of replacement therapy.

I guess you have to ask yourself the question, can you continue to live alone, do you want to make a change or build new relationships???
Changing ourselves is so hard, but maybe if we help others to take small steps to better their lives in doing this we can help change our own for the better.

Sun 12th May 2019

The online Petition to Jacinda asking for a MINISTRY FOR MEN

Hi ALL…there is an online PETITION [on the NZ Parliament website and currently open until 31/12/2019] asking the government to fund a MINISTRY FOR MEN as a means to better address ‘Mens Issues’ and the many negative outcomes affecting MEN, their families and society as a whole.

There has been a women’s ministry since 1984 that has provided targeted research, advocacy and advice across government agencies and to politicians regarding women’s issues, and it’s achievements have been impressive. There is still, however, no such ministry advocating for men even though men have poorer health outcomes and die earlier, men’s suicide rates are 2.7 times than that for women, they have much higher homelessness rates, are more likely to use violence and engage in hazardous drinking, etc causing a whole raft of negative outcomes.

Is this FAIR —–>

    Extract from the NZ Medical Journal – 6th October 2017, Volume 130 Number 1463

To map the contemporary literature and explore whether the available research meets the needs of men’s health….results of the literature search showed a striking need for research on men’s health issues in which the risks are modifiable. For heart disease, stroke, and to a lesser degree of modifiable lifestyle change, cancer, studies of women’s health outnumbers men’s health by two to one…A further search was made of Health Research Council funding since 2010…reviewed titles and abstracts of all successful applications to identify sex-specific funding. The search revealed that for every $1 spent exclusively on women’s health research, men’s health research received $0.06.

No wonder so many men feel disengaged from the political process, excluded from having a voice and marginalised. Sadly some men resort to extreme violence in response to increasing frustrations with the system.

If you are interested in taking a look at THE BLOG for more information and/or the PETITION itself then here are some links.:

Blog about Ministry4Men
The Petition 
Follow Us on Twitter

Please share the links and ASK YOUR MP why there is no Ministry For Men. Don’t let this fizzle-out and die, support and Follow Us on Twitter!

Mon 29th April 2019

Law In A Nutshell LIAN course

Filed under: Events,Law & Courts — MurrayBacon @ 1:44 pm

Message from The Mangere Community Law Centre who are inviting you to register for the Law In A Nutshell (LIAN) programme.

Spaces are limited so please register.
You are more than welcome to attend the sessions that are relevant to your line of work.

This is a basic introduction to law. This programme is designed to help people understand their legal rights.

Fri 26th April 2019

Need a Good Lawyer in Palmie

Filed under: General — palmie @ 11:00 am

Hi All
I would like recommendations for a good cost effective lawyer for Family Court in Palmerston North as current lawyer not delivering except to keep charging large bills Thx

Thu 25th April 2019

A New Anger.

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 12:31 pm

Times, they are a changing.

It’s nothing knew. The vandal of peace, progress, harmony and the habitual human. The symptom is written in history, and back further more than likely in the lost echoes of older stories.

The twentieth year of the new century … The first century of the new millennium, the century of the Chinese, as it has already been dubbed, the obvious and predictable future. Perhaps that is simply redictable, in the inevitable power vacuum of a failing West – we’ve seen it before.

And here we sit on Anzac Day 2019. In a state!

Is that a state of change or simply a temporary disruption?

A hundred years post VE Day (Victory in Europe) and what is the biggest change you see, if you see one, if that’s even on your ever-frustrated busy radar of daily events? There’s thousands of answers to that question, spread amongst our individual freedom, something we shouldn’t take for granted along with our ability to express the same.

Rapid change appears to have a habit of ending in disaster. That, I think is sometimes what we see in history; the visible causes not the hidden reasons.

So, here’s one contemporary change that maybe worth thinking on. (more…)

Fri 19th April 2019

Deja Vu Bitch

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 10:53 am

New Zealand is a small place and most of us know somebody who knows someone else who knows one of your relatives.

For us here we are more likely to know many people who got screwed over by the Family Court, or the ex and her lawyer and your lawyer deciding what was best for your money or your children.

Men have been increasingly on the end of this flea-bag rort since last century or at least 1999, and I don’t think we’re hard to spot. Is it the hunted dog look you leave the fight with that haunts your existence into a new hope … the prospect of a better future?

Does that leave us vulnerable?

Is there a certain (more…)

Sun 14th April 2019

Sign the petition – Inciting Violence against anyone is NOT OK !

Filed under: General — Jay Zane @ 9:17 pm

This petition is not against her speaking! She can speak whatever she wants but inciting violence is NOT ok and is not a joke.

Also, feel free to email the minister of immigration Iain Galloway at this email supporting the online petition against Clementine Ford Entry to New Zealand.

Petition link

Tue 9th April 2019

Parental Dispute Workshop

Filed under: General — mama @ 1:22 pm

Facilitated by Frank Hicks, Self Litigant and Parental Disputes Coach and Cheryl Simpson, Senior Associate Lawyer.

WORKSHOP: Rangitoto #04SLNG
DATE: Saturday 13 April 2019
TIME: 9:00 am to 3:00 pm
ADDRESS: 2 Osterley Way, Manukau, Auckland
VENUE: Ngahere Commumities
CONTACT: for registration form
COST: Admission by Koha

Light refreshments provided for Morning and Afternoon Tea.
Pay and Display parking across from Venue.

Sun 7th April 2019

ANZAC 2019

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 11:08 am

We are increasingly seeing the banner of ANZAC under attack. A subject that’s been raised here several times over recent years, particularly with the 100 year commemorative events being held during 2014 – 2018.

It wasn’t our war. For hundreds of years following the collapse of Rome, wars raged in Europe. Backed by religion, land disputes, historical grievance, and economic disparity; giving rise internationally to hundreds of books, that tried to predict the outcome of that impending and inevitable conflict. Then when the spark ignited that volitile mix, allegiances were formed adding in a new factor; the transition of naval power from wind to combustion engines and oil supplies.

We entered this war by virtue of our relationship (more…)

Thu 4th April 2019


Filed under: General — mama @ 11:25 am

I have often heard New Zealanders described as Humble, Friendly, not too Outspoken, aparantly this country suffers the ‘tall poppy’ syndrome…I dare say the psych of us is changing, evolving.

We tend not to laud one another,,until some one dies, then we can be all too all over them.

Today on the radio news, the Child’s Commissioner has come out and said there are other ways, other than Police pursuits, to track down certain drivers, often after they fail to stop.
As a Mum of a Son that once was a teenager behind the wheel I shudder every time one of these pursuits end tragically. When our Son achieved his drivers license he was the only one to do so in his peer group, he carraiged his friends around the place, he was often stopped by the police because he was carrying passengers or because of his youth and they were always surprised by his full license. I have never asked him but such harrassment could easily have lead him to the decision not to stop, leading to the chase.

I just really wanted to THANK the Child Commissioner on his stance, we need common sense to be prevailing some where out there, out there where it seems increasingly the voice of the people, common sense, patriotism and humanity is not the common word.

Tue 2nd April 2019

NZ Domestic Violence Dialogue

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 10:10 am

It is an obsession.

What else can you call it?

We’re in the grips of obsession.

Here’s an extract from the previous post Crusade For Free Speech

Cowie, who wrote a fictionalised account about his bitter custody dispute with his former wife, says he received no reply to his submission, despite indicating he wanted to make a personal appearance.

Jackson, whose submission quoted Cowie’s self-published Separated with Children, said he was told to excise any reference to Cowie or his submission would be refused.

If you’re following the news this week you will know (more…)

Sun 31st March 2019

Crusade for Free Speech

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 10:41 am

There are many battle fronts when it comes to free speech and the lenses through which it is viewed can be as blinding as they are illuminating. (And I’m sick of losing the updates so I will publish this post then finish it.)

In the view of this website it is often seen in the shadow of the Family Court and its surrounding agencies. Up until now the underlying cause of our concern has often been the biased, blinded, and blood-minded defence of anything female by Feminists but presently we are seeing that battle widen into the ideological arena of identity politics – another issue to be addressed.

I note a recent post on the death of (more…)

Sat 30th March 2019

R.I.P. Craig Jackson

Filed under: General — Ministry of Men's Affairs @ 10:34 pm

We have removed our obituary for Craig due to gross disrespect from a contributor here. Disgusting and upsetting.

Thu 28th March 2019

The Generation Gap

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 10:42 am

We get bombarded by these little digital snapshots of life.

Many of them have spelling mistakes, obviously unintended double meanings in different cultures, if not subtle political messages drilled into them.

Like me, you have probably had enough of these little messages in a square … but some of them can be quite funny, too.

It occurs to me, that we have seen this style of communication in history.

Amongst the political confusion of any age there is undercurrent of social dialogue, such as nursery rhymes, which are very politically charged verses if you relate them to the time frame of their origins.

Then, (more…)

Sun 24th March 2019

Youth Suicide in New Zealand

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 12:07 pm

Youth suicide became a dirty word on this site when the country’s political element decided to use these tragedies to deflect attention from the 50 or so casualties each month who are mostly adult men. That was following their attempts to belittle male deaths by turning attention to female attempts or threats of suicide or self-harm.

This on-going battle for recognition of male suicide and it’s long history is briefly discussed in a previous post The Suicide Debate when the death of Greg Boyed disturbed the delicate peace of our political and media manipulation.

Like any dishonesty you never know when the light is going to shine in a dark hole and I am sure I’m not the only one who has been asking themselves where does this go from here?

I’m sure every mother has asked the question; (more…)

Sat 23rd March 2019

Petition against the feminist author Clementine Ford

Filed under: General — Jay Zane @ 3:49 pm

I am sure many here know her very well. Clementine Ford

Petition link here

Please sign and share …. it will take only seconds. 300 signatures were done overnight.

Tue 19th March 2019


Filed under: General — Downunder @ 12:09 pm

In a previous post CGTOW that post considers a point of view that I assume the majority of readers would relate to.

If that was one end of the piece string what would be at the other. I’m not sure myself, so I’m going to pull out a slice of creative writing as starting point.

The other day I read an article (more…)

Sun 17th March 2019

The Christchurch Mosque Massacre and Gun Laws

Filed under: General,Law & Courts — Ministry of Men's Affairs @ 12:28 pm

Some comment is deserved following the horrific Christchurch attack last Friday. Our deep sorrow and sympathy go out to those injured, the families of those killed and all others traumatized in ripple effect. (more…)

Fri 15th March 2019


Filed under: Events,General,Law & Courts — mama @ 12:56 pm

Facilitated by Frank Hicks, Self Litigant and Parental Disputes Coach and Cheryl Simpson, Senior Associate Lawyer.

WORKSHOP: Rangitoto #04SLNG
DATE: Saturday 13 April 2019
TIME: 9:00 am to 3:00 pm
ADDRESS: 2 Osterley Way, Manukau, Auckland
VENUE: Ngahere Commumities
CONTACT: for registration form
COST: Admission by Koha

Light refreshments provided for Morning and Afternoon Tea.
Pay and Display parking across from Venue.

Men and Climate Change

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 10:34 am

The news is too distressing today, and it’s Friday.

And then I saw this, in relation to our ‘children’s climate change protest’:

John McLeod



Maybe it’s time 16 yr olds got the vote. They are informed and it’s their future. We haven’t done that well.

The merchant of doom.

‘We’ … us men? The collective civilization of the world?

Who is it exactly, (more…)

Thu 14th March 2019


Filed under: General — Downunder @ 11:22 am

This recent post MGTOW is a review of Men Going Their Own Way and how that might be now in New Zealand. The acronym only matters to those that write about the subject or those that relate to it. I’m creating a new acronym here but I’ll get to that shortly.

First let’s go back to the time when baby-boomers were of an age to start a family. It was a time of change when some women rather than leaving their career to care for a household and family were looking at other options. It was the age of the nuclear family. Mum, Dad, and two kids. (When our survival rate was considered to be 2.3 children)

It was the age of the totally planned lifestyle. These are your options for this. House ownership, life assurance, retirement funds, most of which was still done on a face to face basis. A lot has changed, and much like MGTOW, only those that relate to the change might write about this.

It was a chance encounter that made me consider this (more…)

Wed 13th March 2019

The Death of Feminism

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 12:00 pm

Feminism does not like being confronted by facts or reality. Objectivity and truth, without debating the specifics are the realm of progress and unfortunately justice when things don’t go quite right … we’re not perfect.

Recently however there’s been a bit of chaos around the place.

This mish-mash of Intersectional Feminism and Identity Politics has caused confusion amongst their ranks. They’re arguing over the ideological meaning of their own ism. This is good, as a great number of women from different perspectives are shaking their heads and objecting to the profound stupidity. I don’t know about you, but I was more than a little amused by the idea of becoming competent in this stupity in order to defeat it.

I’m not surprised (more…)

Tue 12th March 2019

Bunny-Boilers Built by the Family Court

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 11:14 am

It was shortly after separation and free counselling was available through the Family Court in those days. Up to six free sessions but this is at end of last century, so, what happens now – I’m not up to date with the latest on what’s available.

The counsellors were a couple, running their own independent business. I met him, a quiet fellow, marginally older, and he owned that professional aloofness that they hide behind, but with the acumen of a plate glass window. (Slightly (more…)

Hygiene In Public

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 3:08 am

I walked into the toilets and there was this old guy washing his dick in the handbasin.

It had been mentioned to me a couple of days before that there was an old guy using the toilets as his washroom but I didn’t click that it was the tidy old man that pulled up in his tidy little car and headed to the toilets with a fluffy white bundle.

His little (more…)

Mon 11th March 2019

Dad Jokes

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 1:36 pm

I was reminded of this today when a guy told me a joke.

Jamaica $2.30
Babados $2.40
St Kitts $2.50

Naturally I had to ask, what’s this about?

“The (more…)

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