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History dictates that when civilization falls apart older men marry younger women.
We see that in biblical history and in the history of Rome.
In the current age I’ve recently seen adds saying Asian women like older men.
What’s that about?
If you’re currently in the dating game, how’s it going for you?
Justice-Minister, Kris Faafoi is in the firing line with parents rights groups over the latest invasion of the family by state legislation.
Family First NZ says that if parents aren’t concerned about the conversion therapy bill introduced by the Government today, all they need to do is listen to the Minister of Justice explain the effect of the bill, and parents will quickly become very fearful.
I’ve written an open letter to the Human Rights Commission asking for them to explicitly protect men’s human rights. It’s rather long. You can read it here: genderbalancing.wordpress.com/2021/05/20/open-letter-to-the-new-zealand-human-rights-commission/
No response so far.
It does not matter if it was a can of petrol or a gun. Angela Surtees executed this man.
The sentence is still not released, but I suspect it will just be time already served.
What I found interesting is 2 links on the first news story to Mens help lines.
One is Mens referral service and the other Mensline. Are we entering a new era?
In the rise and fall of civilisations, and there have been many over the last 12,000 years, there is a screed of comparable information against which we can judge our current environment.
In the sense of predicament though I think (more…)
Causes of mental health are not hard to come by. Neither are the perpetrators who cause it.
The following link has PM Jacinda Ardern claiming if there were simple fixes, she would do them.
Prime Minister Jacinda Ardern claiming if there were simple fixes, she would do them
Perhaps anyone reading this could email the PM’s office and ask her for comment.
NZ YouTuber takes a look at the heated debate around the validity of repressed and recovered memories. Includes rare footage of training videos teaching therapists to uncover Satanic cult abuse.
There is a misconception women are more heartbroken after divorce than men. The truth is the complete opposite.
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“Emotionally, it was horrible. I lost not only my wife, I lost my lover, my best friend, my teammate, and my ‘family.’ To me, divorce just was never an option, until it happened. I felt lost. I had lost the one person who I felt I was allowed to confide in.”
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Father Jailed for 2 Years for Texting Son – Link
Robert aged 55 said to his son. “The problems we have, and the trouble you are causing, will take its toll on you and the family … you are only making things worse.” (more…)
“An Acceptance of Failure”
That is often how the comment reads. It doesn’t matter what the post was about, there is a embodied response that suggests the situation is terminal – like it was the last thing you read before the plane crashed on take off – done often enough though it is a habitual response for some people and self-imposed negativity that one imagines is difficult to escape from.
Even though it’s a different (more…)
Sounds far more reasonable than battered woman syndrome.
A man on trial for killing his wife during their belated honeymoon in Te Anau said he snapped and he just wanted her to be quiet.
Rodney Stuart Fallowfield admitted the killing, but said (more…)
Bettina Arndt’s latest newsletter reports on a presentation by prominent Sydney barrister Margaret Cunneen. She was speaking at The Presumption of Guilt Conference run by the Rule of Law Education Centre in Australia.
Her online presentation focussed on the impact of the new sexual consent laws that Attorney General Mark Speakman aims to ram through NSW Parliament. Speakman appointed the NSW Law Reform Commission to examine proposed changes to these laws but then ignored their warnings about the injustice that could result and proudly announced he is giving the feminists what they want
Feminist academics have been lobbying for years for a ‘’yes means yes’’ affirmative consent model where enthusiastic consent must be given at every stage throughout the sexual encounter. Under the new laws an accused would have to prove to have taken active steps to ascertain consent throughout the sexual proceedings. And as Cunneen pointed out, this would render most of the sex most of us have as potentially illegal.
Criminal defence lawyer Samira Taghavi has published an article on The Daily Blog, outlining the concerns about the proposed Sexual Violence Bill felt by many in the legal profession. She writes:
Lawyer Samira Taghavi
Instead of respect for science, common sense and the presumption of innocence, we are in an unhappy age of Salem witch-trial-style hysteria that has now given us the Sexual Violence Bill. There are numerous very ugly consequences that will flow from the bill and while conviction and imprisonment on a false allegation is of course the worst outcome – and an outcome this bill will multiply – another collection of indignities has not received focus, being life as an accused person prior to and during the trial process. Indeed, even if acquitted, men can still expect to have survived their prosecutions at an often-crippling price.
Will Hate Speech Law Apply to Extreme Feminists Speech?
Tova O’Brien: Jacinda Ardern has misled the public and shut down debate on hate speech laws
I bet its doesn’t.
Identity is something I’ve mentioned before but I’m not sure we’ve had an in depth discussion about the subject on MENZ.
We’re not born with identity, it’s something that is given to us, but I’m referring to more than just how we are identified and more to the content of that identity, which is us, which is our ‘I’.
The acknowledgement and preservation of identity appears to be (more…)
In a lot of cases children who want to see dad, they will have their say. That being said, lets get down to the real world. The worlds most cunning animal is the human. To head the above scenario off, a woman need only alienate the child before lawyer for child gets to interview the child.
In my view, if a child has been alienated by one parent, the child need only repeat what they hear from that parent and the other parent won’t be seeing that child anytime soon. No prize for guessing which gender does the alienation.
Where is the legislation to outlaw and call alienation violence? (more…)
My wife (Professor Felicity Goodyear-Smith) had an article published today on The Daily Blog.
The post begins:
The Sexual Violence Bill, currently before Parliament, looks to increase convictions by effectively revoking the defendant’s right to silence, and prohibiting types of evidence tending to indicate innocence. As an academic, qualified forensic physician, and expert witness in sexual cases (for both sides), I am concerned by the rationale for this bill.
Read the rest here:
https://thedailyblog.co.nz/2021/06/21/guest-blog-professor-felicity-goodyear-smith-faulty-assumptions-underpin-sexual-violence-bill/
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=myAcW8h38nc&t=1048s
Greta Aurora makes a video to explain Infantilization. It is the approach or methodology where grown women act out and make others believe they should be treated as children. And the receiver of such a performance gets emotionally involved, believes it.
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I don’t care too much for the presenters’ mannerism. Perhaps it’s her way of getting up the courage to speak. But she did receive over half a million views, 8000 comments and 34,000 thumbs up.
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If you ever wondered how you came to live in a democracy?
It was not because people thought it was a good idea. It was not because you expected it. It had to be fought for.
War is not polite. It has rules yes. But those rules tend to be ignored by the aggressor when the bombs fall and bullets fly. I can assure you the defenders quickly learn to ignore those rules too.
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Mothers of Sons is a group of ordinary women whose sons have faced extraordinary ordeals in our unjust, anti-male legal systems and workplaces.
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White Ribbon funded by the Australian Government are shaming boys by making them apologise just for being male.
Mark Latham former MP says it leads to suicide.
This is a massive campaign and it must stop.
When you knowingly falsely accuse a man of rape, have the Government pay compensation to the man using my taxes to the tune of $333,000 but then continue to accuse him using privilege, – What sort of nonsense is that?
What happened to separation of powers?
Have you ever wondered why your child has lost contact with you? Why they might be behaving poorly towards you or not openly communicating as they did the week before?
Below is the 17 strategies used by narcissists to alienate the other parent.
It has been a real struggle to get the narrative to accept this form of child abuse.
How many can you tick off that has happened to you?
1. Badmouthing (Example: Constantly criticizing the character of the other parent in front of the children.)
2. Limiting Contact (Example: planning activities for the children during the other’s parent time.)
3. Interfering with Communication (Example: placing unnecessary restrictions and rules around phone calls with the other parent.)
4. Interfering with Symbolic Communication (Example: Getting rid of the child’s pictures of the other parent.)
5. Withdrawal of Love (Example: Subtly giving the child the message that if they love the other parent, they are less valuable.)
6. Telling Child Targeted Parent Does Not Love Him or Her (Example: “If your dad really loved you, he would have never done what he did.”)
7. Forcing Child to Choose (Example: “Are you going to be loyal to me or your mother?”)
8. Creating the Impression that the Targeted Parent is Dangerous (Example: Packing pepper spray in the child’s bag on a visit to the other parent and teaching them to use it “in case the other parent tries anything.”)
9. Confiding in Child (Example: Telling the child all the details of your ex’s affair.)
10. Forcing Child to Reject Targeted Parent
11. Requesting Child to Spy on Targeted Parent
12. Asking Child to Keep Secrets from Targeted Parent
13. Calling the Targeted Parent by First Name
14. Referring to a Step parent as “Mom” or “Dad” and Encouraging Child to Do the Same
15. Withholding Medical, Academic, and Other Important Information from Targeted Parent/ Keeping Targeted Parent’s Name off of Medical, Academic, and Other Relevant Documents
16. Changing Child’s Name to Remove Association with Targeted Parent
17. Cultivating Dependency (Example: Making the child feel like they need to be with the parent to be OK. Or making the child feel like the parent needs them to be OK.)
Clause 8. Can’t present previous sexual experiences with the person who claims they were raped.
Clause 14. Defence to present a year before the trial.
As you may be aware it is the inconsistencies between statements that finds if she is not telling the truth. The complainant could get to discuss their answer with the police or whomever they want for a year before trial.
Bill of rights report gives the new law the approval. Bridges says no lawyer could give the new law that approval.
Bridges says many 100’s of innocent young men will be imprisoned.
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NZ teacher Peter Joyce’s settled life was disrupted when a woman he had never met accused him of historic rape. With a unique brand of angry humour, his diary plots the stages of his despair and traces his attempts to find justice in the face of the current insistence that we must “believe the victim”.
Dry Ice is a compelling memoir, but much more. The accusation made the writer a reluctant expert on similar cases from all over the world. He throws light on everything that limits public knowledge of false sexual allegations, from dangerous counselling to flawed statistics, and he exposes police investigation methods as blinkered, inefficient and insensitive.
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Peter Joyce writes a blog: www.blackstonesdrum.com
